Is finding a jizzy sock a big deal?

[HTKS]

Husband is a wonderful human, husband and father, generally speaking. We had an argument yesterday after he was irresponsible with the toddler, nothing massively major but i was pissed off. He apologised. Then this morning he forgot to leave me some money how owed me that I needed today. Bit annoyed.

Then on sorting out the washing today I found a sock that had been missed in the wash. Crusty jizz sock. Suddenly realised what those crusty socks I put in the wash each week were crusty with.

He’s apologised a lot. But after the events of yesterday this feels like a massive deal. I am fucking fuming that I have spent the day whizzing about facilitating his kids, taking his suit to be cleaned, doing his washing, he’s jizzing into socks and tossing them into the basket for me to deal with. Feel degraded and shit.

To clarify, I’ve no problem with wanking. Do plenty myself. And actually if I were in a different mood it might be quite funny. Not sure how to play it when he gets in.

Make sure he takes his turn doing the washing in future! Or ask him to take responsibility for his own washing.

Woah too much information. Especially at tea time.

Why can’t he use tissues and flush them like a normal person?

I have spent the day whizzing about facilitating his kids, taking his suit to be cleaned, doing his washing, he’s jizzing into socks and tossing them into the basket for me to deal with. Feel degraded and shit.

When you put it like this you are 100% not being unreasonable!! He needs to find another "method" what the fuck is appealing about putting your dick into a sock ffs!

How he treats you and sees you is a big deal which is clearly what is at play here

Ask him to sort his own washing, or use tissues.

Is he a young teenager because he’s behaving like one

I think the right thing to do would be to make a point of leaving his crusty jizz socks for him to wash himself. He'll probably be embarrassed and defensive if you bring it up. But I think as PP have said this is about more than jizz socks.

I thought this was going to be about a teenage ds...

Not ok to treat you like this. Read him the riot act about the socks and then make the broader point about how if he were treating the more considerately the rest of time you might have laughed it off but it is starting to feel like a pattern.

That's really revolting, he should at least wash it out in the sink rather than letting you deal with it!

I would not watch crusty socks if I already felt annoyed and undermined.

I'd make no big deal out of it; I'd just leave them in the basket or near the washing machine and wait for him to run out of socks. Washing someone else's wank sock would not be high on my list of things to do; especially if he was behaving like a wanker on a grander scale too.

YABU to link the money issue from today and the toddler issue from the weekend to the sock issue.

You say you like a wank too- assuming you put your underwear back on after, you may also make some mess on that item of underwear. No it isn’t full in jizz- but it still requires washing. A used sock also requires washing so he is the same as you really. If you’ve no issue with wanking you are being a bit unreasonable to have an issue with the receptacle into which he wanks. Tissues or toilet paper would actually cost you money. The sock doesn’t.

(It is a bit teen though)

GRIM. Why can’t he wash his own jizzy socks? Or wank into some tissues?!

Don’t do his washing until he wanks in the shower, uses tissues like a normal person. Let him know how degraded he’s made you feel.

It’s not really.... he is lovely and pulls
his weight. He’s not great at holding in his head the variety of things that have to be done at home like pack football kit, leave money out, get more milk etc, the emotional labour. But he takes care of lots of other things so I never have to worry about renewing insurance or anything, and he is very proactive around the house. I am quick to anger though and it takes a while to settle so my stomach is still in knots from yesterday. I feel like I can’t be bothered to speak to him when he gets in.

'A used sock also requires washing so he is the same as you really.'

Well no because he is expecting her to wash his, she's not expecting him to wash hers!

A sock? That's gross. Why doesn't he do it into the big end of a saxophone like any normal man?

Put them on his pillow. He could easily put his wanksock in the washing machine, but he chooses to leave it for you to do.

Gross.

I'd bin them all

I find that really revolting. YADNBU

@Goldenbug, don’t tell me I’ve got to check the saxophone now.....

Sorry about you crusty quandary OP but goldenbug "big end of a saxophone" has just stolen the internet for me today!! Laughing so hard!

So is he wanking while the sock is on his nob, or is he just using it to wipe up afterwards?

A long time ago I had an ex who used to do this. We never lived together. I found a Mountain of jizzy socks under his bed. He had millions of socks!

Hmm I'm not sure I could get flustered over this. We share the washing here and I throw my soiled reusable panty liners in the wash and they are reasonably grim. But my DH is a grown up who has dealt with nappies and vomit rather than a big baby