Is finding a jizzy sock a big deal?

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Husband is a wonderful human, husband and father, generally speaking. We had an argument yesterday after he was irresponsible with the toddler, nothing massively major but i was pissed off. He apologised. Then this morning he forgot to leave me some money how owed me that I needed today. Bit annoyed.

Then on sorting out the washing today I found a sock that had been missed in the wash. Crusty jizz sock. Suddenly realised what those crusty socks I put in the wash each week were crusty with.

He’s apologised a lot. But after the events of yesterday this feels like a massive deal. I am fucking fuming that I have spent the day whizzing about facilitating his kids, taking his suit to be cleaned, doing his washing, he’s jizzing into socks and tossing them into the basket for me to deal with. Feel degraded and shit.

To clarify, I’ve no problem with wanking. Do plenty myself. And actually if I were in a different mood it might be quite funny. Not sure how to play it when he gets in.

It's really grim if they washed with everything else(not aimed at op) , tell him to sort himself out in a different manner.

I hope you don't have children who might attempt to do the laundry or reach in to grab some clothes.

This is the moment for the MN advice I always read about leaving the crap your DH leaves lying around on his pillow.

It would piss me off!

I wouldn't wash them and put them back in his side of the bed...

Hmm I'm not sure I could get flustered over this. We share the washing here and I throw my soiled reusable panty liners in the wash and they are reasonably grim. But my DH is a grown up who has dealt with nappies and vomit rather than a big baby

Not really the same. Would you leave your vibrator out with the dishes for him to wash up as well?

Also why waste a sock that you then have to clean? Unless he is using a dirty sock which is properly grim.

Just put it in the bin.

Goldenbug

I'd just tell everyone what he was doing, like friends and family etc. He'd stop it then soon enough.

I am fucking fuming that I have spent the day whizzing about facilitating his kids, taking his suit to be cleaned, doing his washing, he’s jizzing into socks and tossing them into the basket for me to deal with. Feel degraded and shit

It's very teenage but, if he's an otherwise good guy, I seriously doubt he had any intention of degrading you. Presumably you wash his pants, which have jizz on them too, and he washes yours, which have vaginal secretions on? He probably didn't think it was any different.

Tell him to wank in the shower, in the future, like a normal husband. And bleach the saxophone as a precaution...

It's really grim if they washed with everything else

This is one of those wacky MN cleanliness standards usnt it?

Horrible.

That's grim. It would completely put me off someone.

Bit gross that he leaves it for you to sort. If he wants to do that then fine - but sort it out yourself!

I had an ex who would just do it on the bedsheets (that’s a sick face)

Isnt it called a "posh wank" or something.

I think the idea is that the sock is the right shape so men can have entertain themselves and then instead of having to clean up with tissues they just take the sock off and chick it in the laudery.

The pronlem is ecpecting op to clean up after him which is a bit erm gross. Maybe if hes going to relieve himself in thusxmanner ask him to clean his own jizzy socks

*by yourself I obviously mean himself! X

I love some of the clean freaks on here. Jizzy sock is a biohazard which should only be washed on a 90 wash with half a bottle of dettol.
Ok I exaggerate.

It's a bit teenage and the common sense thing would be tissues. Definitely speak yo him about his mess, but don't link that to other issues.

I once picked up a soggy sock I didn't recognise from our living room floor while teenage BIL was staying with us, sleeping on the sofa. When it dawned on me that I was touching a recently used jizz sock I honestly nearly vomited. DP uses tissues like a normal person. Is this not what boxes of 'man sized' tissues are for?! Buy him some after a stern word about how disrespectful making you deal with his crusty jizz socks is.

That's quite a strange thing to do isn't it? Men don't usually use their clothes for mopping up spunk do they? It seems deliberately conspicuous.

I'd burn all the soiled socks and just keep pairing up the odd ones that are left.

Ffs it all comes out in the wash. You could ask him to wash his own, and then maybe look at the reasons why you are both quick to anger and why you harbour a grudge even though he has apologised profusely

Not really the same. Would you leave your vibrator out with the dishes for him to wash up as well?

Ah! So this isn't about grossness or cleanliness at all but being mad at him for wanking?

They are a problem when you find them chucked in your garden - thanks to the teenager next door !

silkpyjamas
I once picked up a soggy sock I didn't recognise from our living room floor while teenage BIL was staying with us, sleeping on the sofa. When it dawned on me that I was touching a recently used jizz sock I honestly nearly vomited.
Noooooooooo!

Dirty pants on his pillow, every night, it's the only way he will learn.

We have a rule in our house and have had for years. Anyone that leaves dirty underwear on the bathroom floor gets it on their head the next morning.

It is a very effective rule, you need an equally grim response.

ShatnersBassoon
Your method definitely gets my vote