To stop sending my child to nursery cause they allow him outside

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here me out, I hope I'm not being PFB but I am so fed up with my child's nursery. Time and time again I've said he is not to be outside, but nobody listens! Each day he comes home caked in mud, all up his back, caked on his shoes, not wearing any gloves or a hat, some times not even wearing his wellies just his indoor shoes! Its Baltic. On Friday I went to collect him and they said he was outside making hot chocolate... with the mud he was rolling around like a pig in shit but he was covered from head to toe, in his hair, his ears, his back from when another kid through a mudball at him I don't know whether I'm overreacting though? Aibu!!

Notjustanyone, why aren't you reading the thread before you post?

He would come in if he hurt himself, or needed something"
They said this about your unsupervised toddler and you're still merrily leaving him there?

Sorry but your judgement as a parent is either severely lacking or this whole thread is nonsense.

Get that child and all in one waterproof suit. Ask nursery to put him in it when he goes out.

Then let him go for it. Rolling in mud, jumping in puddles and getting thoroughly filthy is one of childhoods great joys. And it's good for their immune systems.

Encourage it.

If he did refuse to change clothes or put on a waterproof coat, then they could refuse to let him out. Simple as that.

MissMarplesKnitting Please read the thread. The Op already has an all in one suit, the nursery are not putting this on her child.

It is an Ofsted requirement that children have access to outdoor provision. A lot of research suggests that in early years children (especially boys) learn better outside, of course this happens when provision is good and planning is suitable. The nursery should ensure he is dressed appropriately, indoor shoes are not suitable in a mud pit and if it is raining full waterproofs need to be on, a lot of nurseries provide these. From my experience lots of parents have issues with children being outdoors when its cold/rainy/snowy but they gain so much from it, seeing boys huddled in blankets outside with their firefighter hats on reading books, when they won't go anywhere near the book corner inside highlights just how important.

They said that orlande, as another pp said 'he would go in if he was cold' it's not hard to believe that's their attitude.
This is the nursery, I work in the hours he is there I need to leave him there

Marmie - it's a legal requirement that children are supervised! Though Ofsted doesn't apply here.

Outside play is hugely important. Scandinavian countries even have outdoor nurseries and it's much colder there. In fact they are so good that the movement is catching on in the UK and any decent early years provider will have a forest school / outdoors programme. Just make sure he's got decent waterproofs (dungarees and a separate coat are ideal), hat, gloves, wellies etc.

OP - I understand that you work, but you cannot leave your toddler unsupervised in inadequate provision.

He sounds like a great kid. Some just don't feel the cold as much! Mud is fine. If he's happy and safe he doesn't need adults with him. Relax OP.

You know what, on the basis there's been a drip feed of info, the OP clearly didn't give full information in the first post.

Which makes me suspicious.

All children should be supervised at all times, definitely don't disagree with that.

asked before why he's outside alone "oh he loves it, it allows us to have other 1-1 time with other children" "he is so well behaved he doesn't need a teacher out there" "He's the only one out there, tinkly laugh the others found it too cold" have been their responses

Missed this bit.
Definately complain. That is appalling and damm lazy. What do they think you are paying for?

www.careinspectorate.com/
You could contact them and ask for advice about how to aporoach thos with nursery.

How can anyone tell he's safe if the adults are all inside? They're relying on a 2 year old to come and find help if he gets hurt

I'm struggling to believe this to be honest.

Is this your first post?

I do agree that I have maybe missed the point. I understand messy play is healthy, but allowing him to be so dirty just doesn't sit right with me.
He won't be going In next week as I'm off work so I will right down my concerns and get them to the manager. I sort of just accepted what they say but it's the constant mud That's getting my back up

With kindness, YABU. Let him be a kid and get muddy.

My friend had a similar situation plus the nursery continually loosing stuff so she stopped using them and uses a childminder now - it's much better

Though he definitely shouldn't be outside on his own!

So have you spoken to the manager of the nursery formally. Email her your concern so it’s written and will be flagged if Ofsted visit. The worst thing is that it’s unsupervised. Great he’s in the mud but should be dressed in wellies hat gloves at least

And coat. Can the staff watch him from inside?

Op you can see thier report on the care inspectorate website.

The constant mud shouldn’t be your concern. The lack of supervision is the problem here. Don’t lead with complaining about the mud or you’ll be told YABU.

What I don’t understand though is you seem to think it’s the nurseries choice to send him outside so they can spend time with the others. Surely he chooses to go outside?

The Care Inspectorate are our early years equivalent in Scotland, because, at two years old it should be about care, not education.

If you go on their website you can search all inspections going back donkey’s years.