Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

I'm starting to feel the need want of a drink myself.

You walk to school. It earlier said the kids come home alone. Why do you not work if the kids are old enough to look after themselves. I would love this “me” time you have every day mon- fri!

I'm not trying to judge, just understand. So why don't you drink at weekends?

It's unusual and as long as no more then won't harm you but be aware of being dependent on the alcohol to relax (at whatever time)

Thanks LuYu for your analysis.

I haven't been nasty. Only today am I getting a bit fed up with some attacking. I'm just responding to people when they say things.

Whether I have a problem or not. I wanted a conversation on the subject as to why it's wrong and not a personal attack.

I have got muddled. Yes because I am trying not to give to many details away and it looks like I am telling all sorts of porkies, I'm just trying to hide my identity.

People have misunderstood what I've said e.g. Somebody has just said I drink 16 units in one day.

I'll keep responding if people reply but I've aske mn to remove it so it's done and dusted.

I started this thread thinking you don't have a problem OP, and posting supportively.

You've managed to convince me I was mistaken. SIGH.

MrPoopy Because I don't need or want to. I've had a few glasses and chilled out and done my painting. That's all I need.

confused I'm starting to feel the need want of a drink myself.

Same

Its a bit confusing how much you are drinking. OP says you drink once, maybe twice a week and you drink 16 units. That’s almost 2 bottles.

You just a few posts ago said I haven't even started on it yet and had any goddamit now you've had a few, chilled out (chilled out? really?!) and done your painting.
Well which one is it lol?

Just to clarify the goddamit isn't my words, it's the words you used lol.

So you've asked them MNHQ to remove it as the thread's not getting the "right" answers that you wanted to hear?
That's not really how it works. Plus it's nearly full anyway so a bit pointless.

Verbeena What are you talking about. I've not had any wine, I am picking up my kids and have no desire to get any wine.

I've had a few glasses and chilled out and done my painting. That's all I need

^^

Verbeena Yes. That's exactly why I did it not that it's too much fun discussing it and it's taking up too much of my wine drinking time.

That's about why I don't drink on the weekend or the evenings

What difference does it make if my kids smell booze on me 2x a week at 5 o'clock I'm not ashamed of that

I think you ought have a good think about this statement, to be honest.

You tell me why BomB

So if They get home at 6, see me with a glass of wine when cooking, see me with wine and smell wine on me, that's okay then? Or are you a no wine until they are in bed person

You came here saying that youre drinking regularly, alone at home in the morning, from 10am. To most ppl that rings alarm bells, as it sounds alcoholic (I'm not saying you are).
From what you were originally posting, I agree with you, why can we only drink in the evenings? Why is it not socially acceptable to drink in the day, if your not working/with kids or other responsibilities?
What I can't understand though is why you regularly feel a need to 'relax' from 10am. You seem to have a LOT of free time. What are you relaxing from?
Personally if I had all that time to myself I think I'd be bored, so not trying to relax but just trying to entertain myself. Is that what you're doing?

16 units is about 2 bottles if I’m right? I don’t think that’s excessive over a week. That’s about 3 large glasses per bottle, which is in line with what the op has said.

The time the op drinks is a bit weird but is that because we’re conditioned to ‘only’ drink afternoon/evening. She doesn’t drive anywhere, people saying ‘what if her dc need driving to hospital’ surely she’s in the same boat as people who drink on an evening and your kid gets sick overnight? Plus people’s tolerance to booze is completely different, some people would be shit faced after 2 glasses, others not after a bottle.

Awfully defensive, and trying to constantly justify. If you're fine with it, then fine.
Nobody can help you unless you want to acknowledge it first yourself.

Also you keep comparing your drinking to other socially acceptable scenarios which aren't equal. Like 'if I was drinking 3 glasses of wine in the evening cooking, in front of kids, that'd be ok'.
It wouldn't be ok. Boozy lunches with friends every week. Not really ok. Yes most ppl drink the amount you are drinking on evening weekends but with other ppl & most likely not as such a regimented routine. Lone drinking regularly is a sign of alcohol dependency (again not saying this is the case with you but it is a big indicator).

Poopy 10am gives me a chance to paint, read and cook a nice lunch, maybe have a snooze, cook dinner for the evening. Tidy up etc

Most days I am busy with one thing or another, they don't necessarily have to be done, which gives me time but I keep on top of things.

So a single mum is not allowed to have a few glass of wine alone a couple of times a week. She must seek out others not to be labelled a drunk.

A person isn't allowed to regularly have a few glasses of wine a couple of times a week, they must change the day it's on so it doesn't become routine.

I find it all bizzare that there have to be these rules.

I'm an argumentative type of person but because I leant to argue / discuss I'm in denial and justifying it.

Everyone else is allowed to tell me it's wrong and I have a problem but I am not allowed to question why

I might be stuck in my thinking but others are stuck in theirs too.