Morning drinking

[nottellingyou101]

I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

I agree with pp that you’re in denial. Your drinking is a problem but you’ve convinced yourself it isn’t. That’s why you’re not listening to anyone here.

This thread has hit a brick wall. You won’t listen because you like the buzz and have convinced yourself you’re not doing anything wrong.

One day that bubble will burst. It may take years, even decades, but your children will know their mummy needed a drink in the morning and needed a buzz and it will have repercussions for them for years. You are damaging them and your relationship with them; children pick up on the little things and you can’t hide anything from them.

But this will fall on deaf ears, because you’re not interested in the welfare of your children OP. You just want your buzz. More fool you. How very sad for your children.

I have set times because this is the time I set aside to do my painting having dealt with work and what I need to through the week. People have set times for all manner of things.

I am 43 and I think I have been called to the school 2 times in over 5 years. I'm not sure of the exact figure but it's not much.

I would be embarrassed to turn up at the school in the morning but any time after 12 I wouldn't care because I am entitled to a glass of wine if I wanted. Of course I would be embarrassed because it is not normal but it doesn't make it wrong. I know people just like in here would jump to all kinds of conclusions.

The school now me, they know the kids and they have had and will not have any reason to think the kids are not being looked after properly. As I've said above the school supply booze on many occasions, just because it is around 5 that is okay. If you don't think children and wine mix then don't have any, but we are free to have a few glasses.

It's not normal or socially acceptable but if you're in control and know your limits it's probably fine. I think evening drinking is probably more socially acceptable because it's the end of the day, you don't need to be anywhere and it can help relax you. Morning drinking seems as though you're drinking for the sake of it or because you're relying on it. Only you know if you have a problem or not.
Personally I don't see the appeal of alcohol that early in the day, although I'm not a big drinker anyway.

I would be embarrassed to turn up at the school in the morning but any time after 12 I wouldn't care because I am entitled to a glass of wine if I wanted.

This is very revealing. You need the confidence alcohol gives you.

WhatToDo - what makes you think I need a drink in the morning? I never have or will.

Do you drink wine or Gin. If so why do you do it. Is it just for the taste or is it partially because there is alcohol in it?

Yes I like the buzz. Even after one glass of wine, big deal, most people if they think about it probably do too or at least some feeling it gives. Do I have a problem just because I am using alcohol for basically what is meant to do. It's not meant to give you energy so you can run a marathon.

I am really confused.

I'd like to ask why people drink alcohol???

SimplySteve WTF

Simply Steve I think op means if she turned up before 12 smelling of booze she would be embarrassed.

I have been following this thread with interest, very interesting debate on the norms of alcohol.

It would raise an eyebrow or more if I turned up at my child's nursery to pick them up after a glass of wine, yet the past few years at the nativity at 4.30 they have served the parents wine.

I look forward to having a glass or several of wine, I plan it (say after work at a weekend) and I enjoy very much the buzz it gives me. That's problematic right? Enjoying a legal substance in a manner that is not effecting what is expected of me day to day? Seems odd it's viewed as problematic. Is everyone who drinks a problem drinker? Control your units - red flag. Plan it - red flag. Enjoy it? - red flag. Go over your units - red flag.

It's eye opening the views on hear as I don't think they corresponds with the views of people I know! Lots of people enjoy wine or alcohol without it being a problem. Or perhaps I am being naive.

WhatToDo You are making huge assumptions about me needing a drink and needing a buzz and about my poor children.

I do not and am not hiding anything. If it worked for me to have a few glasses from 9pm and do what I want to do without interruptions I would take that opportunity. But it doesn't.

My routine to paint, chill, read, tv and eat takes up about 4 hours. It would mean I wouldn't be getting to bed until 1am and would feel awful the next day, irritable with the kids and exhausted. It is very important to me to have some me time and yes, the me time involves wine so shoot me.

I need to stop reading this thread, it’s making me want to have a drink - simply because I want whatever the sanctimonious whiney arses are getting their knickers in a twist over 🤣

It’s really funny how some people need someone else there if they’re drinking alcohol, maybe they just don’t trust themselves?! I’m perfectly able to drink what I want, when I want, without needing someone to oversee me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why people drink alcohol is a good question. I might have a couple of glasses on a Friday night after a stressful week. I might meet a friend for lunch and drink because it’s ‘sociable’. Drink at a wedding to ‘celebrate’. Those are my excuses for drinking! However, I drink because I like the feeling!

Zebra Thank you. Are you an alcoholic by any chance to agree with something so odd.

Claw - There you go. It gives people a feeling. 1 glass or 10 and no Im not drinking 10 before the wine police jump all over that.

ILoveTrees - You are not allowed to drink alone, you should know that.

Of course people can do what they want
But usually don’t start a thread about it
Starting to drink at 10am would thoroughly depress me
Besides I’d hate for my dc to know I drink in the day or to hide it so they don’t
But the op has the answers to it all. So what carry on

Wine police - honestly just drink it and carry on
Post on Thursday when you start maybe others will join in

No i don't think so

Not read whole thread but read the first and last page. I don't really see why people are saying OP has a problem. Lots of people have a drink after work by themselves if they live alone. Some of those will drink all/most days. No-one bats an eyelid. OP says she is having two or three glasses as her 'me time' and is likely to go 5days until she drinks again. All she is doing is taking her 'me time' at a different time of the day. For the obvious reasons that she gets to relax and enjoy it without dealing with the kids.

It's not a problem at all.

Enjoy OP.

Nottellingyou I assume that’s why everyone does or doesn’t drink, isn’t it?!

I don’t see much difference at timing of drinking. A glass at 7am or 7pm. I personally couldn’t drink in the mornings, I wouldn’t get anything done!

I find "it works for me" to be such an odd choice of phrase in this context and you've used it countless times. I'm wondering what exactly "works", what is it you're looking for. I agree with PP that it seems you have a problem and are looking for others to offer you some justification. Wishing you well.

I would be embarrassed to turn up at the school in the morning but any time after 12 I wouldn't care because I am entitled to a glass of wine if I wanted.

It would probably have to be at least 1.00 for it to not raise eyebrows and potentially be reported. No one is going to think that you have had alcohol with friends for lunch as a one off if you arrive at the school at 12.10.
That means there is probably a three hour time interval where you are risking a report to SS by drinking.

@nottellingyou101 I think it's fine but why do you care what people think ❓

Marsha But your happy to let them know you sink a few glasses in the evening because that is an 'Acceptable' time according to you and society.

Not hiding it. The only reason it's hidden is because they are not around. I have had many glasses of wine when they are there.

Maybe it's better that they don't see it or know about it because alcohol can cause all kinds of problems and we've normalised it by having it in front of children at wine o'clock

A 125ml glass of wine gives you a buzz? Christ, I must be a complete lush as that would barely register in the cortex of my brain.

LostFrequncy I answered that. If I took the me time to have a few glasses and paint in the evening and catch up on some reading and to shows, which I would be happy to do. I wouldn't be getting to bed until 1am and that doesn't work for me or anyone around me.