Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

So ballbags. You would rather not have any time to yourself, spend all the time with your kids or working. Only in the holidays after spending a huge amount of time with the kids do I nip off for some me time.

I can do exactly what I want. I have no desire to hit the gym or fucking pilates. I have low cholesterol, low blood pressure and a low amount of stress. Not a huge amount of money but lots of time.

Today I will be working. Shopping, tidying. Having an hour to make a lunch, collecting kids, doing homework then dinner, then relaxing at about 7 without wine. I might fit a nice snooze with my tv show on in the background.

Yes. I'm depressed and a bored housewife. Thursday I will have a few glasses of wine and do my passion which is painting and chill completely out by myself. Friday I will be out with friends, Saturday doing stuff with the kids.

I set up my business over many years. It is automated, requires little input and I could be earning money as I am writing this. It's not mega bucks but it helps

I'll have done about 1.5 hours walking too.

Ballbags Wednesday I'll be out with my partner for some lunch and we'll pick up the kids together.

I think your comment has made me realise how lucky I am and shouldn't complain, which I do, because I know people have it a lot harder than me. My situation might not last forever but I enjoy it while it does

I'm a size 10. Nice boobs, good legs and I'm good shape

I apologise for my tone. This thread has helped me realise a lot of things and past apologising for what I do. Especially when people like you make massive assumptions. Good luck with your life.

You’re really defensive. AIBU isn’t the place to post in that case!

Well done you then. You obviously believe you're fine, as we said crack on then.

Wtf's your boobs got to do with anything lol? This post's getting more bonkers.

Nope. I am more than happy to take comments on board. I hate massive assumptions by ignorant people. I'm just not holding back now.

I'm just being a bit silly about my lovely boobs.

If I respond to what people say, I'm told I'm being defensive. When someone calls my life depressing and to get a grip on reality when they don't actually know me, I ain't gonna take that shit

More than happy with constructive thoughts on the topic.

I think if you didn't have children it wouldn't be seen as a problem because it wouldn't really make any difference when you had the drink assuming that you don't have to work. However, you do have children and therefore there is a chance that you may have to go to the school in the day time unexpectedly. If you turn up after having three glasses of wine it will be noticed and you are risking involvement from SS.
That is because people who drink in the day often are alcoholics. The fact that you still drink despite knowing that suggests that you do have a problem. No one with a health relationship with alcohol would drink if it meant potential SS involvement.I also get the impression that you are counting the units and trying hard not to go over them which combined with the fact that you are drinking early in the morning also suggests a problem.

The only time that it seems okay to drink 2 or 3 glasses of wine seems to be after 5 or when the kids are in bed.

When kids are in bed yes - because short of a medical emergency, which is rare, what’s going to happen at night? Unless they are infant aged.

It's unusual, but it just sounds like you're having your weekend drink on a week day morning. It doesn't sound like you have a problem, just sounds like you're reliving those pre baby Saturday night drinks in front of the tv. If it were me I would carry until you get your weekend evenings back when kids are older but probably not tell anyone as you will get judged!

I've just enjoyed a couple of glasses of yule log Irish cream :-p. I was up at 4am with a nap in between then and now Well, it is my day off!

Crack on with morning drinking then if you think it's Ok.

If you are completely fine with this pattern OP then why are you posting about it on mumsnet?

In the long run wouldn't you feel better using this time to go to yoga or swimming or going for a long walk?

To be honest it seems a bit sad sitting inside staring at a screen drinking alone a couple of hours after you get up 🤷🏻‍♀️

As you say yourself you do not need it. So why bother at all? I think therein lies your answer.

It's approaching 10am now, could not think of anything worse than cracking open a bottle of wine. I stand by my statement of it being thoroughly depressing.

OP extremely defensive and sure she's right, more she posts seems problematic lol. Hope you're enjoying your pinot/merlot whatever one it is lol, nearly 10 o clock. Couldn't stomach it myself at this time, I'd be asleep by dinner time.

Verbeena. You've said that a million times

BrookShelley A lot of people wouldn't wait until the kids are in bed and personally I don't think a glass of wine when they are up matters. When they were younger we would wait until they were in bed just because that was then our time.

I don't know about other people but I am more than capable of looking after children after 1 or 2 glasses. I and a lot of people out there aren't going to work in the principle of what if something goes wrong. Something could go wrong at any time, whether they are asleep or not. They could wake up and then fall down the stairs or out of bed

Crimsonlake. Don't need it. Like it. I can't see anything wrong with that. Just like lots of people do t need it but like it.

Hmmmm. I just don't know.

My kneejerk response is to be shocked, tbh. But when I think it through, I'm not so sure.

I used to work near the financial district in London as was stunned by the boozy midday lunches I witnessed. In my Dad's pub people start drinking at 11.30am. But I do always suspect they have a 'problem.'

However, a friend of mine did midday drinking for a while, because he said that it meant he didn't have a hangover. It was only on Saturdays and Sundays, but he would have a few drinks at midday, hang out for the afternoon with friends and stuff and then by the morning he'd have no hangover.

The only thing that seems odd about it, I guess, is that drinking is usually a social activity, so drinking in the evening suits people better, because you've stopped work.

I'm posting because I am enjoying the responses and the thread. No matter what I seem to say or do is problematic.

Can you not read Verbeena. I don't take my chill out time until Thursday. It's 10am. I've done a few hours work. Taken the kids to school, tidied and just got back from the shops. I'm about to make a smoothie and have some breakfast. Not a glass of wine in sight but all this talking about it makes me want to crack open a bottle or 2

Yeah, so have you to be fair. If you don't think it's a problem to be drinking so much as recently as last year that you couldn't keep track of how much you had and now you want to bring it forward to 10 in the morning, that might be groovy with you but in most people's world's they'd be looking at it a bit more "hang on" like than constantly justifying and "how very dare you, I am FIIINE with it." Good for you then.

Crack one open then, no'ones stopping you.

You've understood it wrong. I was drinking probably more through the week and in the evenings last year but not aware of how much. It wasn't massive amounts it was just more than now. Most people just drink without thinking about it and it all adds up and they have no idea they are having 50 units a week, most of those on Friday or Saturday.

I would rather be aware than oblivious.

Because I am trying to be more aware and health conscious that is also a problem.

Exactly Verbeena. Nobody is stopping me, but I've got things to do and I don't want to or feel the need. Come Thursday, I will get all my stuff done, get my paints out and fully kick back, enjoy my painting and enjoy my wine and a nice lunch.

It's concerning, it's as though you're almost seeking justification for your drinking. All it would take is for one of your kids to make an (innocent) comment at school and you'd have social services knocking on your door.

Just because you perceive the booze doesn't interfere with your ability to parent after school doesn't mean there isn't substantive impact. I've seen it when I was a young adult between my cousin and their parent.