Goodness OP, defensive much? If you're that sure you're right then why post in the first place?
Let's recap. Your relaxing hobby could prevent you being able to collect your kids, could cause friction between you and dh, you don't tell him the truth ( I wonder why?), You need to shoehorn it in (just accepting life is too busy for this certain activity isn't an option), it could lead to a referral to SS. Yet we're the ones who don't get it?
Drinking alone is fine. Drinking alone at 10am is highly irregular and something only people working nights tend to do. Something that would definitely raise the eyebrow of any professional involved in your child's care .
Do you want DC thinking it's normal to neck wine at 10am? At least in the evening they're in bed. Aside from the fact that evening is wind down time not mid morning, unless you are a nights worker.
Telling kids to leave you alone isnt a problem, back tracking is. First you never did it when kids were there, now it is. Which is it op? And why did you feel the need to 'omit the truth' once again?
Smelling of booze in the day IS bad. Least of all because if you need to collect child X unexpectedly and you smell of drink, the teacher or childminder is within their rights to refuse to hand the child over.
To make a wrong judgement is putting their career on the line, they err on the side of cat. I've seen it happen, mum had apparently been on a boozy lunch. She made a fuss and police were called, her poor DC must have been embarrassed. That's rare and not happened to you yet. But it could. Do you really think it's unreasonable schools expect you to stay sober during school hours? I don't.
With the I have nothing to do argument. Again, what if you had to go to school for any reason? It's common safeguarding procedure to keep children in custody of school if parent is Deemed to be intoxicated to a degree they can't be in charge of them. A judgement made of a teacher by teacher basis, who all have different thresholds. There's been enough cases in recent years of teachers missing safeguarding concerns,no HT or LA will vilify a teacher for being cautious. How do you know what could crop up in the day? Vets, drs etc.
Setting time aside, no problem. It needing shoe horning, is a problem. Look at my Emmerdale analogy. As adults sometimes you have to admit you can't do certain activities at certain times due to commitments. If you're not reliant then stop and see how you get on
And for the last time 2 glasses isbt a problem. Your thinking and attitude towards it is, and your last post shows a complete unwillingness to take telling. Your harmless hobby had pretty harmful results , relationship wise, DC wise. Needs fitting in, prevents you from collecting kids, inflexible and could cause friction
Does that sound healthy to you? As I said, you just seem not to care. I seriously hope you don't get refused DC at pick up,but at the same time it might just give you the shock you need to sort things out.