Hi again.
Okay. So I want to clarify then.
If you drink alone. You have a drink problem according to some
I'm not happy because I want to be alone / have some alone time.
Drinking 2 or 3 glasses of wine in the evening when my kids will be around and disturbing my sleep and feeling slightly foggy in the morning is better than drinking earlier in the day when I have done everything I need to do done and can chill out completely.
Drinking without food is bad.
Drinking any time before 12/1 is bad.
Wanting to have a drink is bad (not needing)
Having any amount of wine is problematic.
Having a snooze is a bad sign because I am sleeping it off. Even though I have a snooze other days that I haven't had any wine because I love a snooze, have time for a snooze and a snooze is good for you. I don't actually need to sleep anything off. There are many days when I won't have a snooze.
Telling my kids not to disturb me, which they can and always do is a problem, even though I give all my time to my kids pretty much all the time. If I wanted to go chill out and watch a Tv show and not have wine I would tell them the same thing.
Smelling of booze is bad in the daytime but acceptable at night because this is when most people choose to have a glass.
Just wanting a glass of wine during my downtime is bad but needing it after a stressful day to relieve the stress is okay.
Counting my units and being more drink and health conscious aware is a problem.
Setting aside time to do all the thing I want to do is a problem e.g I want to have a few glasses of wine (like a lot of most people do) I want to read, I want to paint, I want to catch up on some shows, I want to cook a nice lunch and maybe fit in a snooze if I can because I like a snooze on any given day.
I won't have any alcohol now until Thursday and this week as I am not out at the weekend it will be around 14 to 16 units. It's Thursday because the kids will be doing football until late and brought home. It is generally a Thursday that I take as a day to myself and yes it involves wine.
It's a problem because I look forward to what I do, just like others do but they do it after a stressful day.
The time I get to do exactly what I want without having my name called or loud tv in the background or bickering or partner asking me for things or talking to me 
when I want peace.
I do it because the timings work for me. No other reason. I am not reliant on it, I don't get anxious if I don't do it, I don't count down the days until it arrives again. It's me getting me time understandably with wine. I have just turned the day on its head. After school, the kids come home, dinner is done, they chill out, watch tv. I serve dinner and tidy up and they go to bed mon to fri. I rarely go out on Fri or Sat as I want to be completely present for them on the weekends and very very rarely have alcohol. Xmas is coming so there are a few weekend things on but After that most of the year they are avoided. I get into bed by nine and roll over by ten to sleep to wake up at 5 to get out of bed at six to do work before my clients get in to the office and the emails fly in.
There is no inherent need to have it that early apart from being able to have the time and space to myself before everything kicks off again.
I don't drink in the evenings because I don't want too. We have both stopped doing it but it would be more socially acceptable to do it then.
Why even have wine. I have honestly answered that. I like the buzz it gives me, just like most people who drink it at whatever point in the day. Anyone who says differently doesn't understand the effects of alcohol, even after one glass.
I don't drive a car, I don't need to go or do anything until 5 or 6.
Now. For arguments sake. Lets say Each week I have 14 to 16 units a week spread over 2 days apart. Each week I have 4 days with no alcohol and after Xmas I stop this for 2 years. Is this still a problem and is it only a problem in your eyes because of the time it is done.
Whether you think I have a problem with alcohol or not. For this argument I don't. The amount of units never changes and the start time remains the same and there is no dependency just a 'I enjoy a few glasses of wine and time completely to myself'
If you think even 2 glasses of wine is a problem at anytime then this question isn't for you.