Morning drinking

[nottellingyou101]

I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

Finding this thread a bit chilling as your whole tone is exactly like my mate who’s just lost her job due to her crazy drinking patterns.

Few too many units WFH + her arsey boss + shitty colleague getting on her back via email = suite of emails where she was nakedly aggressive and culminated in typing FUCK OFF to both of them. She’s freelance so instant dismissal.

All between 10am and midday these emails were sent.

I am deeply worried for her but hey! nothings wrong.

You have a drinking problem. Get help it's nothing to be ashamed of but it will get worse

Just because she drinks her 14 units over long brunch/lunches instead of the evening?

This thread is bonkers. If she was having 2-3 glasses of wine with dinner a couple of nights a week nobody would bat an eyelid.

BlackForest, I'd think he had a problem as well.

Particularly if he were saying that he'd prefer X pints to become Y pints fewer.

The justification on the thread is really aggressive. Why? It makes me think that you have a problem with alcohol when nobody else cares. You don't have to justify yourself. Drink what you want, as much as you like, as little as you like, or not at all. If you ask for opinions you'll get them from posters who fall into all of those categories. Or just ask alcohol drinkers to give their views maybe?

Only on an alcohol thread are there cheerleaders. If an OP would come on saying that they'd like to decrease their donut eating from 3 to 2 but can't, they'd be pilloried. Alcohol is A-OK though. Baffling.

I don't care what you or other people do.

The 'you' in my post is general, not aimed at you, BlackForest or any other poster.

3 glasses every day sounds like a lot to me, if they are big glasses. And starting at 10 am sounds like you need it to get going, which makes me think that you are using it as a crutch.

What would happen if you had just 1 glass at noon, say?

I find this really odd, why not have a cup of tea or nice coffee instead? I love my wine but I don’t think I could stomach a glass before midday, but I am really not a day time drinker... evening only for me! I would be concerned about being called to the school or generally an emergency after having had one or two glasses.

My honest belief is that it may not seem a problem now but it will probably creep up slowly over time and before you know it you WILL have a problem.

What Puritans decided that drinking more than fourteen units a week at a certain time is bad? Where is the evidence for this?

What Puritans decided that anything outside of today's societal norms are BAD?

Nanny State, supported by judgmental people that's who.

Anwyay, I walked the Camino de Santiago recently, and honestly I have never seen such alcohol consumption at 7am in my life! Cafe con Soberano or the local hooch, and two or three glasses of Rioja is the norm, and then they go off and drive their tractors on the main road, or the walkers continue walking towards Santiago. No one bats an eyelid in less anally retentive countries.

No wonder they live so long.

3 glasses every day sounds like a lot to me, if they are big glasses

But it isn't every day. From the OP:

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours

So not even twice every week or three glasses every time. OP also says she doesn't drink evenings and stays within the weekly limits.

Honestly don't see how this is automatically worse than drinking wine in the evening once or twice a week and within the recommended limits.

What Puritans decided that drinking more than fourteen units a week at a certain time is bad? Where is the evidence for this?

The NHS. The time of day is irrelevant.

If my bloke was cracking open cans at 10am I'd be concerned

And if I was working while my partner was cracking open their first drink (of several) at 10am (but lying about it), then snoozing it off on the sofa before the kids came home I'd be fucking livid.

It's not every day DistanceCall

She's not having a long brunch, ffs! She's watching telly with her wine at 10 am.

OP, if you had no housework to do, no family coming home (eg away on a trip) then would you drink more? Start earlier?

Agree @Desmondo2016 - it too easily creeps up and that's where lies problems.
Not worth the risk. Especially as OP says she would like to drink less already.

Purple,

I wonder what the empirical evidence for this is (for females obv).

Command and control.

I am lucky that once the kids are on school I have the time to do it. I start at 10 because I can do all the things O want to. Paint, read, by and snooze before 2/3 pm. Kids home at 5 or 6.

Genuinely not judging like I said I'm an ex-addict myself but a PP is right about numbers changing a couple of posts up your DC came home at 4/5?

LyingWitch
People are not necessarily 'cheerleaders' because they have a different opinion from you.

Yeah, the early start to drinking so the OP can fit in a snooze before the kids come home, to me, is a major red flag.

I think you’re in denial OP, you’re asking for validation.
Please can I ask are you the poster from a couple of years ago who drank wine in the park? You don’t have to answer but if you are ... please get help as this will be a slippery slope.

Honestly, if you didn’t have children I would say it’s no problem at all, you are sticking to your units and it makes absolutely no difference what time it is. I’ve already posted and said this but you do have children of a school age and one day you will need to go in and then the fact that you’ve had a drink will be an issue as you’ll have to organise a taxi and possibly be a bit woozy when you go in and I would think that will upset you the next day.

Cressida, if you're not a 'cheerleader' then I'm not talking about you, am I? I don't care what opinions other people have, I don't care what yours is - and I also don't care what you think of mine. Clear?

I remember that poster who was drinking in the park. I couldn't believe the number of posters who were egging her on, saying it was fine. There was quite a turn of events when people did an Advanced Search.

Anwyay, I walked the Camino de Santiago recently, and honestly I have never seen such alcohol consumption at 7am in my life! Cafe con Soberano or the local hooch, and two or three glasses of Rioja is the norm, and then they go off and drive their tractors on the main road,

I live in Spain. Alcoholism rates in the countryside are very high.

Please can I ask are you the poster from a couple of years ago who drank wine in the park?

That's niggling me too - it reads so similarly in many ways.