Morning drinking

[nottellingyou101]

I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

I'm really stuck on this one. I've literally just poured a glass of wine and will probably have three glasses, possibly even finish the bottle tonight But then I won't drink for another week or so,

And on one hand, I'm thinking you're just having your downtime at a different time of day to most people.

However, drinking wine in the morning would make me feel like shit, and after three glasses I'd be very tipsy. I'm not sure it's healthy to be doing this in the morning, and it's a bit telling that your husband doesn't realise what time you're starting. If my partner found me drinking at 10am he'd think I had a problem.

I don't know. If you're saying that you're not drunk and are absoloutely fine by the time the kids finish then maybe it's okay.

Don't say you are "having few glasses of wine". Say you have a "BRUNCH with wine instead of prosecco" and no one will bat an eyelid since prosecco brunch is a norm now

I think once you take work and kids into account there aren't many times a month working parents are able to relax with a drink. I would wait till they are all in bed to have a drink, but as the kids are so young, there is too much to do. Once it's all done, it's normally too late to have a drink. Then I'm up at 6 am the next day.

I can have 2, maybe 3 glasses of wine on a Friday night schedule wise and that's not every week. Maybe this particular week day is the OPs only time to herself?

And Yes, I have pinned down my drinking time. And my gym times, super market times, socialising times, driving to activity times And every other time, just like most working parents.

OP if it's really those units, chill.

Carry on then
Some people think it’s pretty bad and would never do it
You think you’re fine so go for it

My partner knows but I've only just changed the time to about 10 sometimes 11 because I can fit more stuff and snooze in. He just thinks it's 12 because it usually was and I've no reason to say anything. More than happy if it came up to discuss it with him.

OP... if you're like 'three glasses of wine to become two'... why hasn't that happened?

That there is the problem for me. You have control - or you don't.

I often have a glass whilst I'm cooking alone in the kitchen, too, listening to the radio or a playlist

Actually I do that sometimes as well especially when we have a houseful - nice peaceful kitchen, radio 4, glass of calendar appropriate drink. Its bliss.

I totally understand you@Nott. .

I’ve never really understood why it’s ok to drink at 12.00, or17.00 or 20.00. What the fuck difference does a clock make?

So wait, it used to always be noon but recently its gone forward to 10am??

And you don't consider that anything other than..... logistics???

I do think societal expectations are important.

It’s acceptable to be a bit pissed in the pub at 8pm but not at 11am. Therefore you are going against what is the norm in society and some will judge you for that. The fact is most people just don’t fancy a drink at 10am.

This is very interesting because like others on this thread, I can’t really function very well if I drink during the day! The only time I will have a glass of wine or a small beer during the day is Christmas or if I am on holiday and have absolutely nothing to do later that day.

Re - update you'd "like the two glasses to become three" that sounds shaky grounds - where does that thinking stop?
I'm honestly not coming at this from a no drinking it's all bad stance - I'm sat here with wine now and know how easy it is to slide and justify!

You have a drinking problem. Get help it's nothing to be ashamed of but it will get worse

Damn - read properly, I blame the glass of wine! ironic you want 3 to become 2.
So why doesn't it then? Do you find it hard to stop at just one?

OP doesn't drive. She's explained that more than once.

Verbeena step away from the glass.

Sorry OP I don't understand why anyone would drink in the morning unless they're alcohol dependant. If you were called to school smelling of alcohol I would assume they would have concerns. You also say you don't tell your DH that you're drinking at 10am, I don't think this is because he doesn't ask, I think you're hiding something from him.

Only once, before my DM's funeral.

I have mixed feelings about this, OP. It SOUNDS like you’re on a slippery slope on the surface. Brought your drinking time forward to 10am so you can fit in more and also have a snooze. It brings to mind sleeping it off.

But then if you get up at 5am a mid afternoon snooze if you can manage it sounds totally lovely.

Imagine how much less hand-wringing there would be if the OP was a man going to the pub for a pint at 11am.

Billiby I think I should

Nope 10am pint man just the same.
In fact if he was a sahd to school age children this thread would be even more critical

@BlackForestCake

Nah, If my bloke was cracking open cans at 10am I'd be concerned. Nothing to do with op being a woman

I'm partial to a morning drink. I went to a rave a few weeks ago and sunk a bottle of red on the sofa before going to bed just after lunch. DH fine with it. He might have a beer in bed on a Sunday morning once in a while, usually instead of coffee.

I think it's strange but as long as that's the whole story then whatever floats your boat.

Lone drinking is a problem with drink?! Jesus, so when I was single and drank wine at the weekend on my own I was practically an alcoholic?! Riiiiight 🙄