are older women invisible?

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I read this a lot on mn and wondered if you think it's true and what age does it happen?

I wear no make up, non-descript shoes, bad haircut & shapeless clothes every day. In a professional job. I don't feel invisible.

NorthernKnickers anecdote about being ignored in the car showroom sounds like bliss to me. Get to thoroughly check out the vehicles in own time doing own thing, not listening to sales patter. Maybe they clocked you were a powerful personality who wouldn't be swayed by their slick marketing pitch so best to leave it to you to demand attention when you wanted it.

Agree with you totally Primo

The majority of young people are just moderately attractive IMHO. Don't know where you're finding all these beautiful, stunning and sexy 20 somethings.

Until my 30s I worked in a very male-dominated environment and got lots of attention (mainly unwanted).

I'm 55 now, and have felt invisible for the last 8-10 years. I think my biggest bugbear is when I meet people, maybe two or three times, they never remember me the next time. Literally no recollection. My friend says that some people are just bad at 'reading' faces, but surely not everyone?!
I'm very sociable and love meeting new people, but the times people have said "oh I don't think we've
met before?" when actually we've met several times and even spent a significant amount of time talking about a specific subject. This never happened to me before I hit 40. It's become a bit of a standing joke between my friends now. 🙄

@Milliy

I am a bit invisible at 58 but not ignored.I am also less bothered about how I am perceived by others which means I stand up for myself.At bars I often find using a Paddington Bear hard stare helps or simply saying that I'm next.
I also agree that it is easier to call out sexist comments and to any comments that make other women uncomfortable.
Basically I can just be me and that is good.

I'm far more invisible at 58. Sod it, it was as often as not a pain when I wasn't. DD moans enough.
M

In film and theatre, still largely invisible but a bit less so than say 10 years ago.

yeah definitely, although not with everyone.
I mean when I was younger, id feel in the game with anyone I wanted, young or old, and now its just with people older than me.

In a way its quite nice.

When i had a child. I was 33. Still pretty but obviously not seen as shaggable when attached to a buggy.
Actually, having a child was a great shitbag repellent.
Before her, my God, i attracted knob jockeys from 14-33.
Work life has become easier for me. Women don't view me as a threat so i am able to plough on without too much aggro.
I love that my colleague is 20 years younger and a stunner. Means i go below the radar 😁

I know two sisters who are 81 & 83. One is beautiful inside and out. Gives so much to her family and friends. She’s thoughtful and kind. Compassionate & non judgmental. Everyone loves her & wants to be around her . She is the most ‘ visible ‘ person I know. Her sister on the other hand is bitter, mean spirited, judgemental and rude. No one cares too much for her and contact with her is minimal .
I also know two women aged 49.
The first is funny, engaging, interesting & aging naturally. She is charismatic. The other has hair extensions, false eyelashes, fake tan , fake nails , overweight and is loud and brash. She’s recently had lip fillers which draw attention to her face in a negative way. The difference between the two is huge. Sometimes it’s not looks but character that makes people invisible .

Wonderfully, I have found they become more visible again the older I get, and I admire their abilities.

Tierra I can relate to your post. I'm 43 and am looking less of a dog's dinner than the previous decade. I have a lonnnggg way to go, but am confident I'll get there.

I'm still recovering from an awful marriage and the resultant discontent with finances/choices/opportunities. The rest will have to keep

Glad someone else relates to how I feel.

Also YY to the feeling shallow...I know what I don't like in a man...why should I expect him to think differently..

2019 is going to be a revelation I think