AIBU about DP friend using toilet?

[Ragevibration]

Now I KNOW that this is a thing that comes up a lot, and the general consensus is that that is what a toilet is there for, don't be so precious etc. Which typically I agree with.

However, interested to see if the responses are different based on this particular scenario.

DP just gone to pick up friend who lives 9 minutes away by car. Came straight back (with a bunch of flowers bevause he knows he's arsehole today but that's another story). Whilst he's out, I've gone and started to run a bath, lit some candles, put a bath bomb and some essential oils in, dimmed the lights and placed my kindle on top of the washing basket. So CLEARLY once DP goes to the pub, I'm planning on having a nice long, relaxing lovely bath. The bathroom is filled with the lovely smells (just trying to set the scene here).

In come DP and his friend. Friend (who to be fair I've never really liked I fucking hate him) asks ro use the toilet. Yes, I say. Assuming he needs a pee.

Nope. He has just unleashed the bowels of he'll from his own bowels apparently and the whole flat stinks so bad it's actually literally made me retch.

No air fresher sprayed or even the can of deodorant DP had left on the side. Then off they went...

Also for full disclosure he does have IBS which yes, is unfortunate and sometimes you can't help it but AIBU to think he could have either gone in his own house 9 minutes ago or waited the approx. One and a half minute walk it is to the pub?

He has IBS!! He very likely didn’t need to go 9 minutes ago. It can come on you all of a sudden and you just have to get to a toilet immediately! It’s really not always a choice about when you go.

The things about IBS is you literally don’t even have 90 seconds sometimes. At least he asked! Sorry about your ruined bath though, that’s a shame!

Open the window. Wait 5 minutes. Sorted.
It's a loo. He used it.

Poor lad has ibs give him a break , I bet he's so embarrassed. As my kids say everybody poops

Get your DH to give his mate some ViPoo.
I too have the bowels from hell (but normally only between 7.30 and 0900) and a pre-emptive squirt of the stuff would mean that your bath would not have been spoiled, just a little more floral than your intended

From his own bowels apparently

Whose bowels did you expect him to evacuate in there?

you intended !!

It’s unfortunate for you, but more unfortunate for him. With ibs when you gotta go, you gotta go!

With IBS sometimes waiting is really not an option! YABVU.

yabvu - he has IBS ffs

Yanbu I get that people the Ibs can’t hold it etc etc but that is no reason to behave so inconsiderately and not at least spray some air freshener or deodorant liberally around, dirty sod, if he didn’t take steps to cover the smell, I seriously doubt he washed his hands either (not envy)

I wish IBS upon you. Then come back and tell us all about waiting to go to the toilet.

If he didn't have IBS he should have waited as it is otherwise rude behaviour. But I'm assuming with IBS it was an emergency so you have to let it go.

Another poster who goes into fits of retching at the smell of someone else's shit

Seriously, open a window, light a candle, wait five minutes.

@makingmiracles

That's quite an assumption to make, that because he had a poo that shock horror smelled of poo, that he is a dirty fucker who doesn't wash his hands?

When you know you have IBS, you never go anywhere without sulphur matches or their equivalent and a kit of stuff you need - particularly if it's non-familiar facilities.

YANBU!! What would he have done had he had to wait an extra 2 mons because they decided to drive straight to the pub and not your house.

Nope nope and no again! Totally out of order by him.

My IBS has calmed right down now, but years ago I shat myself in the middle of a city because I couldn't get to a toilet fast enough. IBS ain't polite.

Obviouosy youve had IBS.
This guy won’t have been able to wait at all, let alone go back home 10mins away.
Fwiw IBS is a good enough reason for people to get one of those disabled key fob. It can be that bad

As for the pub...
Would you really ask a friend of yours to go to the pub to use the loo??

What is the issue, 2 seconds to squirt some bleach down the toilet, light your sented candle & relax.

Striking a match in the bathroom will clear the stink almost immediately. It really does work (although you sound like you may need 2 in this situation)

How is it out of order to shit in a toilet?

People on here are so weird about poo 😆

Candles will clear smell too.
Poor bloke couldn't help it and, hate to say this, but blokes don't care about leaving smells behind.

I have ibs and have often needed friends toilets without any notice. Honestly the cramps can be unbearable. I'm always so embarrassed. It's horrible to think people might say things like this about me. Although tbf I would always open a window at least

This would make a good spoof headline, "MAN SHITS IN TOILET"

The poor guy was probably thinking "Bugger, this is going to smell. But maybe she won't really notice it much, or she'll understand it's just my IBS."

Then off he goes and you're spreading the news to the world.

Let's hope he doesn't read all about it tomorrow in the DM!