To be boiling with rage that he WONT cook.

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DH will only cook dinner for his DD (my DSD) without even considering what he, me or our DD will have.
I have been at work since 8am this morning. I arrive home at 6pm to a clingy toddler who I play with upstairs for the first hour of being home.
I come downstairs at 7pm to find that DH has made DSD dinner and not even asked me what I might want or made any for DD!

The thing that makes me most cross about this is that e starting to cook at 7pm means I have a crying clingy toddler at the kitchen door who doesn't understand why mummy has just got home but is now not able to see her because she's dealing with hot pans, ovens etc- the whole dinner rigmarole then seems to stretch into the evening and Im knackered.

He CAN cook/ know how to.

Argued that we had no food but we have PLENTY!

I cook for him, his DSD and my DD 95% of the meals all year round.

Why is he SO useless/ non family minded in this sense?

He then called me twat so that was great.

don't cook for him anymore until he sorts himself out. You're not his mother.

I have no words. Sorry he is a dick

Stop cooking for him then. You’re not being unreasonable to be angry about it but you are being foolish to continue to allow him to behave this way without consequence.

What did he cook for himself and DSD? Is it something that you and DD wouldn't eat? It sounds utterly selfish to me.

For reals???

He won’t cook for you and HIS step child is that right?

I would LOSE MY MIND.

If he was cooking for dsd he should have cooked for dd too, even if you two ate later. I know everyone's different but my toddlers eat between 5 and 6. Cooking for them at 7 or after would be hideous

He hasn't cooked anything for your (and his) toddler DD by 6pm, and still not cooked anything by 7pm despite feeding his own DD? Or have I misunderstood?

What's his excuse for not cooking, don't cook for him any more until he starts helping you out.

I'd never cook him a meal again.

What vile behaviour.

7 pm and your toddler hasn't been fed?. And he won't cook for you and YOUR dd?
What qualities if any does he have?

So he's only cooking for one of his children?

Yep. Cook for you and your dd and not him

When he pipes up with “where’s mine?” Tell him you’re assuming you are cooking separately as he never seems to do it

I'm just flabbergasted that he would leave your/his DD hungry till 7pm whilst at the same time ensuring his own DD was fed! Unless there was some massive misunderstanding then that's hideous, I would be very upset about it and I would be reading the riot act to him about it. Why doesn't he care about his own toddler?

Well isn’t he a gem? Stop cooking for him. And he’s the fucking twat.

That’s pretty disgusting really.

What was his reasoning for only feeding his DD? How old is she? Does she have any specific health problems which means she needs either special food or to eat at regular intervals?

I mean, if he cooked for both the DDs but then expected you to take care of cooking for him and yourself that wouldn't be great, but to feed one child and not the other, without a specific reason, could make for trouble between them as they grow older, if one is the favoured child, for instance, and he is too blatant about showing it.

I would be raging too

If he doesn’t cook I’d take DD out to eat and not bother cooking for him or his DD

I can see why he might not want to cook for you before you get home, but cooking for one child while a ravenous toddler is left without a meal is just dreadful!

Hmmm, seems to me there may a reason why you have a DSD and he's not with his eldest's mother...

Why don’t you all stay downstairs together and do food? You played upstairs until 7 and then came down expecting food? What time is toddlers bedtime?
Why didn’t he double the portion and cook for both of them?
So many questions

Why were you playing for an hour when you knew DD was hungry and needed fed?

Thanks for your replies.

I came downstairs to the smell of food cooking and it was just for his daughter who he told me was the 'priority' because she was hungry 😡😡😡😡

He said there was nothing much that we have that his DD likes.

So I then get all pissed off and start angrily peeling veg, preparing fish etc while I also make the rest of DSDs dinner so he could take screaming toddler. I also make beans and fish fingers for toddler.

We all eat at separate times, he shouted that I was a twat because I angrily threw a tea towel on top of the chopping board.

We all eat at different times, I sit down to eat at 8pm and toddler still screaming because she's only had 1 hour of my attention all day.

I'm SO very angry I don't know where to start.

I read it that DH cooked whilst the op was upstairs and then she came down to find that he hadn't cooked anything for her or the toddler.

I actually think his behaviour borders on neglect. I would threaten to leave over this.