To be boiling with rage that he WONT cook.

[peonysandhotcrossbuns]

DH will only cook dinner for his DD (my DSD) without even considering what he, me or our DD will have.
I have been at work since 8am this morning. I arrive home at 6pm to a clingy toddler who I play with upstairs for the first hour of being home.
I come downstairs at 7pm to find that DH has made DSD dinner and not even asked me what I might want or made any for DD!

The thing that makes me most cross about this is that e starting to cook at 7pm means I have a crying clingy toddler at the kitchen door who doesn't understand why mummy has just got home but is now not able to see her because she's dealing with hot pans, ovens etc- the whole dinner rigmarole then seems to stretch into the evening and Im knackered.

He CAN cook/ know how to.

Argued that we had no food but we have PLENTY!

I cook for him, his DSD and my DD 95% of the meals all year round.

Why is he SO useless/ non family minded in this sense?

He then called me twat so that was great.

Seems odd to have to make 2 hot meals for the toddler.

Well maybe he would have cooked for OP when she came downstairs. He wasnt cooking for himself either he was getting a meal for his dd who was hungry, didnt want to wait for the adults and wasnt eating the same as them anyway.
Its rude to go upstairs and play instead of interacting as a family

So your dh cooked for your toddler at 5.
You came home at 6 and played with her for an hour then decided to cook for her again
She screamed
Your a 'childcare expert'
But you haven't realised she's probably screaming because she'd had 4.5 hrs sleep and probably needs to go to bed rather than get fed again?

And 'experts' wonder why we don't take them seriously

The fuck did I just read?
Man babies. Can not stand them.

The fuck did I just read?

What?

Not the whole thread clearly

No, just the first page, sorry. As I'm catching up the plot thickens.

Lol, in all my ten years of mn, that is the best drip feed ever!!
'Aibu to be raging my dh didn't make dinner for our toddler?'
Dripfeed 'except for the dinner he'd already made her.'
Best. Dripfeed. Ever.

Op, you are being ridiculous. Of course he called you a twat. Because you were being one.

Very weird set up. So, you got home and went straight upstairs to play with your dd, who has had dinner, for an hour (a long time) without acknowledging your dh or sdd. Weird. Then you go down to find him cooking dinner for his dd, who was hungry. Normal, nice. You then start throwing pans about in anger because he didn't question whether your dd would want a second dinner. Which wouldn't be the fish and vegetables he was making for his dd. Um.

So, your DH fed both your kids and you’re upset because there wasn’t a hot meal in the table for you when you came home from work?

If the toddler had been clingy for a while feeding both kids seems like a reasonable achievement.

I'd be off, to treat your daughter like that, disgusting and unacceptable. Does he leave her out of other things too. I find that seriously worrying. I was pushed out of family life by my stepfather too and I'm still boiling with rage against him 50 years later.

Wonder how many more people are going to vilify the poor DH.

Erm, Mad, I think you need to read the full thread ...

Why do people not READ THE FUCKING THREAD?!
You comment half way through a thread because your comment is oh so important

The thing that makes me most cross about this is that e starting to cook at 7pm means I have a crying clingy toddler at the kitchen door who doesn't understand why mummy has just got home but is now not able to see her because she's dealing with hot pans, ovens etc

Also, how much cooking is there in beans and fish-fingers? Throw the fish fingers in the oven and heat the beans - 5 mins at most. it’s hardly Masterchef

mummy has just got home.... an hour earlier and has been giving the child her undivided attention.

You do like to spin things to your own advantage dont you OP?

? The OP didn't say her dh had fed the toddler at 5. She may well have been fed at nursery. There is far too little information on this thread for posters to be so deeply unpleasant about either the OP or her dh. Just a lot of judgemental trolls.
Personally, if I had had an exhausting day and came downstairs at 7pm, hungry and tired, to the enticing smell of food cooking in the kitchen, I would feel somewhat bad tempered about it, too, if told it was only for one member of the household, because I was expected to cook for everyone else. At the least, it sounds like there is very poor communication between family members!

She dropped that info in later @roundaboutthetown.

He could have made something for the op as well but I don't see why the toddler needs two dinners

Nottalotra - no she did not. She said her dd had eaten at 5. She did not say her dh fed the dd at 5, nor whether what the dd eats at 5 is a massive cooked meal or a snack which is not enough to keep her going until bedtime. Besides which, it is clearly a social thing and part of her routine that she likes to eat with mummy and daddy (and probably dsd).

my dh cooks for himself and not me all the time-we dont have dc but its still annoying

i always asks him what he wants or if hes dong his own-weird speicies

Weird species is not a good enough response. Selfish person is much more to the point.