Argh! I just told DH I didn't want his gift

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I don't know how rude it was.
I was presented with a gift from DH and I just stood looking at it before asking why he had bought it.
It's more like a gift for him. I don't want it. So I said I didn't want it and questioned why he'd bought it. It was supposed to be my Xmas present.

Sexy underwear?

You have to tell us what it was before we can make a judgement!

Ask him to try them on.....

Nope depending on what it was, I think you were right. Why buy something for you when it is clearly for him, selfish twat!

Why is he giving you your Christmas present in November?

Depends what the gift was?

You have to tell us what it was now! In principle, though, if it's something that he's interested in and you're not, then I think it's very sensible to be honest about it. Hopefully it will put him off doing it again and make him put more thought into future gifts.

What is it?

Ha no. It's a charge... A speaker Bluetooth thing so I can listen to music in the garden... I never inflict sound on others so thus is a completely useless item.

Christmas present in November?

So you should have if he really bought it for himself! Did he take it well? You could say it’s fine , if this is what you wanted you can have this for Christmas and I’ll choose mine.

It's November. Fucking hate people who inflict their music on others. You are entirely right. He needs wireless headphones to listen to his music in the garden. Get him those for Xmas today and give them to him because it's also fucking weird to give someone you see every day a Christmas present in November.

I said..
"What is this... Why have you bought me this... Is this really because you want it..."
He gave me it because he'd left it out and thought I'd seen it so just said to have it.

Yes I also said after he told me to use it in the garden.. "you know I hate people inflicting their shit music on me.. Whether blasting in the car or night parties or anything in suburbia.. So why would I then do it?"
He said I could use it in my room.
He has wireless headphones actually and I really want them. I can't stand other people's noise.

Tell him you'll do a swap with his headphones.

Idk OP- this is the kind of thing DP would genuinely get for me and think I’d like.

99% of what I tell him goes in one ear and out of the other but the one time I got frustrating trying to make breakfast....he remembers that and now I’ve got one of those shit frying pans you cook a full English in for my birthday 🤔 and he really thinks he’s being very clever and thoughtful 😂🙈😂

How lazy can you get? He bought it for himself and is now fobbing you off with this thing you don't want as an Xmas gift in November? Just no. 'This is not a gift. This is something you bought for yourself. I don't want it and won't use it and don't want to inflict music on others. It's being sent back.'

Well I do think yabu and I'm bloody glad I don't live with you so you do listen to music and have lusted after his Bluetooth headphones? A speaker is not way out of the range then as a gift. And we have a Bluetooth speaker, we listen at a normal volume in the house and quiet in the garden. I'd be astonished if any of the neighbours ever heard so not 'inflicting' on any one else.

Tbh it sounds like you were rude and snippy about it too. Even if you don't want it you could have said so politely or asked if he minded you swapping it for Bluetooth headphones. We teach our kids to be polite and gracious and kindness costs nothing

It's like the fucking amazon fire stick thing my DH bought 'me' once. We already have Sky & watch too much tv ffs. I still don't know how to use it, never have and prefer my kindle.

He's also just bought 'me' one of those Karcher window cleaners...... He's been told to ram it.....

He's out having beer. Possibly telling people what a terribly ungrateful wife I am.
I'll get myself a new outfit and tell him I thought he'd like it.
I am ungrateful.
He probably thought it would be ok.
He usually buys himself gifts.
One year I got a monopoly set. Well I hate monopoly. I find it so tedious.
It's like he has no clue who he married.

if it was accidentally left out that suggests there might be more presents packed away and if this is not a 'main' present it's not unreasonable - maybe he thought these look cool - dp likes music I bet she would like them . I think you could have phrased it a bit nicer than why did you get me these.

Oh, bollocks you need to be 'grateful' for some gift-not-a-gift he bought for himself.

I wasn't rude in tone. I just said I don't want it. He tried to convince me by saying I could inflict my terrible music upon the neighbours. I reminded him that is be a hipocrite seeing as I can't stand other people's terrible music.
The words were harsh but my tone was merry.

I haven't listed after the headphones as he only got them a couple of days ago and I never expressed any desire for them. I have plug in one's but I would have preferred his gift to himself.

Who knows what else I'll get.
I never ask for anything for Xmas or birthday. I like a card off my dc and some family time over stuff.

"It's like he has no clue who he married."

Well he might have-he just prefers buying presents for him rather than you!