Argh! I just told DH I didn't want his gift

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I don't know how rude it was.
I was presented with a gift from DH and I just stood looking at it before asking why he had bought it.
It's more like a gift for him. I don't want it. So I said I didn't want it and questioned why he'd bought it. It was supposed to be my Xmas present.

Oh god thenightsky do we share a husband? I'm allergic to nickel, if you give me jewellery with nickel in the results are hideous, DH has previously helped me clean up my swollen, weeping, bleeding earlobes so he knows this- and he has also still bought me earrings containing fucking nickel more than once!

@GoatFinger

All I will say is... Monopoly isn't tedious if people play by THE ACTUAL RULES instead of the crap "give everyone a chance and make it fun for everyone" BS families across the world make up on the fly.

Double for landing on Go. Cash from Free Parking. Lending each other money. Going around the board once before buying anything. Not immediately auctioning properties people choose not to buy. Not letting people go bankrupt. Gah!!!

Sorry about that. Not really the point but it's a pet peeve of mine and I'm anticipating Christmas with the in-laws soon. 🙄

I think I will buy monopoly this year and play it with the kids over the Christmas holiday. I've never played it before.

My dh does this, he saw I liked a particular style of stained glass which is apparently really awful, so bought me a piece of painted glass which he liked and which was more 'artistic'. It's horrible, not even colours I like and the subject is very dull. I've lost it. Oh dear.

After years of that I either buy my presents myself and he then pays for them and wraps them (and I make an effort to forget all about it) or I give him a very precise list, or he actually looks on my Amazon wish list, though the first year he did that he went off piste because he couldn't remember what was on it when he was in Waterstones so picked up a book by an author he'd heard of (that's what he said!) having forgotten the very long conversation we had had about how much we both loathed her. I just gave that back immediately saying "you read it". He gave it to his sister who loved it.

I'm fond of vintage/antique jewellery. A few months ago my husband showed me a picture of a necklace he'd spotted in an antique centre and asked what I thought of it. I didn't like it and told him so, it really wasn't my style at all. Fast forward a couple of weeks and I get a text from him saying "Do you want your Christmas present now or on Christmas Day?" - this was in September - so I said on Christmas please. Half an hour later he walks in and presents me with a small box saying he'd decided I should have this straight away. It was the fucking necklace. He'd given me something I said I didn't like, in September, as a Christmas present. We had words and the outcome was he took it back.

He gave it to his sister who loved it.

...allegedly 😂

Every year he gets me at least two pairs of nasty rhodium plated things and he gets upset that I don't look happy.

This year stab them through his earlobes.

One year exh bought me a lovely Parker pen with HIS name engraved on it that funnily enough I never got to use. It’s up there with the mermaid toilet brush holder I got for Xmas because it matched the shower curtain 🙄

OH told me last night he'd already brought my Christmas present, not Amazon, not slipping a few folding notes to daughter either! I think I'll be wicked and tell him that I'm going to download the new Ian Rankin book and watch his face,I'm sure he thinks that Rankin published a new Rebus in November every year for OH's convenience.

We've only had this conversation for the last 38 years. I think I've finally realised that he doesn't actually listen when I speak.

It took 38 years to realise this?? I once pointed out a book and said 'I don't want that for Christmas', 25th Dec there it was, OH looking pleased, he remembered I'd mentioned it! I've had 50 years and it gets no better, as poverty strapped students, when being poverty strapped really meant something, he bought we some posh cookery cards, I'd never even heard of most of the ingredients, for my 50th birthday I got a Terry chocolate orange, to me the equivalent of sucking a dirty nappy but he loves!

Send an email with a link to what you actually want or do an Amazon gift list.

One of the reasons I make a big deal about how "incredibly fussy" I am is so that I get a present I halfway like.

Throughout the year I tell DH when I think of something that would make a good Christmas present (for me or for any of his family). He makes a note of it on his phone. Pity he had his phone stolen last week...

One year (ex) dp asked me what i'd like for Xmas. I said I really didn't want anything, maybe just some nice bubble bath. He knew I needed new boots but I specifically said "please don't get me boots" as I'm stupidly fussy about them, I knew exactly what I wanted I just hadn't found them yet. (I have a real thing about boots, a bit like finding the right pair of jeans).

So guess what he got me ... now perhaps I do sound ungrateful but not only had he got me a pair of boots, they were brown fake uggs (I was after knee length black leather boots). Not only that but one was a 6 and the other was a 6.5 "as that was all they had left"

I just buy myself stuff and ask for the cash or money towards
So far this year I’ve bought a new handbag, cashmere scarf, purse, perfume and some diamond earrings
He can choose according to his budget
I have bought him a few things he’s pointed out as wanting over the last few months - I also know a few other things he might want but if I’m not sure I just send him the link and actually ask - would you like this for Xmas
It works for us

One year not long after we got married my husband happily presented me with my present. He was so proud of himself as he's asked the girls at work what he should get me and they told him.

So I open up Molton Brown bath salts and bubble bath. Trouble is I'd said numerous times that I really am not a bath person, and that most mass produced bath things make me skin itch and give me a headache. But the real icing on the cake was.......we didn't even have a bath!!!!

He's much better now, we tend to mostly not buy each other things as we have kids and it's expensive but on the occasions he does buy me a gift it's always one I want. Although I know how he manages this, as usually shortly before he goes shopping or fires up Amazon I find one of our children asking me what I want for my birthday or from Santa

Just laughing at all these gifts. Bath stuff when you have no bath ffs.

My exH got me a remote control car that can drive up walls. That was absolutely and completely a present for him, I had never expressed the remotest interest in owning such a thing.
He played with it for a few days then it fell off the wall and broke. What a shame.

awh! I sympathize. But if you hate most of his presents, then you really need to explicitly tell him exactly what you want in the future! I know my DH really well, but I am getting to the point where I struggle to think of what to get him...

If you'd prefer family time or personal time to tat, then maybe tell him something really specific that he can arrange. Like, literally write down that "I want you to arrange a day out where we go to X and do Y".

Also, one year for my birthday I got handed a bar of chocolate and a card. I was literally sitting there smiling, waiting for my real present, assuming this was just a nice cute extra touch... Once I figured out that this measly bar of chocolate was it (and not even a type I like!!!) I did not hide how pissed off I was. Since then, we've been much more direct about what we want.

My DH once bought me roller blades for my Christmas present. Not only was I heavily pregnant, I also wasn't living in Venice fucking Beach.

One year dh got me nothing..... absolutely nothing. Another a car air freshener. He is now exdh!!!