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Argh! I just told DH I didn't want his gift

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GoatFinger · 23/11/2018 07:40

I don't know how rude it was.
I was presented with a gift from DH and I just stood looking at it before asking why he had bought it.
It's more like a gift for him. I don't want it. So I said I didn't want it and questioned why he'd bought it. It was supposed to be my Xmas present.

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GoatFinger · 23/11/2018 08:18

So many typos.
Lusted not listed.
I'd be a hypocrite not is.
I'm ungrateful and a terrible typer.

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Mumtoboy123 · 23/11/2018 08:18

Give him the money for it and wrap it up for his xmas present... xmas shopping done!

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GoatFinger · 23/11/2018 08:19

😀 we have our tree up already so I think he's confused as to the month.

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NotAnotherParkingFine · 23/11/2018 08:20

One Christmas DH kept saying how pleased he was with what he'd got me, that I was going to love it, that it took a lot of organising. I was really intrigued and excited to know what it was. Christmas day he announces it's in the garage (new car?), So off I trot full of anticipation, to find a badly wrapped hostess trolley. I actually cried.

cece · 23/11/2018 08:23

My DH gave me a meat thermometer one year.

StarShapedWindow · 23/11/2018 08:23

Years ago my DH bought me a Nano as my Birthday present, I hate tech and gadgets. It was at a time when we were really skint and he’d got the back engraved with a message at the Apple store so I couldn’t even broach the idea of swapping it for something I actually wanted. I could have cried at the waste of money.

StarShapedWindow · 23/11/2018 08:24

Cece - I bet I know where you stuck it!

yumyumpoppycat · 23/11/2018 08:25

Don't need to be grateful, just say I don't need one of those lets take it back and get some headphones, rather than put so much emphasis on a choice of present.

MrsStrowman · 23/11/2018 08:25

He might be a bit misguided but I'd say he had thought about you, you complain about noise from neighbours in the garden so he probably thought that way you can listen to your music and not theirs. You sound quite grumpy

PurpleDaisies · 23/11/2018 08:27

we have our tree up already so I think he's confused as to the month.

But it’s obviously not Christmas Day.
That makes no sense at all.

drivingmisspotty · 23/11/2018 08:29

Well, he’s your husband. I think you should be able to tell him you don’t want the gift as long as you were kind about it. Which it sounds like you were. I don’t think you should have to be tiptoeing around your DH worrying about looking ungrateful like you might with an elderly aunt.

KnightlyMyMan · 23/11/2018 08:31

@cece

I laughed reading this, found DP eyeing a meat thermometer in John Lewis at the weekend. Asked why and got ‘well you said ages ago would be useful to have one’ to which I KNEW he was planning my Christmas.

In context...I said it would be useful whilst cooking the turkey last Christmas...the one time a year I would use it!

frogbike · 23/11/2018 08:33

I don’t think you’re ungrateful. I think you should have said oh right and just sent it back though with no comment. Now you’ve opened to the possibility of you being guilt tripped into keeping it.

ZenNudist · 23/11/2018 08:35

YANBUngrateful.

One year i was sat down to a big pile of pressies, three of which were Bluetooth speakers. Clearly house gifts / things dh wanted. But i got other gift too. It was funny the way they were presented as 'mine'.

Take this as your warning this year tell him what you want so you get it on Christmas Day.

Dafspunk · 23/11/2018 08:39

Just tell him to return it and swap for a pair of those nice headphones.

EdisonLightBulb · 23/11/2018 08:39

@notanotherparkingfine

I actually guffawed out loud at that! I'm sorry, you poor thing but that is hilariously bad.

nonetcurtains · 23/11/2018 08:43

Buy the wireless headphones you really want and wrap them up for his Christmas present. Oh and give them to him three weeks before Christmas.

grumiosmum · 23/11/2018 08:47

Gosh, the disgruntled present receivers are starting early this year.

However, OP, I would also be disappointed in your shoes. Buy yourself something nice & give it to him.

cece · 23/11/2018 08:47

I had never expressed any interest in meat thermometers prior to DH kind gift.

adaline · 23/11/2018 08:55

I get that it wasn't what you asked for but I would be so upset if I gave my husband a gift and he said to my face "no, I don't want it".

busybarbara · 23/11/2018 08:56

TBH a meat thermometer is useful all the time. Rather than have to follow timings that are often wrong or overcook meat, just stop as soon as it's the right temperature and you end up with much nicer meat. Steaks and chicken are particularly hard to get right without one.

Buddytheelf85 · 23/11/2018 08:58

So off I trot full of anticipation, to find a badly wrapped hostess trolley. I actually cried.

Grin Why did he think you would like that? Do you do a lot of baking for bake sales or something?

Thebluedog · 23/11/2018 09:00

My ex was like this, he’d buy me things and I’d sit there and scratch my head. Not only were they not what I wanted, but more stuff I really didn’t want. It would be like buying a vegetarian a meat thermometer. I’d often just sit there and wonder if he knew me at all.

JoyceTempleSavage · 23/11/2018 09:00

where you're going wrong is not telling him what you want

you should have asked for wireless headphones

Mooster62 · 23/11/2018 09:07

I asked my husband to please get me something impractical one year (after years of useful gifts like hoovers!). He gave me a lovely tennis racket and was very please with it. I don't play tennis!