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Argh! I just told DH I didn't want his gift

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GoatFinger · 23/11/2018 07:40

I don't know how rude it was.
I was presented with a gift from DH and I just stood looking at it before asking why he had bought it.
It's more like a gift for him. I don't want it. So I said I didn't want it and questioned why he'd bought it. It was supposed to be my Xmas present.

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Juells · 23/11/2018 09:11

nervousnelly22

Tbh it sounds like you were rude and snippy about it too.

haha when I read your post, then saw your posting name, I thought "no wonder she's nervous - she should try being forthright now and again, it does wonders for the constitution".

My ex always bought me shitty presents. Not for his mother though, she got good ones. For years I made silver, gold and enamel jewellery and one year he gave me some cheap shit mass market 'necklace and earring set' that wasn't even silver, just some base metal. Like what you'd buy on a market stall. He'd claim 'there's no pleasing you', the cry of husbands everywhere when they haven't bothered their arses to try to figure out what you'd actually like as a present. If it was someone they were trying to persuade into bed for hot sex they'd be well able to find something pleasing to the the giftee 🤣

littlemeitslyn · 23/11/2018 09:16

Fucking hate People who swear unecessarily

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GoatFinger · 23/11/2018 09:20

I didn't ask for anything. I don't care about the gifts at Xmas. I'd like some family time.

He bought himself a meat injector that you use to inject juices into meat before cooking. That's a great product.

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Seaweed42 · 23/11/2018 09:20

I once knew someone who gave their wife a Fire Extinguisher for her birthday because she said she wanted something unexpected - a surprise. It was on special offer so added bonus.

PurpleDaisies · 23/11/2018 09:21

Did he genuinely think it was Christmas Day today?

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GoatFinger · 23/11/2018 09:24

He didn't think it was Xmas day.
At least I hope not.

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MemoryOfSleep · 23/11/2018 09:24

My DH can pick up disappointment from my fake excitement. I try my best not to let disappointment show, but he can tell. I think it's genuinely very easy to get presents wrong, I've bought my DH some things over the years that he has never used, I'd have been mortified if he made a show of not liking them.

Your DH thought of you enough to buy something this far in advance. He probably thought that you like to spend time in the garden and picked it forgetting what you said about music from others' gardens. I once got bought a fake crocodile skin watch despite the fact I had explicitly said when asking for a watch that I hate animal skin patterns. The watch was my favourite colour (though a shade I wouldn't have used for a watch tbh!) and he had put thought into it, just fallen very wide of the mark. I wore it because it's the thought that counts.

I'd have said thank you and just not used it.

Eliza9917 · 23/11/2018 09:34

I was talking about a mini blender I'm sure I saw a few years ago but can't find now so I'm wondering if I'll get something like that.

It was like a mini blender but for herbs and dressings, its not the Jamie Oliver shaker, it was definitely electric but I can't find it whatever I google. That's good though actually because it means he won't find it either!

Last year I gave him a list of things to pick from which worked well so I'll do that again this year.

CornflakeGhetto · 23/11/2018 09:39

I bought my exdh a kindle once because he always spent half an hour on the loo reading. His words were 'What the fuck did you buy this for?' Hmm

Wheresthebeach · 23/11/2018 09:40

Gift lists are your friend!

We always do that, then everyone is happy with what they receive, and there isn't any stress over what to buy.

Sounds like he doesn't quite get the concept of gift giving.

CornflakeGhetto · 23/11/2018 09:41

My grandad bought my gran a stereogram for her birthday so she repaid the compliment on his birthday & bought him a sewing machine!Grin

Sethis · 23/11/2018 09:44

Why not just give him a list if you know he's shit at buying gifts?

thinkful · 23/11/2018 09:44

I wouldn't like that present either and I really dislike buying things for the sake of it. I mainly mean my parents though - they have everything they need, if they want something they buy it, they hoard stuff. I've bought them stuff that has gone unused. This year I've got them an amazon echo even though I got them one last year and then sent it back (before gifting) after hearing my dad say how rubbish it is. But I got the lightbulbs and plugs this time and she plays games, I think they'd like it. I could be wrong though.

Last year I bought my DH a games table. Unused, I just gave it away this week. And a couple of years ago a Scalextric. This year he's getting a tattoo voucher and a massage voucher.

My poor DH probably dreads buying my presents too.

Juells · 23/11/2018 09:48

It was like a mini blender but for herbs and dressings, its not the Jamie Oliver shaker, it was definitely electric but I can't find it whatever I google. That's good though actually because it means he won't find it either!

A friend bought me something like that last year - you can chop herbs, or she does raw beetroot/apple/ginger, that kind of thing. Kenwood. Quite cheap, about €25 IIRC. Might not be as posh as what you describe.

Kenwood Mini Chopper is the one I have.

LizzieSiddal · 23/11/2018 09:54

I hear you OP, you weren't being rude.

Dh's first Xmas present to me was a .........Chocolate Orange, I thought it was a joke, but no, it wasn't.

In his defense, when he was growing up, his family made no effort at all with Xmas presents or Xmas in general.

Thankfully, he's a quick learner and he has made an effort ever since.

Buy yourself something nice!

BombBiggleton · 23/11/2018 09:56

That's up there with the suprise weekends away ( where the organiser basically uses joint money to go somewhere they want to without the partner having a chance to object)

Another is tickets to see a show or a gig, that's totally impractical to get to, will incur extra expense that you will have to pay for yourself ( travel tickets, hotel etc) and is as much for the ' giver' as for the ' receiver'

PurpleDaisies · 23/11/2018 09:58

He didn't think it was Xmas day.
At least I hope not.

Did he say why he was giving it to you today?

minisoksmakehardwork · 23/11/2018 09:58

@Mooster62 well you can't argue the racket wasn't completely impractical then 😆

But I know what you mean 'buy me something frivolous'

My dh isn't too bad. But I don't mind practical gifts. His joke present of a digital timer gets used all the time (I have a habit of burning things).

Dh however is a sod to buy for. He is gadget mad and often buys the thing I was going to get. So I beat him to it this year and bought him an echo. Which he has barely used. We have since been given/bought more and they all get used a lot more than his.

wombatsears · 23/11/2018 09:59

I wouldn't like that present either and I really dislike buying things for the sake of it.

@thinkful I'm the same. If there's something I really want, I buy it. I'm never wowed by gifts I'm bought and I'm sure others aren't by my gifts. It gets harder every year and feels like I'm buying crap just for the sake of gift giving.

So this year I have agreed with DP that we will not gift give but instead spend the money we would have spent on gift on an experience instead like a night away or fancy meal out.

StormTreader · 23/11/2018 09:59

It will have been on "black friday" special offer, thats why its so early.
Tell him you want to swap it for his fancy wireless headphones.

Tinty · 23/11/2018 10:05

He has wireless headphones actually and I really want them. I can't stand other people's noise

Just ask him to swop with you take the speaker back and get you wireless headphones.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 23/11/2018 10:26

Men have been pulling these kind of stunts for decades. My dad got my mum a set of whisky glasses one year and a soda siphon another year. (She never drinks whisky or anything with soda.) Treat him to a nice make up set or some jewellery you've had your eye on for a while. See how grateful he is then!

MsLexic · 23/11/2018 10:30

My ex husband once bought me a piece of Lush soap for Christmas. I saw the packet and kept sniffing it and he knew I thought it was a bottle of perfume. Turned out it was fucking soap. I can't even use Lush soap.
That was all I got, a piece of that hacked off soap they sell. Nope he was well paid.

Nanny0gg · 23/11/2018 10:35

The Thought only counts if there actually is any