My neighbours are on Age Gap Love tonight

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I've namechanged because this will out me.
But my neighbours are on Age Gap Love tonight on C5.
He was her step father ffs!!!
But they have kids!!
AIBU to think that if you have kids in such a fucked up relationship you don't draw attention to the fact that your relationship is fucked up!?

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6410831/Teen-married-step-father-despite-41-year-age-gap-met-wedding-MOTHER.html

www.google.co.uk/url?sa=i&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwj67dWF6-XeAhVpIcAKHaOzDIgQzPwBegQIARAC&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mirror.co.uk%2Flifestyle%2Ffamily%2Fmy-daughter-married-my-husband-1686164&psig=AOvVaw2B7Ln6tN_NIFGrZRGj2z5K&ust=1542901746955848

Erm think the mere fact that you’ve said you live next door to them has outed you.....

Well presumably they’ll realise who you are.

Neighbours doesn’t mean next door necessarily

That's why OP name changed. Yes it will out her in terms of being their neighbour, but it protects her posting history and keeps it private.

No not next door, same area.

Yes, that's what I meant by name changing newtothisriver.

I think it speaks volumes in terms of mentality that the mother considered her husband and daughter to be having an 'affair' when she was just 16. Any parent with half a brain would see the surety bastard for what he was and protect their daughter. The family sound so messed up it's unreal, but to normalise what was obviously an abusive situation is an awful thing for the mother to do.

God, that article is depressing.

Haven't read the article but it is illegal to have a relationship with a former step parent.

Was this guy her actual step parent or was he just married to her mother? The article linked states that when this guy married her mother she was living with father and then went into foster care. It suggests that they never had a parent/child relationship. That doesn’t make the 14/55 (?) age gap/possible grooming thing right but i think the DM has sensationalised the step-parent side of things (as if the story needed more).

God that's revolting. Reading between the lines there was a cross over in the relationship and likely she's married her abuser

It’s not illegal (they are not blood relations).

I feel sorry for the kids, why go on tv to make yourself look even more stupid

I was at school with siblings whose father was in a relationship with their maternal grand mother (and had quite possibly had a son with the grandmother in the 11 months between the sibling's births).

There is clearly a lot more to this. She didn't live with her mum, she was in foster care. Why was that the situation? This relationship has probably resulted from a mix of resentment towards her mother and a need for stability. The guy is the one who's done wrong in this. He took advantage of a messed up 15/16 year old girl (it's unclear to me at what age it started) when he could and should have been a support to the family.

Haven't read the article but it is illegal to have a relationship with a former step parent

No it isn't. A step parent and step child cannot marry but there is nothing in law to prevent them having a relationship unless the step parent has adopted the child.

Oh that’s really upsetting tbh. I hate it when tv/newspapers sensationalise things like this when it’s clearly just a sad story of a 15 year old girl from a troubled background, in foster care, being groomed by an old man. It’s not “ooooh, taboo love” it’s basically abuse.

The mirror article says he was interviewed by the police over the relationship, although not charged. It sounds horrendous.

Ick. Shades of woody Allen. Poor girl was a victim

A step parent and step child cannot marry

But they are married according to the article. Is their marriage invalid? I recall reading about an obscure law once where it was illegal for men to marry their former mother in laws. I'm not sure if it's ever been repealed.

A step parent and step child cannot marry but there is nothing in law to prevent them having a relationship unless the step parent has adopted the child

In saying this, I am assuming they are both adults at the time of the relationship. If the step child is under 18 it is illegal.

The daughter sounds so messed up, doesn't she?

A heart warming tale.

He was an anusive older man praying on a very vulnerable teenage girl. She’s clearly had a very difficult life, being in foster care and with a mother who feels a 15 year old can have an “affair” with a man in his 50s. He groomed the girl. It’s awful IMO.

It’s not “ooooh, taboo love” it’s basically abuse

I agree and it disturbs me how things like this are branded as "entertainment". Which is probably why I don't watch a lot of TV!

I would class him as more of a stepfather if he had raised her from a fairly young age. She was a vulnerable girl in foster care presumably with a very broken relationship with her Mother. It does sound like to her this was an act of revenge in some way but who knows. I feel the man in question has somewhat groomed her. It’s sad all round.!