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Original poster

How do you dispose of sanitary protection?

139 replies

BinkBear · 21/11/2018 01:17

Wondering what people do when it’s their time of the month and they need to dispose of protection? DH is complaining about me wrapping mine in loo roll then in one of those little scented plastic bags and popping it in the kitchen bin (indoors). He insists it has to go straight in the outdoor bin. Even if I’m naked and it’s 1am and it’s raining. I think he’s batshit and there’s no reason I can’t pop it in the indoor bin and take the bin bag out in the morning. AIBU?

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WelliesAndPyjamas · 21/11/2018 01:20

He has been raised to think periods are disgusting, bless him 🤔

gotmybigbootson · 21/11/2018 01:22

He is bu.

My Dh cleaned some of my miscarriage off the floor today.

My 5 year old ds sees my sanitary waste in the bin and doesn't blanch.

Tell him to get a fucking grip.

snitzelvoncrumb · 21/11/2018 01:22

I use the bin next to the toilet. Maybe give him the bag to take out, see how he likes it.

PhaedrasChocolate · 21/11/2018 01:22

Its a bodily function. You don't choose to menstruate Hmm

Why's he so squeamish?

Tell him to fuck off.

PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 21/11/2018 01:22

Just wrap it, put it in the bag, wake him up, hand it to him, and say " there you go darling, just nip and pop that in the bin outside"....
Or just get a bathroom bin with a lid, pedal or swing bin, and tell him to fuck off Grin he is being an arse

PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 21/11/2018 01:23

Oh gotmybigbootson hugs to you lovely. Sad

PhaedrasChocolate · 21/11/2018 01:25

Sorry for your loss gotmybigbootson Flowers

Perfectly1mperfect · 21/11/2018 01:28

I think he’s batshit

And you would be correct.

If he wants it in the outside bin, I'd be telling him to do it himself. What a twat!🙄

Perfectly1mperfect · 21/11/2018 01:29

gotmybigbootson

Sorry for your loss.

Original poster
BinkBear · 21/11/2018 01:30

Sorry to hear about your loss gotmybigbootson Flowers

DH wasn’t happy with the plastic bag being in the bathroom till tomorrow morning. So I put it in the kitchen bin, which has a bin bag, a lid and is inside a cupboard. He has kicked off and yelled about it because apparently it’s disgusting to take it in the kitchen where the food is. He’s so upset that he got up, got dressed, took the bin bag outside in the pouring rain in the middle of the night, then cried and went to sleep on the sofa because apparently he can’t cope with my behaviour any more.

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Perfectly1mperfect · 21/11/2018 01:38

then cried and went to sleep on the sofa because apparently he can’t cope with my behaviour any more.

He cried ?

WelliesAndPyjamas · 21/11/2018 01:39

Wow
Is he actually ok? Sounds like he has something else going on

eachtigertires · 21/11/2018 01:44

Um yeah he is being unreasonable. That is a very strange reaction to menstruation. I use reusables now but before I did that I put them in the bathroom bin. It was inside a cupboard with a lid as the dog quite liked to rifle through the bin to chew them. DP doesn’t care where I put used tampons/pads ( as long as they’re in a bin).

LoudJazzHands · 21/11/2018 01:50

Ermmm....wow..?

What does he think they're going to do? Grow legs and wander around the kitchen in the middle of the night?

PhaedrasChocolate · 21/11/2018 01:52

There must be more to this... He's crying because of periods? Dearie me.

Purpleartichoke · 21/11/2018 01:53

Wrap in a bit of tissue and stick in the bathroom trash. Take trash outside only when bin is full. It’s just menstruation. It doesn’t need to be secreted away.

gotmybigbootson · 21/11/2018 01:53

Thank you all.

Does he display ocd traits op?

Purpleartichoke · 21/11/2018 01:55

Is this the first period you have had while living together? Is he 12?

Original poster
BinkBear · 21/11/2018 01:57

I’m convinced he has OCD. He insists he doesn’t.

He complained about a used pad being in the kitchen bin. I pointed out that there’s blood in the kitchen every time I go in because it’s on a pad in my knickers (and that one isn’t even in a plastic bag). I cook his food etc and the pad I’m currently wearing is only a couple of feet away from the food. And he may have taken the bin bag out but there’s still blood in the kitchen because my underwear is in the washing machine waiting to be washed tomorrow. He simply cannot cope with the idea of me daring to menstruate indoors. The problem is that he’s calling me disgusting because HE can’t cope with any used sanitary products being in the house.

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tildaMa · 21/11/2018 02:03

Does he go crazy like this when he cuts his finger, puts a plaster on it and then throws it in the bin?

It's not OCD.

Original poster
BinkBear · 21/11/2018 02:03

Is this the first period you have had while living together?
Prior to this I had a reusable cup that I rinsed under the tap, so there was nothing for him to see (or complain about). However it isn’t advised to use internal protection for a while after giving birth so I currently have pads. He can’t cope with me putting them (wrapped) in the bin. And I’m not going out in the rain to the outdoor bin every time I use the loo.

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tildaMa · 21/11/2018 02:06

Is he the same about dirty nappies?

gotmybigbootson · 21/11/2018 02:06

@BinkBear hmm.

I suffer from OCD at times and his behaviour sounds very familiar to mine with other things.

Sometimes Dh will come in the house with a thermal coffee cup he's kept in the car and if I think it has mould in it I can't have it in the house. I'll freak out and cry.

This can also happen if he's come in from being in a public place and not scrubbed his hands. I'll be an angry and upset mess.

Not all the time, not even often anymore.

Not saying that's what's going on with him it it struck a big cord with me.

PhaedrasChocolate · 21/11/2018 02:08

Jesus, what was he like when you had a baby??

gotmybigbootson · 21/11/2018 02:08

@tildaMa I have diagnosed OCD (from several doctors) and his behaviour is similar to mine when I'm having an episode.