He was a horrible man when i was a child. Violent and mentally abusive towards my mum and I. He made my life hell.
After all the awful things he did i have not forgotten or forgiven but i speak to him as i would any other person. I am civil and make small talk, so is/does he.
So why, at the age of 30 should i be bothered still by his name calling?
For example a few weeks ago he dropped my mum off at my house, leaned out of the car window and called me a bastard. He didn't shout it, but he said it loud enough for me to hear, while staring at me. I had done nothing, nothing at all apart from answering the door. This is just what he did when i was a child. I would walk past him to go to my room, or the kitchen and he would call me a slut, or a bitch or a twat, whatever sprung to mind really.
So tonight i phoned my mum and i can hear him calling me names in the background, taunting me. Problem is, my son (who strangely, he adores) was with them and heard it all.
I only called her to ask if i could borrow a loaf of bread ffs...it doesn't take anything to set him off.
What is his f*ing problem? If i can forget the past then why cant he just keep it buttoned and act like an adult. He's an old man now and i'm not physically scared of him anymore but the name calling upsets me, and mum says nothing about it. Why should i have to put up with this? I'm not a bad person, i dont cause trouble, i dont scrounge from them, i dont put on them in any way, i go to work, i look after my kids...why does he hate me so much?