to let my DD get what she wants?

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Hi all. I have four teenage DC (13 and 14 yo boys, 16 and 19 yo girls)

My 16yo DD is turning 17 next year early January and is not into clothes, make-up, music ect. like my other three DC. She's a sweet girl with a very kind personality. Loves animals. She doesn't act her age and acts around 11-12 but can be very mature at times. She also has ASD and GAD and was only diagnosed when she was 14 when her mental health worsened and she became suicidal. She receives help now and is happy.

Her relationship with her father and my DP isn't that great and he gets on more with my other DC, especially eldest. Every Christmas and birthday DD16 has asked for toys. I have absolutely no problem with it at all and get what she asks for. My DP began finding it strange when she was 12 as she'd hit puberty then and was still asking for toys and such. He told her then she needed to start asking for different things.

Fast forward now, this year she's asked for animal toys (those figurines) a Kruselings doll and dollhouse furniture as well as some books as she is a very avid reader, a Barbie doll and remote control car and some Twozies. This is a lot more toy heavy than last year but I'm absolutely fine with it. But DP snapped earlier and told her she had to grow up now she's nearly in college. DD cried and shut herself in her room then I got into a massive argument with DP and he went off in a strop.

AIBU to get my DD what she wants for Christmas? Or should I try encourage her to like more age appropriate thngs? Because I am worried what she will do when we're gone and all. She is very very sensitive.

if she has confidence in this pressure to be grown up world to still want toys then good on her! girls are told so much to be like adults.or to certainly be older than they are.good good on her.
if this is the only thing that is "childish" then it doesn't even mean she is immature or will struggle.its simply a choice of things she finds joy in.
if there is other thing that at her age she isn't aware of.safety,health,learning.appropriate behaviour then that is only then you need to thnk on to how she will manage in the coming world.but her liking toys doesn't need to be something that will dictate how adult she can be.
as long as your teaching her and she is able to still want to do things that people her age do.and is aware and socially strong enough then toys is a great way id say for her to keep escaping to and finding joy in.