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..or is my friend a cake wanker?

142 replies

sconebonjovi · 11/11/2018 12:45

'It was my friend's 30th birthday party yesterday; a surprise that I helped organise. I spent all morning making a lovely cake for the party. According to the recipe it served 32 people.
Took the cake to the pub, lit the candles, sang happy birthday etc etc, was all very nice.

When we left the pub, she asked my husband to drop the cake back at her house. When I said ‘don’t you want to take it to the restaurant so everyone can have a piece’ she said ‘no, I want to have as much of it as possible’, and that was that.

Am I being petty, or is that really bloody weird?! Our other friends were also a little confused as to what had happened to the cake. Cake is for sharing!

OP posts:
OkMaybeNot · 12/11/2018 19:15

I'm a cake maker. I made my friend's wedding cake.

She didn't serve it. Said she wanted to keep it and freeze so she could have a slice whenever she wanted.

It fed 150 Confused

AnotherEmma · 12/11/2018 19:32

😱

rainbowquack · 12/11/2018 19:32

CF. Next time present the cake and have it cut and shared immediately.

MrBirlingsAwfulWife · 12/11/2018 19:43

Next time ice a cardboard cake Wink

diddl · 12/11/2018 19:43

" Next time present the cake and have it cut and shared immediately."

Not up to someone else once they have handed the cake over though, is it?

Br1256 · 12/11/2018 20:30

Bit confused....you took the cake to the pub, was that where the party was did people have a piece of the cake then...was there a second do at the resturant ..

DazedLion · 12/11/2018 20:49

Hahaha Love it. It’s her birthday she can do what she likes with her cake

rockchickchickyrock · 12/11/2018 21:00

😂😂😂 at cake wanker!

threatmatrix · 12/11/2018 22:22

I Don’t think people realise how much restaurants hate people bringing cakes in. They expect you to know when to bring it out, then make a big fuss, supply plates and napkins etc when all you have done is do them out of you buying a sweet. The staff really have nothing better to do have they ? It’s not like there’s 5 trays of cutlery to be polished or anything.

TechnicalSergeantGarp · 12/11/2018 22:41

Wine taken to a dinner party is a gift for the hosts, I'd never expect it to be opened. I took my dsis a lively bottle of wine in Saturday and a cheaper bottle and alcohol free beers for over dinner. There was enough of that to share and I agreed with her that I'd do this. I also took soft drinks for her DC. I'd never turn up epmty handed or expect to drink or eat my present.

It all boils down to the protocol between friends and as demonstrated on this thread, people have very different expectations.

I think the OP was blowing her own trumpet and a bit cheeky. That being said we once went halves on a birthday cake for MIL. £150 for our contribution., Sil carted it to the venue, we carted it back to her house and we still weren't allowed a slice. That was mean (and I've never done it since)

Ladyrimmofpinn · 13/11/2018 00:20

She must have really appreciated it to not want anyone else to have it...... however ‘a moment on the lips a lifetime on the hips’!!! She might live to regret it.

freshfoodpeople · 13/11/2018 02:25

Wierdest thing i came accross at a birthday party was when they didn’t seeve the cake. Must have been about a 7 or 8 th birthday. Dropped dc off and dutifully returned at the allotted time to pick her up. Party breaking up, i’m getting dd to say her thank you’s and goodbyes when she whispered when were they going to do the cake? And yes, there in the middle of the remains of the birthday food was the birthday cake. Uncut, uncandled, still in the box

I experienced this too, except I was the seven year old guest. The birthday girl's mother refused to cut it up after the singing and candles because the dad wasn't there to see it uncut - despite the fact that the mother had taken several photos of it at the party! Hmm 100 Years later I can still remember this party above all others from my childhood, for all the wrong reasons. It was very weird!

AjasLipstick · 13/11/2018 03:15

People are funny about cake.

It's a very special thing after all.

StoppinBy · 13/11/2018 03:52

Haha, that is really weird, she waved the cake in everyone's face, blew out the candles, no doubt accepted pressies then legged it without giving everyone a piece.

No explanation for the weirdness of some people.

MaidofEyes · 13/11/2018 10:53

I think if you anticipated it being handed out in the restaurant you should have waited until after the meal to bring it out.

Giving it to her before you even went to the restaurant makes it seem more like a present than a pudding.

And maybe she thought, 'I know, I'll take it in to work on Monday to hand out to colleagues instead of having to buy cakes'?

AjasLipstick · 13/11/2018 11:17

Maid I agree.

storm11111 · 13/11/2018 12:20

whilst i can totally see why your pissed off. i have some strange kind of respect for her lmao. She wanted the whole fricking thing hahaha

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