Birthday party around 10 am on a Sunday morning.

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One of my friends invited me to their child's birthday party at 10am on Sunday. AIBU if I refuse to go? What you would have done assuming reaching the venue takes 1 hour. And you have school going kids who need a break on Sunday?

No chance!!

I don't think that's bad at all, what's the relevance of 10am? Would you go if it was 1pm?

I would have gone. Why?

Either accept the invitation or politely decline, depending on what you want to do and how close you are to the birthday child.

How old is kid? We hosted and went yo a couple at thus time when d's was v young - for parents of children at that age it can work as they have been up for hours anyway and the endless questions 're party start times are cut short.

But I would never expect random friends without small children to attend!

Maybe they have other family thugs to do later in the day. Sounds reasonable if that’s the case. A party is a break isn’t it? They aren’t going to be doing an exam at it.

It's not like it's at 7am. I would go.

But then I have a toddler that's the best time of day for them at the moment (same as most kids having one afternoon nap) so if it's a young child then I'd definitely understand why they chose that time.

Things .. not thugs 😫

Not sure I understand- what's the problem with 10am?

10 am on a Sunday morning is early but to not go because of the time is a bit of a lame excuse. Have an early night on Saturday and set your alarm.

We went to a 4YO bday that was similar time start and 1hr away, but went away v impressed with the genius of the idea. We were done and dusted by lunchtime and had the whole afternoon when we got back to chill out. Much better than leaving a party on a sun night with a tired kid and a 1 hr journey back through horrible sun night traffic. Plus they served up Bellinis for parents

DS got invited to lots of 10am parties when he was a toddler. It’s a cheaper time slot at our local soft play, and if they’re young then you would have been up for hours with them anyway. I quite liked them as it kept him entertained.

If it’s an older kid then it might be more difficult.

Erm...it's ridiculously early for a sunday? And OP will have to leave at 9 to get there in time.

It would be another school run for me which I don't wish to do 🙄.. In fact school run is easier getting up and leaving house and going on the tube with 2 little ones with 2 changes on the way I really don't wish to do. I don't wish to sound rude but 10am timing really annoyed me. Had it been lunch time with the weather changing to little sunny I would have gone.

I'd do it. I leave the house for school at 830, so leaving at 9 still gives an extra half hour chill / relax time. It's only one Sunday.

Once the party is done you have the rest of the afternoon to chill.

You sound bizarre.

Please don't go and do the host a favour!

A party at 10am on the weekend is absolutely fine. In fact, it would be my preference of a party time, as children can be worn out for a nice chilled out afternoon 😁.

So...don't go then? YANBU to refuse if it eats into your weekend rest time. But they are NBU to have the party at that time. Some people/families are early risers for whom a 9am departure is a lie in

To quote the MN Classic, it’s an invitation, not a summons. You don’t have to go if you don’t want to. You seem to be taking the (perfectly reasonable) timing personally

10am party is perfect. Children come out fed at a reasonably appropriate meal time and you can still do something as a family for the rest of the day.

I agree...10am is sweet! Gets it out of the way early doors and leaves you the rest of the day. It’s far worse when a party is mid afternoon at the weekend, your whole day ends up revolving around it.
I love an early party slot, especially on a Sunday.

It's not an unreasonable time to hold a party for small kids, but if it doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you. It's probably the case that most of the other guests live nearer to the party venue or (like several PP) prefer to do parties in the morning to having to face a long journey home with tired DC on a Sunday evening.
Just politely decline if it's going to be difficult, but don't strop and pout and insist that the hosts are being unreasonable when they are not.

I would go but not if it involved a long journey and several changes on public transport. I have driven to earlier parties on a Sunday.

Your choice. I don't see the issue. I prefer an earlier party- over and done with and the kids aren't hyped up. You see it as a personal imposition- that's your choice. Not going is also your choice. Being a tad shitty at the time is also your choice but ridiculous. I'm inferring you live a distance away from the school your child goes to, and the party is in proximity(ish) to the school. So why would it be an issue for most since I assume they would live near the party child? Don't go, but for your child's sake- please don't make as big a deal out of it as you are here!

I did this and the clocks had gone back. Everyone turned up. Why wouldn’t they??

We're doing a 10am joint birthday party lasting two hours on a Sunday so people can have a sat morning (unless they have clubs etc) and they're out done and dusted by 12. Their child's fed and 'fingers crossed' might b early to bed because their tired out from being out so early in the day.