Birthday party around 10 am on a Sunday morning.

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One of my friends invited me to their child's birthday party at 10am on Sunday. AIBU if I refuse to go? What you would have done assuming reaching the venue takes 1 hour. And you have school going kids who need a break on Sunday?

It’s a perfectly reasonable time for a birthday party. If you don’t want to go, just decline, but don’t act like your friend has planned something crazy.

Most of the birthday parties we take our four year old to are 10am starts. Prefer it that way. All over by lunch and you can get on with your day. I thought it was quite a normal time for a party 🤷🏻‍♀️

Either accept or don't accept. 10am on a Sunday is a perfectly fine time for a children's birthday party.

AIBU IF I will refuse to go?

Calm down - I'm sure they won't lose any sleep if you don't go.

Totally normal. Nap time is 1-3 for little siblings/partygoers under 3, surely? Eat by 12, sleep on the way home. Perfect.

Go or don't. I don't suppose they'll care much either way. Of course you're not unreasonable to say no, but YABU if you think that they should schedule their party to suit you.

I don’t know why 10am would annoy you. It would be a great time for us and I suspect a lot of other parents with little ones

I doubt they care if you turn up or not to be honest

Ideal time imo assuming the child is little, it’s probably the best time of the day.
Or even a pre teen having an activity type birthday celebration such as swimming etc, this would be a good time.

They have their party, get fed and are chilled for the afternoon. You could still do a roast dinner if you wished but have it at about 4.00pm.
Then still plenty time for sorting school/nursery stuff for the week ahead.

I can’t see a problem what so ever, But if it’s really that much of a pain don’t go.

What's wrong with a party for young children at 10am on a Sunday?
Presumably they'll be fed so that's something you won't have to do and it will probably be 2 hours, not one.

My only problem would be me having to get up early and get myself and child ready to deliver them by 10am but I know many parents who don't mind being up at crack of dawn and even I could make the effort for something like a party.

My DD really needs her lie in at the weekend, she doesn't wake up naturally until 8, even on school nights she can't sleep before 9, I can understand why 10am if it's not round the corner is too early.

Dd2 and DS were invited to an 8:30-10:30am party about a month ago. The reason was because it was cheapest to hire the venue at that time. Party food was cereal and waffles 😊

I'm sort of with you, OP. I've never heard of a 10am party and the journey sounds painful too.
I do like the idea of the 1-3pm nap time being preserved though, so we used to invite people over for barbecues from 3pm and, if it was on Sunday, kick them out at 7pm.

I don't wish to sound rude but 10am timing really annoyed me
Annoyed you? How strange

Personally I think its a perfect time but you don't so you simply decline. Easy and drama free

I have just held a 10am Sunday birthday party for my dd. Didn't realise it would cause any upset, except I thought I might have a couple of declines for churchgoers, but actually didn't. I liked the idea of the kids being in a good morning mood, having fun, then being done after a light lunch, ready to relax and wind down for the rest of the afternoon before school the next day. Seemed to work out fine (and I was secretly pleased when a couple of people couldn't make it, since it meant less work for me, so I wouldn't worry at all if you decline it.)

Don't see the problem myself - but then the last party I had for Ds2 (6th) was from 10 til 12. The reason being that it was in a park in Australia, so I wanted them all out before the heat really picked up.

Look, if you can't be bothered to go, then you can't be bothered to go but accept that's your problem and not the party-thrower's.

I wouldn't mind it if it was around the corner, but not with the journey you've described.

10am on a Sunday? Our DC will have been up for 4-5 hours by then. Wouldn’t have an issue.

No chance I’m getting up at 7am on a Sunday to get kids ready to leave at 8.45 for a party starting at 10am to then be sat in a church hall/soft play/house or whatever with 10+ other screaming children

I’d just drop them off and then have a 3 hour nap in the car

10am for a children's party is quite normal where we are. My kids would have been up for ages.

Just don't go if it doesn't suit you

What on earth is wrong with 10am?

My son’s party is at 11am next week! I thought that was the best time as the children could have their lunch there and not be tired. He (and all his friends) get up early anyway. If someone didn’t like the time of the party, I’d prefer their declined the invitation rather than put themselves out though.

You’re not being unreasonable to not go - but YABU to make a drama out of it.
What’s the big deal with leaving the house at 9am on a Sunday?

I think 10am for a kids party is perfect! Why on earth would it annoy you? Just get up and make the effort so your child can enjoy the party :)

What on earth is wrong with 10am?

She wants one day in the week when she can have a bit of a lie-in; a relaxing morning instead of rushing across town. It’s not a lot to ask. All the faux-confusion and faces on this thread is beyond tedious.