Birthday party around 10 am on a Sunday morning.

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One of my friends invited me to their child's birthday party at 10am on Sunday. AIBU if I refuse to go? What you would have done assuming reaching the venue takes 1 hour. And you have school going kids who need a break on Sunday?

I would go, but 10.00am is a standard start time for parties here. And DS loves trains so getting there would be an exciting adventure for him (I know wrangling two kids is harder though).

If you don’t want to go, just politely decline now so party host/ess can start firming up the numbers. People declining my invitations never bothers me a bit (less party bags to make, woohoo!). But people who take ages to respond while they decide to, do bother me.

YANBU to politely decline if it is too much for you I am sure most people don't have an hour journey.

Yabu to be annoyed at the time, 10am is a good time for a lot of people. I prefer it to 1pm parties as we can still do something with the day. For soft play parties people often find it is quieter at 10am. The host has to do what is best for them.

Wouldn’t bother me in fact would hav elves it when the dc were small it means the party is out the way early and we have the rest of the day to relax and get ready for the week ahead. Fair enough it doesn’t suit you don’t go but to be annoyed about it seems like you are taking it a bit personally. It’s a party it isn’t compulsory.

If you have a toddler or slightly older child this is such a perfect time. They’ve normally been up for hours. Party gets them to burn of energy which is great for an easy afternoon. Don’t go if you don’t want to.

I am hosting my soon to be 3 years olds party at 10.30am on a Sunday at a soft play. It was done so as not to dip into nap time for children younger than her and so the whole of Sunday isn't taken over by a lunchtime party. Everyone has accepted! I think it's a good time for a party personally but if you'd rather not go, I'm sure the host won't mind.

It would be another school run for me which I don't wish to do 🙄.. In fact school run is easier getting up and leaving house and going on the tube with 2 little ones with 2 changes on the way I really don't wish to do. I don't wish to sound rude but 10am timing really annoyed me. Had it been lunch time with the weather changing to little sunny I would have gone

Don’t go, you sound petulant, and a bit strange. How can you be annoyed by someone else’s party plans? Either go, graciously, or decline the invite, there is no need for the moaning about it.

I would love it if my dc got invited at 10.. I find the usual 1 until 3 that mine seem to always get more annoying time wise.

We've hosted parties at this time and had lots of parents say that they thought it was great as they still have the rest of the day to do stuff afterwards. Many of them left the party at the end and walked up to the nearby pub for Sunday lunch.
Could you do something like that or go somewhere afterwards to make the journey more worthwhile?

Stop stamping your feet about the timing and don't go. Simple.

You seem to have taken this party invite way too personally. Do you expect others to consider every single invitees personal situation when planning a kids party? It may well be awkward/too early for you but perfect for 10 other families.

Just politely decline the invite and move on.

She wants one day in the week when she can have a bit of a lie-in; a relaxing morning instead of rushing across town. It’s not a lot to ask. All the faux-confusion and faces on this thread is beyond tedious.

So she should just decline, and have her lie in.

She's acting as if a 10am party is some sort of abberation / personal insult, when it's perfectly normal.

I love a 10am party. My kids will have been up for 4 hours by then, they don't give a fuck about Sundays the little heathens.

And you have school going kids who need a break on Sunday

Surely going to a party is part of that break?

So you would rather a child have their friends not show up for their party simply because you can't be bothered to get your arse into gear...yes, yabvu. And bloody mean.

I would have thought a party was a good break for kids. Might not be such a good thing for working parents who like a lazy morning at weekends but it's only one day out of 365. One parent could take and the other pick up or, as suggested above, you all go to a pub for Sunday lunch (if you can get in without booking). I presume the party guests will have food there though.

Don't be stressed about it though, it's not worth it.

10 am is just right as a lot of children under 3/4 nap midday. That’s not super early for me as my children are up at 7 am!

@ladymariner its not mean to decline any invite, very likely the other guests will be at the party, one missing is very normal.

Not RTFT, but my pre-teen kids always got up quite early at the weekends. I would have been OK for a 10 a.m. party leaving the house at 9.

It's the journey that sounds more of the problem than the time. 10 am locally wouldn't be so bad.

10am would be my preferred time with little kids. Most young children get up early and may be starting to get fractious by midafternoon.

Obviously if it doesn't suit you, don't go unless you are close to the family. Your description of the journey sounds like going to the party would be awkward for you no matter what time it happened.

Just say no thanks if you don't want to go, but I think YWBU to moan to the hosts about the time.

Id have to drag myself to that one too, but you just know it'll set a nice tone to the rest of the day and you'll have a much nicer Sunday out and about enjoying the day than if you had lain around in your pyjamas til lunchtime.

Have you said you'll go and now you're seeking MN approval for backing out?

Go, don't go. Whatever. The time is fine though. I couldn't imagine not wanting to go to a birthday party as a child because it started at 10am.

Sounds good to me. Why wouldn't you go.
Ain't noubt as wierd as folk!

I would ❤️ a 10am party. I like to have family time on a Sunday afternoon before the busy week starts. 10am gives a focal point in an otherwise loooong Sunday morning after DD wakes up at 5.

My children get up at 5am. I'd happily have an 8am party (Sundays for me are hard work as nothing opens till 10, the park gates are locked till 9:30 and we can't play in the garden in case we disturb the neighbours. I'm desperate for anything to end the 5 hours of imaginative play and craft ) Surely even leaving at 9am you can sleep in till 8am... that sounds amazingly luxurious to me!