My brother GF

[Fashionista101]

I already know I'm not been unreasonable but need to vent. This girl (let's call her Sarah) used to work for me, was the sweetest girl, a really good friend. My brother lived far away with his very long time gf. Sarah's bf was a dick, really controlling bla bla bla... Sarah (with a lot of hand holding and crying at work etc) managed to leave him. Said ex looks a lot like my brother. Fast forward 3 weeks. My brother has left his gf of 12 years. 2 weeks later Sarah and brother are together and she's working for him (ok I can deal with that, things happen).

My issue is, she's now a complete bitch to me. I've always supported her when really I didn't have to remotely get involved. She's in a family WhatsApp chat and just ignores it. I lent her something of value a few weeks ago, asked her to bring it last Sunday to family dinner and she forgot it. I need it for Sunday and she's still not dropped it off. And whenever I message her she's so short and arsey.

She's the same with my mum. It's like she's with my brother now, moved in etc she doesn't need to make an effort.

Should I take it personally or is she just not really a nice person? I can't get my head around it.

Well at least you're honest that you took the "easier life" option so were quite selfish too

Glad you are going to "reach out" - I think I'd go for the "completely understand if too much water has gone under the bridge for you and I know DB treated you badly and you need to prioritise your own feelings over anyone else's, but I am sorry that I wasn't there for you more when he did what he did and asking you to be DS's godmother wasn't something we did flippantly or without care. If you'd like to keep in touch with me and DS we would love that, but I also completely understand that that might be difficult for you."

But before you do that.... you do mean it don't you? It's not just because the new GF has not been nice to you? Because the ex doesn't deserve any more shit on her plate.

I think fair play to doing that. It's not easy to reach out but totally the right thing to do. I didn't actually think about the hating your brother side of things. Good luck!