Not sure what to do? Awkward situation

[Slipp3rs]

I have no children but my DB has 4 and my SIL has 1 (age 6)

My DB has told me to buy his kids something small as he has 4 kids and it’s expensive so I’ve chosen a joint present.

My SIL has sent me a list for her child and I’ve chosen something and bought off the list.

I’m now feeling a bit bad as I can’t afford to buy my DBs 4 children the same as I’ve bought SIL’s child as there are 4 of them and it was be really expensive to buy 4 of what I’ve bought SILs child.

I’m a bit worried that they will all open their presents at the same time (DB children are similar age) and the children will see that one has a much better present than the others.

Aibu - but my BIL told me not to spend much.

Between me and my 2 siblings (total 7 DC between us) we agree a £20 limit on presents (that also applies to our gifts to each other) otherwise it's far too much money to spend. We each spend what we like on our parents and on our own spouses and children. Seems to work.

Surely the celebration of the Birth of Christ was never meant to guilt-trip anyone into this kind of situation? But you have to acknowledge that the ad agencies have managed to do just that!

Young children do not see monetary value in any gifts that they are given. They do see the 'size' of items, but of far greater interest is the 'playability' and a relation to what is now appearing on the television more. Just use more imagination - cost means nothing.

I would spend the same on each child, it's not their fault they have more siblings.