To walk away from this mess?

[notsosupermam]

This is going to be long but ill try and go into as much detail as possible.

I met my dp 2 years ago, things moved very quickly and we got engaged within 4 months of meeting. We have 5 children between us, I have ds 17 and ds 10. He has ds 20, dd 18 and dd 16.

From the start he has always been welcomed into my family, my son's accepted him and my family welcomed him with open arms. However, the same can't be said for his family.

I've always got on really well with his son but his daughters simply will not accept me, neither will his parents. We have broken up a few times and I think he had been badmouthing me during these break ups which has led his family to think badly of me. Dp drinks a lot and can be quite angry and controlling at times.

I will admit my part in this say that I wasn't exactly overly enthusiastic about blending our families in the beginning, but I wanted to let things develop naturally and didn't appreciate being referred to as "step mother" by dp to his kids so soon after we met. I suspect neither did they.

Anyway a lot has happened in the meantime, including me miscarrying at home alone because dp' s parents locked him in the house and wouldn't let him come to me. Him lying about us being back together, pretending to everyone that we aren't together while spending every night here with me.

Anyway last weekend I finally persuaded him to leave the house with me and go for a drink in our town. Great I thought, he can't be ashamed of me if we are going out in public together. Everyone must know we are together.

So we walk into our local pub, him way ahead of me, and his eldest dd is in there. He gives me money to go to the bar while he uses the loo. So I get our drinks and look around and he's stood there at a table talking to some friends with his back to me. I walk over to give him his drink and he looks at me strangely, like he's trying to pretend I have just randomly bought it for him.

There's loads of other stuff and I don't want to bore anyone but will answer any questions honestly. I'm being a gullible twat aren't i?

I did have paragraphs 😳

Seriously who needs all this grief?

Seriously. Walk away. You are worth much more than this shit.

You have worked it out for yourself.
You will hurt but you have to move on.

You have worked out for yourself you are worth far more than this man.

That's great.

Walk away and don't look back

Yeah, I wouldn't bother with him OP, kick him out and move on

Need you ask? Run, OP, run!

Wow! He sounds like a keeper. Return the ring and tell him to fuck off.

He's a disrespectful twat, you know he doesn't deserve you.

I know it's hard, but you need to walk away ASAP and leave him to his unpleasant family.

That's what I was thinking. It's not even a case of kicking him out though he still lives with his parents. He lived with me for a couple of months when he fell out with them before.

I don't even believe his parents locked him in the house.,..

Yes, walk away now.

What a relief it'll be for you not to have to deal with all that crap

You have to even question whether to walk away?? He doesn't want you. If he did, he'd be walking on that pub holding your hand for everyone to see

Just walk away with your dignity in tact. He sounds horrid.

I can't believe you've wasted 2 years with this man. Pack up, move on. You are worth more than this.

Why on earth are you still with him? You deserve better than this selfish, uncaring twat.

Excellent, that means you can be free and single before 6pm (allow 20 minutes to pack up any stuff he has left) Why not celebrate by taking your kids to a fire work display?

He's an asshole. Walk away now and don't look back.

You are worth so much more than this twat

He has a 20 year-old son and his parents locked him in the house??

Oh, come on!

Walk away.

His parents locked him in his the house against his will - while you were miscarriaging??.

Wtf. This is a grown man, with grown children?

Run. Keep this idiot man and his toxic family away from your children.

The mind boggles.

No way you should accept all that.

Find some pride.

Delete him from your life and move on.