To walk away from this mess?

[notsosupermam]

This is going to be long but ill try and go into as much detail as possible.

I met my dp 2 years ago, things moved very quickly and we got engaged within 4 months of meeting. We have 5 children between us, I have ds 17 and ds 10. He has ds 20, dd 18 and dd 16.

From the start he has always been welcomed into my family, my son's accepted him and my family welcomed him with open arms. However, the same can't be said for his family.

I've always got on really well with his son but his daughters simply will not accept me, neither will his parents. We have broken up a few times and I think he had been badmouthing me during these break ups which has led his family to think badly of me. Dp drinks a lot and can be quite angry and controlling at times.

I will admit my part in this say that I wasn't exactly overly enthusiastic about blending our families in the beginning, but I wanted to let things develop naturally and didn't appreciate being referred to as "step mother" by dp to his kids so soon after we met. I suspect neither did they.

Anyway a lot has happened in the meantime, including me miscarrying at home alone because dp' s parents locked him in the house and wouldn't let him come to me. Him lying about us being back together, pretending to everyone that we aren't together while spending every night here with me.

Anyway last weekend I finally persuaded him to leave the house with me and go for a drink in our town. Great I thought, he can't be ashamed of me if we are going out in public together. Everyone must know we are together.

So we walk into our local pub, him way ahead of me, and his eldest dd is in there. He gives me money to go to the bar while he uses the loo. So I get our drinks and look around and he's stood there at a table talking to some friends with his back to me. I walk over to give him his drink and he looks at me strangely, like he's trying to pretend I have just randomly bought it for him.

There's loads of other stuff and I don't want to bore anyone but will answer any questions honestly. I'm being a gullible twat aren't i?

Oh.

Was going to post this saying - listen to what his daughter is telling you:
I did once speak to his eldest dd and she said that she's fed up of him picking up with different women and getting used to them just for them to then disappear...

But what's the point if this thread is odd?

Oh witches that's interesting.

Wonder if his dd knows he picks up with different women while he is with the OP.

You're worth more than that OP! Who stays every night with someone but isn't proud to take them out and be seen with them. Please move on with your dignity in teact and head held high.

You suffered a miscarriage alone because his parents locked him in their house? What is he, 8? Any real man/partner would have smashed through the walls to get to you in your time of need. Get rid.

I'd say that you regret leaving him because you miss the 'nice' side of his personality that he projected when you first met. He's shown you what he's really like and his DC have effectively told you the same. You've seen the red flags. YADNBU to walk away.

You didn't know him when you got engaged after only 4 months

his parents locked him in their house?

Never happened. He didn't want to be bothered having to take her to hospital or hold her hand or be supportive.

I'd run and never look back. If you hadn't of said he had a 20 yr old son I'd have thought you were with a teenager as that's the way he behaves.
Being with him sounds like having an extra child to be honest.
Who the hell goes out to the pub and then pretends they're not with you? An immature twat that's who!
You and your children deserve better.

Hang on a minute in a post a year ago you had two children a ds 13 and a dd 5. Now you have to ds's 17 and 10? Is this a made up post?

His parents didn't lock him in his house, he just didn't want to be with you in your time of need and that is the lowest of the low

Think about your own children, do you really want them to see you with this abusive arsehole?

You need to leave him. Cut all forms of contact. Go out and see your friends, stay distracted, do things with your children. You know you are better off without him so do it

No it's not made up honestly. I have changed the children's ages in an attempt to try and remain anonymous. I'm not very good at this obviously. My head is all over the place at the moment. I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow

Sounds very suspicious

Wow. Get some self-respect.
A decent fuck isn't enough to hold onto a relationship.
You say you don't just settle with anyone that's the first time in I don't know how long that I actually laughed at a post on here. You obviously do settle with anyone who has a pulse and a cock otherwise you would have dumped this wankers ass a long time ago, instead of being desperate and begging him back. Do you not have any pride or anything in yourself?