To tell the MIL to go fuck herself?

[GoJetterGirl]

Before I start, the daily mail can go fuck themselves too...

Right, for those of you in the know from my other threads, you’ll easily get the context:

Child with significant health issues and is currently treated as palliative, but is stable and showing no significant signs of progressing any further st this precise moment in time (but for all intents and purposes, at least not this weekend, which is what I want you to bear in mind...)

I have an amazing amount of support from my adoptive sister who is also a mumsmetter...

Aforementioned sister is trained to administer the medications DS is currently on,

So, a while back I had a mini breakdown which was a combination of 3 years of literally no time to myself, needing to shake myself loose for one night and spent some time with my DH alone, even if it is only dinner and perhaps a film...

Sister suggests that we make a night of it, staying local so that we can quickly return if we are needed urgently.

DS is speaking with his grandparents and casually mentions that my sister is coming over Friday “so mummy and daddy can go out without me, and have some time away”

MIL decides that as a mother I shouldn’t be having any time away from DS and I’m not motherly and don’t want to be a mother

Yeah, all this based on one night when it would be our first proper night out out since before DS was born!

Suffice to say I told her that I do need a break sometime and given that I’m on call 24/7 for DS and have been forever, DH and I are entitled to one night where we can be together or am I being unreasonable?

If you don't currently have a patio that makes the digging easier -order some slabs!

Have a great time by the way and 3 cheers for your sister

Tell her to get fuck and at the same that you’re going to fuck her son. That’ll shut her up!

You don’t have to justify yourself to MIL; or anyone for that matter. Of course you need a break, why can she not see that?

You and your dh deserve your night. Your sister deserves a night spoiling her nephew. Your son deserves a night being spoiled by his aunt. Win - win - win. If your mil is too stupid to see that, im not sure how you can help her.

What a witch! Millions of mums have a night off with far less than you to contend with. You’re not having a night off from your son because you can’t be arsed, you’re just gathering yourself together so you can be the best you can be for your son. Bloomin MIL’s. Why do so many of them make it there mission to point their witchy fingers at we wives?!!! I’m sure there are amazing MIL’s out there but I’m beginning to think they are pretty few and far between. My MIL prays to god, goes to church but can’t be arsed to say hello or visit her son or grandchildren. Invite her for dinner, tell her how sorry you are for being such a disappointment and then ply her food with tonnes of laxatives!!!
You have enough on your plate to worry about, so shovel it into hers. Hugs to you and your ds xx

I work with families in your situation and I know how precious those breaks are, I also know that no-one in their right mind would think badly of you for taking time out for you. If you don't look after yourself from time to time then you will not be able to care for those who need you most. Enjoy your break and invest a a voodoo doll of your MIL.

Your MIL can go to hell. You'll be a better mother for having some space to breathe. You need this, you deserve it. Don't give her words any power.

(But can I ask why you needed to describe your dsis as your adoptive dsis? I was waiting for the relevance of the adoptive bit in the post. She's just your dsis surely? )

Got to agree with others.... tell your mil to f£&: herself!

My ddil has got me (MIL) her own DM AND her aunt who will all babysit if they want to go out, including having the DC sleepover! It makes a break for them and a change of scenery for the DC. No problems, why should there be?

Yeah tell to eff right off.

I think you've posted about her before? Based on everything she's done you would not be unreasonable for telling her to fuck off for just saying hello. You must do some things for you. Your dc needs you to be as mentally healthy as possible

My mum regularly has my dd7 to sleep over. I regularly get a phonecall extending it to two nights. They love their time together. A break is important for parents, absolutely. But, it is also important for the child too. And the other relatives who love them. Your mil is being pathetic.

Tell her to away and fuck off! Evil cow that she is

You deserved some time out and you didn't leave your child with a stranger but with your sister who knows what to do.

Perhaps your husband could explain to his mother exactly what you do and how little time you have for yourself. Mothers are funny about such things, mine would have been a bit like that if I had been in similar circumstances. They just don't understand.

Chin up girl, you're doing great.

Enjoy your evening- you deserve it!

What is your DH saying about what she said to you?

Send her round here if you like. I’ve had a shit day and would like nothing more than to rant and rave at a miserable old witch. Win win really. I’ll feel better and you don’t have to expend the energy doing it. Cheeky cow

Your MiL is cataclysmally stupid, isn't she?

It'll do you good to have a night with dh, and help you to better deal with everything. Time to recharge, even if it's a night in the Premier Inn and an hour in the bath (though I hope it's something a little more luxurious for you).

I hope you have a fab time.

OP I have a patio you can use if you like. What a cow. Please do not listen to her.

and for you.

Another poster saying yes, go and have a lovely break together.

As a pp put it (and it's a lovely phrase - I'm going to save it for future use), you can't pour from an empty cup. Take the chance to build up your reserves a bit.

Ignore your MIL. She has no idea.

Just say “yes that’s right mother in law, I must have been hanging around you too long as the Horrific Bitch syndrome has clearly rubbed off.” Then laugh maniacally and put the phone down.

If I were your MIL I'd making you go out for nights so you got a break.

I'm sorry you got a shit one. Have a very much deserved night away and bless your lovely sister for being so nice .

What an incredibly stupid woman