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Period- what your DP do this?

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Leder · 28/10/2018 22:21

It's the first day of my period and I'm in a fair bit of pain. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and just fancy a sparkling lemon flavoured water from Tesco. Asked DP 10 mins ago if he would go get me one and he categorically said no. I know it's late but aibu to ask. I am on the verge of tears and just would love a "treat"

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rootcanalpain · 30/10/2018 17:44

Not fizzy water at that time of night, but painkillers he would definitely get me

winniestone37 · 30/10/2018 17:46

A treat? If the shop was 2 mins away maybe but come on your not 5...

ladybee28 · 30/10/2018 17:48

I've tried to go back through all the previous pages of this thread so I apologise if this has already been raised – but this whole thing reminds me of people's different love languages.

If someone's primary language is Acts of Service, going to the shop for something trivial and foofy like lemon water would be a no-brainer.

But if Acts of Service is really low in their love languages, it would seem nuts.

My DP is constantly trying to go fetch me things, even when I don't want anything. It drove me bonkers until I realised it's just his way of loving me... now I indulge it because I know it makes him happy.

I'd be fascinated to see how PPs love languages correlate to their responses on here...

Myusername101z · 30/10/2018 17:48

He would probably walk to the local shop (a few minutes walk) but he wouldn’t drive for 7 minutes at that time of night for a drink , I think it’s unreasonable to expect to be honest

lily2403 · 30/10/2018 17:49

Yes mine would go for me without complaint

caringcarer · 30/10/2018 17:50

My dh would go if I asked. When I was pregnant he drove miles to get me my favorite Chinese takeaway and passing about three other Chinese on the way and when ever I wanted one.

Babyroobs · 30/10/2018 17:51

Mine would yes. Hope you are feeling better soon.

Cambalamb · 30/10/2018 17:51

I wouldn't ask him. I would if I NEEDED it and he would go if it was Tampa I needed or ibuprofen but just fancying a drink is taking the piss tbh especially late at night on a cold night.

ToftyAC · 30/10/2018 17:54

He probably would, but I wouldn’t ask. I’d get in my car and go myself. But that’s me.

Sarahplane · 30/10/2018 18:00

mine would go for painkillers or tampons but not for a treat at this time of night and i wouldn't ask him too.

jessebuni · 30/10/2018 18:08

Nope mine wouldn’t but mine didn’t get me anything I was craving while pregnant either.

Tinkobell · 30/10/2018 18:09

I wouldn't ask that of my DP at nearly half ten on a Sunday night. He'd want to go to bed with work the next day. Seems a bit over indulged to ask imo, when it's non medicinal. Presumably had all day to get the fizzy water OP?

Mrsema · 30/10/2018 18:12

My husband would.

MsLexic · 30/10/2018 18:13

I don't know how old you are and whether the lemon water helps with nausea. My partner would probably go and comb the town but he is super-sweet in that way. lol
Look, when I was married, my husbeast would not have got me sweeties or what you are asking for, but almost any one would get you painkillers and he was the most horrible person I have ever known, imagine Saddam Hussein on speed.Grin
Where is this Tesco? Can you not go yourself?

TheDarkPassenger · 30/10/2018 18:14

Mine would in a heartbeat. He’s brilliant.

I equally do mundane day to day shit for him and make his life easier so I think it’s okay to ask for this. And tbh when I’m poorly (I have an autoimmune problem) he goes all over for me and does everything

Naturalspirit82 · 30/10/2018 18:15

U should say “and get me a slab of chocolate cake while your at it”

SequinsOnEverything · 30/10/2018 18:16

Mine would, but I wouldn't ask.

Happygoldfinch · 30/10/2018 18:18

Wouldn't dream of asking my husband to do that.

pteradactyl · 30/10/2018 18:18

No, mine wouldn't but I wouldnt ask him to either. If it was the daytime I would adk and he would be far more likely to

54321go · 30/10/2018 18:26

I would go if asked, at any time but apparently I was still not good enough.

svalentine60 · 30/10/2018 18:26

Go and get it yourself lol You're not 8 months pregnant and its not for anything to ease your pain. He's being perfectly reasonable in saying no.

Kit10 · 30/10/2018 18:29

Mine would if he could see I really wanted it, but I wouldn't ask him to, not at that time, not for a period.

chickenanbeanz · 30/10/2018 18:34

Pull yourself together it's a period, presumably you've had one before yes they suck but it's not an illness. I wouldn't ask my dh to do anything like this at anytime of day or night just because I was on my period. Harsh I know but it pisses me off Ive never asked for or expected special treatment because of a period and I get annoyed with people that do how can we expect to get equal pay and workplace equality if we expect a week of special treatment each month

OhTheRoses · 30/10/2018 18:42

Can't you squeeze a bit of lemon into corporation pop? I'd never have asked and if DH had thought I was that needy I doubt he'd have wanted to marry me.

FuckKnuckle · 30/10/2018 18:43

Christ yes.

When I was pregnant with DC1, DH was out in the car scouring chippies and corner shops for mushy peas and anchovies (I know, I know) at 10 at night. Five minutes down the road for a bottle of fizzy water? No problem!