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Period- what your DP do this?

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Leder · 28/10/2018 22:21

It's the first day of my period and I'm in a fair bit of pain. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and just fancy a sparkling lemon flavoured water from Tesco. Asked DP 10 mins ago if he would go get me one and he categorically said no. I know it's late but aibu to ask. I am on the verge of tears and just would love a "treat"

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Sexnotgender · 29/10/2018 19:47

Yes he would in a heartbeat.

I’m 28 weeks pregnant and was off work sick with a virus last week. I cried because there was no bacon and I really wanted a bacon roll. He went and got me bacon and nice food to cheer me up.

He’s amazing and I’m lucky to have him.

Spankyoumuchly · 29/10/2018 20:07

I would ask (I have,) and he goes. Even if he's had a glass or two of wine, he'll walk round to the shop rather than drive.

GloryforGloves · 29/10/2018 20:09

Yes he would go. Yes, I would ask. I asked last weekend for chocolate brownies at 9pm whilst I was having period pains/cravings - he came back with the brownies and some wine (just in case).

I would also do that for him. In fact this weekend just gone he said he fancied pancakes for breakfast, so I got up before him, went to the shop and picked up ingredients and made them.

We like doing little things to make the other person happy. I don’t see why that’s so strange and unusual.

Nocado · 29/10/2018 20:15

Mine would in a heartbeat but I'd never ask. I think he does too much already.

Ruddle91 · 29/10/2018 20:21

He wouldn't, but he might order me a takeaway and deploy the hidden stash of treats.

oldsewandsew · 29/10/2018 20:32

Not likely! Unless he wanted to get something for himself anyway. I honestly wouldn’t expect him to though. I can understand if you were ill, as a rarity, but do you try to send him out once a month??

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 29/10/2018 20:40

I probably would ask (nothing wrong with it though imo) but I know 100% that if I did DH would go and get whatever I wanted. He does treat me like a princess though to be fair and I know that in previous relationships I wouldn't even have bothered thinking about it because the answer would be no.

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 29/10/2018 20:40

Sorry probably wouldn't* ask that should have said.

TheDowagerCuntess · 29/10/2018 21:12

I'd hate the thought of this being someone I regularly did, such that DH would sit down on the sofa of a Sunday evening, with a sense of impending dread.

Do I bother get comfy? Is she going to ask me for some sort of favour? Pleeeeeze God don't let her ask me!!! Oh no, she's looking sideways at me. Maybe if I hold my breath and sit really still, she'll forget I'm here 😬

Fuckit.

And now I'm the bad guy when I say no, or look less than 100% enthused about hauling ass out into the cold for a drink.

Poor OP's DH. 😂

snapnfarter · 29/10/2018 21:20

@Cuntess, yes! Is the poor fucker allowed to put his PJ bottoms on and just relax?
The whole thing is utterly ridiculous and total princess behaviour.
It's a period. You're not dying, and a can of lemonade won't help!

snapnfarter · 29/10/2018 21:28

Just asked my OH if he'd pop to the garage because I fancy a can of lemonade. He said 'yeah, alright'. I was amazed! I said 'What! You'd go out at this time of night in the cold just for a can of pop?!' He replied 'Yes. Because I know you'd do it for me'.
I was  because no I fucking wouldn't!

Then he said 'I thought it was code for fetching another bottle of wine'.

Now it all makes sense.

snapnfarter · 29/10/2018 21:29

I don't know why it didn't post my confused face. I was 

LittleLionMansMummy · 29/10/2018 21:40

Yes, he's actually been known to cycle to the shop to buy me Ben & Jerry's Phish Food and Tampax supers when I've had an early bath and can't be bothered to get dressed again to go out.

Havaina · 29/10/2018 21:42

@fantasmasgoria1

No but if I felt ill and I had mentioned I felt ill of he could see I was he would ask if I wanted anything and would just go.

So he sees your ill, he asks if you want anything, you say you want chocolate but that he shouldn't go out to get it, he insists on going anyway.

That sounds so manipulative and so wrong.

Havaina · 29/10/2018 21:43

*you're

Havaina · 29/10/2018 21:48

However... there are some things that there is no point asking him to do, eg. he has never cleaned the house. I have never seen him wipe even a surface anywhere. He also expects me to cook for him and will do the “woe is me” act if he’s hungry, which is why I have no hesitation in doing a reverse woe is me act on various other occasions, ill or not. Anyway, glad you got your lemonade and hope you feel better OP - sounds hideous!

It's the opposite for me. DH does 50% of housework whilst moaning. I would not want to swap him doing 50% of housework in exchange for an occasional random trip to the shops after dark.

TellerTuesday4EVA · 29/10/2018 22:19

I'm fairly sure mine would but I'm 100% positive that I wouldn't ask him to do so.

I've suffered excruciating period pain for years (endometriosis) still manage to work, run a home, raise the kids & get my own shopping

SplishSplashSplosh · 29/10/2018 22:25

Knowing my husband, if he knew it was what I fancied , he would have snuck out to buy it without me asking him to go..and he would have brought me back pain killers and chocolate too (he's done this before)

Ontheboardwalk · 29/10/2018 22:26

I’d order a takeaway and get food and full sugar coke as my go to feel better food and drink.

Is the journey you are asking on foot or in car? I’d drive somewhere for anyone. Walking at twenty past ten at night hell no

FangTasticFeast · 29/10/2018 22:28

Yes, my ex is a bit of a knob but if he was here seeing the dc then he would ask me if I needed anything and go out and get it

MaisyPops · 29/10/2018 22:30

Havaina
Whereas we split things 50/50 in the house with him picking up the lions share of big diy jobs. Largely jobs seem to fall into a pattern for us but if something needs doing then we both get on with jobs that need doing without moaning or mumbling, both bring back nice little treats for each other, but neither of us would expect the other to go out at 10pm because we wanted a treat.

OrdinaryGirl · 29/10/2018 22:34

See below. He then asked slightly wearily (without knowing the context) 'How far away is she?' 😄

Period- what your DP do this?
GargoyleBattyness · 29/10/2018 23:09

Mine would. Absolutely.
I could wake him in the middle of the night and he would if i was ill or in pain.

He had a vasectomy a few days ago, very sore and swollen, and still hobbled off to the shop to buy me a pepperami 2 days after it because i fancied one and I was in pain. (I have a very dodgy pelvis. It hurts constantly, and i take pain meds every single day, so he knows when i complain of pain it is really bad)

Jeepy · 30/10/2018 17:29

Mine would, but I wouldn't ask him. A hug would do it..

DaisyYellow · 30/10/2018 17:37

I don’t have a partner, but if my daughter, or friend, needed an emergency period treat, I would happily nip out the house for a few minutes to go get something to cheer them up. To spend a few minutes nipping to the shops is not a big deal to me, but a small kindness can make a big difference at times.