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Period- what your DP do this?

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Leder · 28/10/2018 22:21

It's the first day of my period and I'm in a fair bit of pain. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and just fancy a sparkling lemon flavoured water from Tesco. Asked DP 10 mins ago if he would go get me one and he categorically said no. I know it's late but aibu to ask. I am on the verge of tears and just would love a "treat"

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ClaryFray · 29/10/2018 13:47

A period isn't a reason to need a treat imo. And I gave bad ones, pop some pain killers and move on. Get the water another day.

Pinkprincess1978 · 29/10/2018 13:56

Nope I know he wouldn't. Pain killers maybe but not a drink. I would t dream of asking if I'm honest. Now if I wanted wine he might but only because he would have some too 😂

CaptainCabinets · 29/10/2018 14:12

What a weird thread. My DP has gone out for tampons before but if I wanted lemonade I’d just go myself. It’s a period, you’re not dying.

BrickByBrick · 29/10/2018 14:30

Yes my dh would, but it tends to be for extra milk as despite having plenty ds (asd) gets really stressed if we are on the last bottle of milk.

QuizzlyBear · 29/10/2018 14:33

Honestly? I wouldn't ask. I love my DH and he'd be getting ready for bed at that time, knowing he's up at 5.45, I'd feel like a bit of a CF.

If it was painkillers he'd go, no question- but I wouldn't ask if I just fancied 'a treat'.

ExplodedPeach · 29/10/2018 14:55

@HereForTheLineEyes I have a friend like that too.
She asks you to do things for her (e.g. can you pass me that object) which is slightly closer to me than her, but not so much so that it's actually any less effort for me to get it, than it would be for her to get it herself.
Then she is incredibly thankful if you do, or grumpy if you don't. Everything is an emotional high or an emotional low, it's exhausting.

To the OP, it would probably depend on his mood in the moment. He'd definitely go for pads or painkillers. He'd probably think I was taking the piss asking for a treat though (and he'd be right) but he might do it anyway.

Elasticity · 29/10/2018 15:02

Very precious of you.

If it was painkillers or something you'd run out of then fine.

There was honestly nothing else in the house he could have prepared for you that would have cheered you up? You seem very irrational getting so set on a lemon sparkling water, and believing that is the only thing in the world that would make you feel better at that point in time.

If it was a more reasonable time and he was all suited and booted then sure why not. But late at night on a worknight, perhaps with PJs on and all settled for the evening, it is cheeky to ask and very unreasonable to get upset about the answer.

Original poster
Leder · 29/10/2018 16:14

Dp picked these up. Don't even fancy them now (but I'm keeping that quiet).

Period- what your DP do this?
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MissSingerbrains · 29/10/2018 16:35

Yes, I’m sure DH would do this for me, and vice versa. We’ve never been in this situation though.

Initially I thought YABU but I’ve thought about it more and actually I can see that it’s not as ridiculous a scenario as I first thought. I really like tea and a cuppa really makes me feel better in all sorts of situations. So if I was in pain and miserable and we had run out of teabags, yes I probably would ask DH to get me them, and I don’t think that would be completely unreasonable.

Havaina · 29/10/2018 16:39

Have you tried the Orange and Pomegranate flavour one? I actually prefer it to the lemon flavour one now.

Bunbunbunny · 29/10/2018 17:14

My DH would but I’d do the same for him if he wasn’t feeling well guess it depends on your relationship. I don’t see anything wrong with asking as the other person can just say no

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fantasmasgoria1 · 29/10/2018 17:48

My fiancé would definitely go for me and he would not need asking! I probably wouldn't ask him to go to the shop too late but he would go and even if I insisted he didn't he would do it anyway.

DistanceCall · 29/10/2018 18:27

My fiancé would definitely go for me and he would not need asking!

Your fiancé is a mindreader?

pouraglasshalffull · 29/10/2018 18:30

He'd moan and get in a huff but still do it if I was in that much pain

AlphaJuno · 29/10/2018 18:33

Mine would but I wouldn't be asking for water, it'd be painkillers or alcohol of some sort. 🤷🏼‍♀️

pangolina · 29/10/2018 18:35

Mine would offer if I was having a bad period. We have a similarly close shop and will often go get each other a treat if one of us is feeling unwell or low.

CarryOnScreamingValenta · 29/10/2018 18:36

No, I doubt it. He'd make me a cup of tea or other drink of choice from what we already had in the house, though.

fantasmasgoria1 · 29/10/2018 18:43

No but if I felt ill and I had mentioned I felt ill of he could see I was he would ask if I wanted anything and would just go.

JustDanceAddict · 29/10/2018 18:45

No but he’d heat up a hottie and make me a drink we’d hsve anyway. If he was out he’d get it for me.,

MiddlingMum · 29/10/2018 18:54

Off topic, but I prefer the lime flavour one.

DH would fetch anything I wanted from the ends of the earth, but I would only ask in an emergency.

DistanceCall · 29/10/2018 19:19

No but if I felt ill and I had mentioned I felt ill if he could see I was he would ask if I wanted anything and would just go.

That's asking.

Mandarine · 29/10/2018 19:37

There are things my DH will do for me and things he will not. This is one of the things he would do, even if it was 3am. He will do things involving going out after dark. I wouldn’t ask him obviously, if he had to be up at 6am, but OP I don’t think it was too much of you to ask at 10.30pm, no. This is fair enough.

He always insists on doing anything to do with bins or DIY / gardening and this morning, he was the one who got up at 4am to take DD to the airport, even though he had a full-on day’s work ahead and I’m a SAHM. However... there are some things that there is no point asking him to do, eg. he has never cleaned the house. I have never seen him wipe even a surface anywhere. He also expects me to cook for him and will do the “woe is me” act if he’s hungry, which is why I have no hesitation in doing a reverse woe is me act on various other occasions, ill or not. Anyway, glad you got your lemonade and hope you feel better OP - sounds hideous!

Toddlerteaplease · 29/10/2018 19:42

I wouldn't dream of asking him to do it!