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Period- what your DP do this?

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Leder · 28/10/2018 22:21

It's the first day of my period and I'm in a fair bit of pain. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and just fancy a sparkling lemon flavoured water from Tesco. Asked DP 10 mins ago if he would go get me one and he categorically said no. I know it's late but aibu to ask. I am on the verge of tears and just would love a "treat"

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Parky04 · 29/10/2018 07:36

For flavoured water no I wouldn't. For medication absolutely.

Tisfortired · 29/10/2018 07:37

Mine would go in a heartbeat in the day time, at that time of night he might give me a bit of an eye roll but he'd do it.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 29/10/2018 07:40

Ok, haven't rtft but just asked DH if, hypothetically when my periods were at their worst, which incidentally involves vomiting, migraines, severe pain unrelieved by endone, if he would go to the shop 5 min walk late at night, for something that I just fancied, chocolate or fizzy drink or chips, not something essential like pads or painkillers..... his answer? Why wouldn't I? If you asked I'd know you really wanted it so why not?

Ps. We've been married 18yrs and don't suffer each other's shit easily.

Youvegotafriendinme · 29/10/2018 07:41

No he wouldn’t and I wouldn’t blame him. If I need medicine or something then yes he would but not if I just fancy a treat while on my period. He would however, get me anything I fancied/wanted while pregnant

TheWickedWitchofWestYorkshire · 29/10/2018 07:42

I can't see it tbh. I wouldn't do it for him either though. I really don't think we'd even ask each other in the first place.

PoxAlert · 29/10/2018 07:43

Mine would. But I wouldn't ask just for something like lemon water.

If it was something I actually needed to feel better and couldn't go myself then he'd definitely go.

But it's taking the piss a bit just because you fancy a certain drink. 

Fishcakey · 29/10/2018 07:44

Of course the husband will never win on here, he is bound to be unreasonable because it's Mumsnet!

I wouldn't ask for flavoured water this late. For gods sake man up and have a cup of tea. Medicine you cannot wait for, hell yes ask but flavoured water???? Gods sake!

adoggymama · 29/10/2018 07:54

@OhEctoplasmOnIt she literally said it in an earlier reply.

AllTakenSoRubbishUsername · 29/10/2018 07:54

Yes he would. Hope you feel better soon Flowers

PhilomenaDeathsHeadHawkMoth · 29/10/2018 07:57

XH, when I was pregnant, asked me to go to the garage at about that time and get him something gooey and chocolatey! The assistant asked me if I was getting notions! Grin

TooMuchTidying · 29/10/2018 08:00

What? Yes YABU... go get it yourself. Are you a child?

Sassielassie · 29/10/2018 08:03

Yes. DH once got back out of bed n walked to local pub (only thing open in village) to get me a can of juice coz i couldnt sleep without one. Said he had to order a pint coz he was too embarrassed to just ask for a can n only took two mouthfuls out of it so he could get back to bed Grin

strawberrypenguin · 29/10/2018 08:08

Hmmm, maybe depending on what sort of day he/we'd had. He'd definitely go for painkillers if I needed them but maybe not for lemonade. To be honest if it's only 7 minutes walk I'd go myself unless I genuinely couldn't.

JacquesHammer · 29/10/2018 08:10

Christ we only have a very casual thing and he absolutely would.

Just like I would for him.

Periods can be utterly debilitating, some of the comments surrounding “women can be pathetic over periods” are utterly ignorant.

QOD · 29/10/2018 08:14

My husband wouldn’t buy me tampons or towels. He’d be too embarrassed 🙄
His parents were 25 yrs older than mine and he was brought up to be embarrassed by ladies problems. Tutt

ProfessorMoody · 29/10/2018 08:14

Mine would, in an instant. He'd come back with the water, chocolate, painkillers, pads and possibly flowers.

Looneytune253 · 29/10/2018 08:19

Yes mine would defo but tbh if the roles were reversed I’m not sure I would do the same 🙈 obv unless it was a medical need I’m just too lazy.

auberbene · 29/10/2018 08:54

I just texted OH whilst at work and asked him if he'd do this.

He said, 'of course 😊' then a few minutes later 'I take it you've read something on MN...'

treaclesoda · 29/10/2018 08:58

Mine might, but I'd never ask him to. He'd definitely go and buy painkillers if I needed them, and he'd fetch me a hot water bottle if he saw I was in pain. But a particular drink that I just happened to fancy? It wouldn't even cross my mind to ask. And I'd be most unimpressed if the roles were reversed and he expected me to do it for him.

treaclesoda · 29/10/2018 08:59

Not that he'd have period pains obviously Grin so a direct reversal of roles can't happen obviously!

WhiteDust · 29/10/2018 09:07

I've just asked DH what his answer would be:
He says: 'No chance Princess' (Use of the word princess NOT being a term of endearment!).
I asked if he'd go out for paracetamol or tampons - he says 'yeh, sure, that's different.'
I don't think I'd ask him either way TBH. Unless I couldn't move myself.

DeadCertain · 29/10/2018 09:17

Mine most probably would, but I'd not ask him to.

Amber0685 · 29/10/2018 09:26

No and I wouldn't ask. He would bring me painkillers and a glass of water and has been out to buy me tampons when I had none.

Twork · 29/10/2018 09:35

Probably not.

Twork · 29/10/2018 09:36

Probably not but would get me something I needed eg pain killers.

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