To be upset that my friend just cheated on her husband while he is in hospital?

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I so do not know how to handle this one.
My friend just told me she met up with her ex boyfriend from long ago last night, she took him home (her dc at grandmas), they spent the night having sex, more than once, and it was so great.

Her husband is in hospital for the last two weeks with heartproblem.

By my friends own admission she will not have sex with her ex boyfriend again as husband is due out from hospital on monday, so the possibility will not lend itself.

FFS! She has been married 7 years, as a 3 your old, and she just told me she has cheated and shows no remorse? Ok, she and her dh had an open relationship before they got married and had kids, but even so?

What am I to think about this? Shall I just ignore it, or ?

I have all sorts of recriminations and moral preaching going through my mind at the moment, but should I just keep mum, or remind her to change bedsheets before her husband is discharged?

You know the old saying 'With friends like that who needs enemies' for your friends dh it'd be
'With a wife like that ......'
Feel v.sorry for her husband.
Gives women a bad name.

Part of me feel like not talking to her again. I am so shocked. But I also know that they have had some problems in their marriage recently.

what do you propse to do? tell a man with heart trouble his wife cheated on him?
if she was so open about it with you, maybe he knows..

personally, id butt out. horses fro courses and all that.

God no, I would not ever say anything to HIM! I just dont know how to deal with this revelation mentally for myself.

you are allowed to tell her you are shocked. she doesnt have to like it... but so what? if you genuinely feel upset by her behaviour and feel you cant just let it lie, then tell her how you feel. got nothing to lose if youre thinking of not seeing her anymore nyway...

and a stonking good thread on mn should help you come to terms with the shock

I am just shocked. I cant apply my own moral standard on her. I guess, as a friend I shall just listen to her, and be there for her, as I assume that maybe the problems she has in her marriage is even deeper than I thought...

I hate cheating but i love my friends so would be supportive. Surely you can't be that shocked though if they have both slept round before?

Maybe I shouldnt be, but I didnt know her back then, as this was more than 7 years ago.

am I such a prude? I just spoke to her, or rather she told me on msn, he is there again, at her house, her child asleep in the next room, and mummy brought her lover home, she is looking forward to another "fuckfest", loverboy having read her child good night story....

Not many things shock me, but having some blokey round for a shag while your kids are in bed and hubby is hosp is a bit shitty tbh.

im sorry but i think you should trust your instincts here and run a mile. she obviously has no morals.

hang on- he is reading the child a story??

she has the morals of an alley cat.

what a slag

Interested to know how she justifies this to you?

slag. run a mile.

yup - he just read the child a bedtime story, she came on msn to talk to me as he has popped out to get a take away...

I couldnt hang about and chat about it, I said to her: I hope you change your bedsheets before your husband comes home to sleep in his bed. and she just replied : "maybe I just let him sleep in it lmao!"
I replied "Shit, your bring your lover to your home with your child asleep in the next room? Good luck with this one" and signed off.

don't think you need to think anything about it really, who knows what goes on in anyone's relationship and it's noone's business apart from theirs. is she asking for your advice/opinion? i guess in that case, up to you if you tell the truth and risk losing the friendship or maintain a diplomatic silence.

She is not asking my opinon, she is boasting. Like it is the greatest fun in the world, and what a great time she is having to do this when her husband just had a heart failure.

I couldnt be arsed with someone who not only treats her husband like a mug- but also clearly has NO respect whatsover for her children.

To brush it off as if its non-significant is almost laughable.

she sounds bloody awful

has she told anyone else? could her dh get to hear about this.

thats awful. you dont need someone like this in your life, do you trust her?

Sounds like the last thing her husband needs. I'd probably tell him when he was well enough to hear it actually as she has taken it too far having her "lover" in their home and also reading their child a bedtime story. How humiliating for her husband, even more so if it carries on or he finds out years later.