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Original poster

to have politely asked the workman across the road to pull his pants up?

113 replies

lolaflores · 22/10/2018 12:34

He has been working in a few flats in a building across the road for many months now...end of May.
All through the blistering summer he has been waddling in and out of the building with his track suit bottoms riding 3/4 the way down. Often, his van is parked in front of my house and i am treated to several displays of his barely covered arse.
Today I had enough. He had held up the traffic unloading bags of plaster from his van, the strain of which made his pants inch further down than usual and we were fractions away from a total denoument. Mind you, he managed all this with a fag in his mouth so his priorities appeared a little strange. My daughter was with me and we both had to sit and watch the show.
We parked up, I let her in to the house then I crossed back and said, politely, "Do you know how low your pants go? Please could you try and keep them over some of your bottom, some of the time?"
naturally, he told me to go fuck myself and not look at his bum, to which I replied, 'There are times I have no choice and quite frankly, its boring now."
Unreasonable? Or should I not have to see his hairy bum out on a regular basis?

OP posts:
SequinsOnEverything · 22/10/2018 14:50

I'm with you op.

And actually if a stranger came and told me they could see half my bum because my trousers were falling down, I'd be mortified, but pleased someone had told me!

AdoreTheBeach · 22/10/2018 14:58

Good for you! I have often wanted to do just that but lacked the courage.

Lalliella · 22/10/2018 15:01

Watch the episode of Miranda when she seals the plumber’s crack! Duct tape is your friend 😂

Lalliella · 22/10/2018 15:02

Photo or it didn’t happen!!

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 22/10/2018 15:05

I fucking hate this on the escalators in the Tube.

There’s always someone with his bum hanging out at eye level, whether I’m standing or walking up.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 22/10/2018 15:06

Arses, quite literally.

BigusBumus · 22/10/2018 15:11

I agree with you Lolaflores - it is gross to look at and unnecessary. If a man has no waist and hips on which to hang his jeans or trousers, he should wear them with braces, not joggers. And an arse crack is not comparable to a cleavage at all.

MixedMaritalArts · 22/10/2018 15:11

I think you should henceforth sport an exposed plastic arse every time you leave the house as a protest !

BlueEyedPersephone · 22/10/2018 15:16

@lolaflores I don't think you body shamed him at all, I think exposing your bum crack is indecent exposure and is not suitable in front of children. Therefore even if the man is fit as fuck it would still be as inappropriate as a woman exposing her bum crack or a man waving his willy about.
This is not about clothes it's about the private's remaining private, same as we teach our children to safeguard them.

Aquamarine1029 · 22/10/2018 15:17

Shoot bb's at it.

Bestseller · 22/10/2018 15:21

If that's really how you worded it, I don't think you were polite at all. You were sarcastic and patronising

BlueEyedPersephone · 22/10/2018 15:21

Anyway didn't the bum exposure in men craze start in prison or is that an urban myth????
The worse are the young men on the tube whose designer boxers are fully exposed and the jeans are so low down you fear the g force of going up the escalator may make the jeans fall round by their ankles😂

Witchofwisteria · 22/10/2018 15:22

YABU, what is so offensive about a mans butt crack to you? Also you sound like you told him off in a very public and embarrassing way with a bit of a rude tone, so I think I would of told you to go and fuck yourself too.

Original poster
lolaflores · 22/10/2018 15:50

witchofwisteria. Not a soul about to overhear us when I asked him politely to pull his trousers up.
yesin public but that's where his bum was. In public.
So, if bums are so inoffensive and not a problem, lets all let them out shall we?
Who's first to drop their trousers to barely above the bulls eye and then be outraged that other members of the human race aren't keen on it?
And can you take pics of your trip down the road happily bare cheeked.

OP posts:
Lockheart · 22/10/2018 16:04

I admit I don’t know what sort of reaction you thought you were going to get except “fuck off” because anyone who’s ok walking around in public with their arse crack out clearly doesn’t give a shite about anyone else.

Unless you’re on a beach or at a pool (or in your own home of course!) then in my opinion I don’t think anyone should be walking around with their arse hanging out - whether it’s a man with his trousers round his thighs or a woman wearing a belt for a skirt. It’s just rude and inconsiderate IMO.

Original poster
lolaflores · 22/10/2018 16:13

I wasn't that bothered about being told to go fuck myself, I fully expected as the price of approaching him. There were no outward signs that I was going to be dealing with someone anything less than uncouth.

OP posts:
Bestseller · 22/10/2018 16:17

I don't particularly want to see his bum either but I think you could do with a bit of it of polishing yourself if you think "Do you know how low your pants go? Please could you try and keep them over some of your bottom, some of the time?" is polite

HopeIsNotAStrategy · 22/10/2018 16:53

Good for you OP. No man doesn't know when his trousers are half way down his backside.

It's a form of sexual harassment, I had it myself recently in a queue and it's deeply offensive.

Go girl. 💐👍🏻

EvePolastriSorryBaby · 22/10/2018 16:55

Sounds like you have to much time on your hands to be able to sit and watch his arse.

EvePolastriSorryBaby · 22/10/2018 16:59

It's a form of sexual harassment

Are you flipping serious?? I'm sure the victims of sexual harassment would be happy that you've likened a traumatic experience to a mans less than desirable arse being on display!??

I'd understand if he was inside your house, OP and got his Wanger out. Unattractive it may be, sexual harassment it is not!

pouraglasshalffull · 22/10/2018 17:02

Have a stranger come up to you in the street and tell you that you dress inappropriately and to cover up. You'd come on here and start a sexist rant thread! YABU. Don't look if you don't like it. How awful to tell someone how to dress

pouraglasshalffull · 22/10/2018 17:03

Also OP, you have asked if you are being unreasonable, yet you are being very defensive to people that say you are. You clearly think YANBU so why even bother to come on here to argue back with people

HopeIsNotAStrategy · 22/10/2018 17:03

EvePolastriSorryBaby your low standards are not my problem.

EvePolastriSorryBaby · 22/10/2018 17:05

Yes, ofcourse- my low standards mean that I don't equate rape, molestation, upskirting etc to a man with droopy trousers.

Get a grip you twonk.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 22/10/2018 17:07

YABVU - for both staring at their bottom incessantly and for for telling someone else how they could or couldn't dress. Shame on you.