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to have politely asked the workman across the road to pull his pants up?

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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 12:34

He has been working in a few flats in a building across the road for many months now...end of May.
All through the blistering summer he has been waddling in and out of the building with his track suit bottoms riding 3/4 the way down. Often, his van is parked in front of my house and i am treated to several displays of his barely covered arse.
Today I had enough. He had held up the traffic unloading bags of plaster from his van, the strain of which made his pants inch further down than usual and we were fractions away from a total denoument. Mind you, he managed all this with a fag in his mouth so his priorities appeared a little strange. My daughter was with me and we both had to sit and watch the show.
We parked up, I let her in to the house then I crossed back and said, politely, "Do you know how low your pants go? Please could you try and keep them over some of your bottom, some of the time?"
naturally, he told me to go fuck myself and not look at his bum, to which I replied, 'There are times I have no choice and quite frankly, its boring now."
Unreasonable? Or should I not have to see his hairy bum out on a regular basis?

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JustDanceAddict · 22/10/2018 12:35

What a charmer he is!

Dontfeellikeaskeleton · 22/10/2018 12:36

He needs bigger pants

Sexnotgender · 22/10/2018 12:37

Boak, that’s grim.

YANBU.

Theyprobablywill · 22/10/2018 12:38

So you body shamed him and he called you out? Lol!

Leafyhouse · 22/10/2018 12:39

Problem is, telling people how to dress is always highly political. If someone walked up to you and said, "Cover yourself up woman, you look a disgrace!", how would you react?

I'm afraid I really don't have a solution, it's a tricky one.

Bishybarnybee · 22/10/2018 12:39

What are you, a victorian maiden? Tend to agree with him. No one is forcing you to look.

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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 12:43

It isn't a one off. Half of the summer he was topless too...pretty much half naked. I don't want to look at his bum half way out. If I was on a beach or somewhere where less clothing was the norm, then fair enough. its every single day. Not a one off which I wouldn't pass comment on.
Asking someone to dress appropriately is not body shaming.

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Sparklingbrook · 22/10/2018 12:44

I wouldn't have bothered saying anything personally.
Sounds like he's hard at work.

RangeRider · 22/10/2018 12:45

But if you were showing a lot of cleavage and a man told you to cover up you'd be up in arms (or if not you then a lot of people on your behalf). Not saying I'd want to look at his hairy ass but...

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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 12:50

Cleavage in what context though?
at work...what level of cleavage....like nipples just about peeping out over the top or just a little suggestion?
This is most of his butt. A few centimetres off all of his bum hanging out.
I am accustomed to a certain amount of builders crack. This is a new low. (terrible pun, I do apologise.

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Houseonahill · 22/10/2018 12:57

I'm confused where his underwear is in all This?

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 22/10/2018 12:57

I kind of get you op. I had a guy in the queue at passport control who kept stopping abruptly and bending over to sort his back pack.

Every time he did his trousers (no underwear) rode down and I could see up his actual dirty brown anus.

After the 5 or 6 th time I walked around him on the queue, he tried to push back past me and I told him I wasn't pushing forward I simply didn't want to keep staring up his chocolate starfish one more time.

It's hardly equivalent to a cleavage is it - a dirty brown poop shoot?

GunpowderGelatine · 22/10/2018 13:04
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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 13:04

Houseonahill, there was no evidence of underwear. they seemed to have checked out somewhere along the way.

Mickhucknall....poop shoot. We weren't far off it.
Thank christ he made and adjustment cos it was really getting close to it.

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chaoscategorised · 22/10/2018 13:04

Yeah, YWBU here. Not saying I'd want to look at a builder's hairy arse either, but suggesting he's dressing 'inappropriately' is odd?

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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 13:06

chaosctergorised I am confused.
You say you wouldn't want to look at his bum but don't think its inappropriate?
I think it is.

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Lethaldrizzle · 22/10/2018 13:08

I think I might have asked with a bit more humour

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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 13:13

Lethaldrizzle he's not the kind to get a humorous approach from what I've seen of his interactions with his tenants which ended up with the police being called.

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Caprisunorange · 22/10/2018 13:17

I’m actually laughing at the idea you thought you could storm up to a builder and tell them to cover themselves up Grin sadly I work with trade and you’re wasting your breath. He’s probably telling all his mates now “and then some posh slag said “could you please try and keep them covering your bottom”” and they’re all pissing themselves

ChimesOnSundayMorn · 22/10/2018 13:23

That is so rude and unkind. Imagine someone telling you they hated what you wore and to change it.

Im cringing on your behalf

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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 13:37

HOw do you know Im posh Capeisunorange?
I didn't say I hated what he wore. ChimesonSundayMom that wasn't the point of the conversation.
I didn't want to see his bum.

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GunpowderGelatine · 22/10/2018 13:39

I say good for you OP I think it's rank they do this and not the same at all as a woman wearing a low cut top 🙄

LadyOfDeath · 22/10/2018 13:50

I'm with you, OP.

A few years ago an electrician was hired to fix the wiring at my office. He was working right beside my desk, butt crack all on display, but the worst thing was, HE SMELT TERRIBLE and he was there for hours. In the end I couldn't bear it, so had to take my work to the other end of the building. Still think about it sometimes, and not in a good way.

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lolaflores · 22/10/2018 13:52

He must feel the breeze though?
Perhaps he is immune

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Purplelion · 22/10/2018 13:54

Are you spending that much time watching him work that you feel the need to tell him how to dress? If you were just getting on with your day you wouldn’t notice!
Builders generally wear joggers for comfort.
I’m sure you would be offended if he knocked on your door and told you to wear something appropriate because he had been watching you!

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