...to not know how to respond to this message...

[WigglyBraddins]

...from a "gentleman" with whom I had a recent liaison?

"Urgh, this is horrible for me, and for you, and it could well sour things and I would hate myself if it did. But, I have to be honest. I said you were not my normal type, physically, and that is very true. I am really attracted to slim women, I can't help it and have tried before, with it not getting very far. I completely accept that circumstances and free time dictate how we are able to shape ourselves. I understand if you are hurt by this, and trust me I hate it having to be a thing. I hate the idea of men dictating to a woman what they should look like, and I am not telling you to do anything. I am just saying, in the past at least, this issue has got in the way. If you did feel like meeting me in the middle on this then I am realistic and not as demanding as you might initially think. As I say I totally understand that your circumstances and how they are not exactly kind in this respect. There are literally zero other red flags, especially none outside of your control, maybe. Urgh, I am so sorry, I know how this issue can really fuck women up but as I say I can't help what I like, but I am super realistic about what is possible and what is not. Urgh urgh."

Suggestions for an appropriate response would be very much appreciated.

I feel sorry for his future wife. How would he cope with her following a pregnancy? Would that mean divorce?
Get rid. At least you have found out now what a twat he is.

No, OP does not need to justify herself by providing her stats.
Ignore, block, move on.

*neekeem

I actually had a guy tell me ‘hmm I don’t normally go for bigger girls but I’m glad I did’ WHILE HE WAS INSIDE ME.*

I love dirty trashy talk during sex!

Ask him if he would consider a penis enlargement as you have found small dicks an issue in the past

Bold fail, text fail!
Meant to say I love it, but that just takes the piss! !

🤔 there was obviously a conversation which lead to this. To me it sounds like you hooked up and then you wanted ‘more’ and he didn’t and you pushed as to why and he was a bit too honest with you.

-he sounds like a pig but equally I’m not physically attracted to very large men either.
-or bald ones
-or very very short ones.

I’d love them as friends and work with them as colleagues but they wouldn’t turn me on and unfortunately political correctness has no place in the bedroom you can’t PC shame someone into being physically attracted to a person

Wasn't there a thing like this on Facebook a while a go with pretty much an identical message. If my memory serves it made national press, and didn't go down very well. Tbh honest the best reaction is to quote Churchill... 'I may be large, but I can diet whilst you,will always be ugly ' (might be paraphrasing a tiny bit but you get the jist)

"Urgh, this is horrible for me but I have to be honest. I am repelled by misogynistic fuckwits who body-shame women. I understand if you are hurt by this but it isn't my job to make you feel good about yourself. I hate the idea of men dictating to a woman what they should look like. This is the most gigantic red flag and I am realistic that your comments are the end of our relationship. Urgh, urgh."

meteor - I don't think it was OP's intention to PC shame this person back into her bed.
And given that you aren't attracted to certain people, I'm sure you wouldn't be so rude as to text them and tell them so.

Quick response:
Phew! So relieved to hear this from you. Didn't know how to tell you that I prefer a well endowed man
Block number
Job done

What an absolute bellend. Just ignore him don’t even waste anymore of your time or effort on him.x

meteormedow presumably you would never TELL someone you weren’t attracted to them as they were bald/short, would you? If you would you’re just a horrible person.

Also, he obviously is attracted to her enough to sleep with her

I’d tell him to shove it right up his a*hole.
What a pig!
There is a fab quote from Winston Churchill when a waitress told him he was too drunk, he said ‘and you my dear are ugly but at least I’ll be sober in the morning’
Maybe you could adapt it to suit!

Or maybe you should just send him this entire thread. Maybe it will give him something to think about.
Seriously some men are such wankers!

Not RTFT yet but crying at @SaucyJack "I choose cake" 😂👍🍰

"Is this a good time to tell you I have herpes'

“Omg I’m so glad you feel the same way! I have tried in the past to make it work with men who have tiny willies but yours is just impossible to work with. If I lose weight I’ll get in touch to see if your willy has grown a few inches and will finally touch the sides! I’ve seen a few penis enlargement pumps advertised on amazon - I purposely researched after our very brief encounter together, just in case I plucked up the courage to tell you about this rather large (or in fact tiny!) problem as I was worried I would have to fake it again, but thanks to you being a shallow and unrealistic cunt as well as a tiny one, I now don’t have to feel even remotely guilty! Happy pumping!”

How about this? “I totally understand where you’re coming from. You aren’t my normal physical type either. In the past I’ve tended to go for well hung men.”

Don't reply and ghost him.

Remind me where you copied this from ? Read it few months /years back as an article from a woman who got this email from a guy she met...

It's probs the same guy, with the same spiel.

Did he not know what size you were before you met or did you catfish him? If the latter, delete the message and move on and then going forward, when online don't try to tamper with your pics. Take an average one so there are no surprises. If you did in fact meet in person, instruct him to go 'f* himself' and take your great personality elsewhere.
We women are just as picky don't take it personally. Sadly, Tinder and snapchat filters have made daters much more brutal and ridiculously superficial.

"Well it's easily sorted by me dropping x stone immediately. Ta ta x"

There is a womanising male who lives round the corner from me and he speaks just like this. Run like mad and don't look back - this man is bad news and if he cannot accept you for the person which you are, then he sounds very shallow indeed.

Friedrich Rückert (1788-1866) (Anonymous Translator)

If you love for the sake of beauty

If you love for the sake of beauty, O never love me!
Love the sun, which has bright golden hair.
If you love for the sake of youth, O never love me!
Love the spring, which is reborn each year.
...
If you love for the sake of love alone, O yes then, love me!
...

I quite understand. Size is important. And you are a massive dick, just not in the way that’s at all satisfying.