...to not know how to respond to this message...

[WigglyBraddins]

...from a "gentleman" with whom I had a recent liaison?

"Urgh, this is horrible for me, and for you, and it could well sour things and I would hate myself if it did. But, I have to be honest. I said you were not my normal type, physically, and that is very true. I am really attracted to slim women, I can't help it and have tried before, with it not getting very far. I completely accept that circumstances and free time dictate how we are able to shape ourselves. I understand if you are hurt by this, and trust me I hate it having to be a thing. I hate the idea of men dictating to a woman what they should look like, and I am not telling you to do anything. I am just saying, in the past at least, this issue has got in the way. If you did feel like meeting me in the middle on this then I am realistic and not as demanding as you might initially think. As I say I totally understand that your circumstances and how they are not exactly kind in this respect. There are literally zero other red flags, especially none outside of your control, maybe. Urgh, I am so sorry, I know how this issue can really fuck women up but as I say I can't help what I like, but I am super realistic about what is possible and what is not. Urgh urgh."

Suggestions for an appropriate response would be very much appreciated.

I second not replying especially when I read "there are literally zero other red flags, especially none outside of your control, maybe,". That suggests to me, first you'll lose weight, more than you thought meeting in the middle would suggest, then maybe you'll learn to laugh a little softer, refrain from x-rated jokes, offer fewer opinions that contradict his. These are "all in your control" after all. Run, run!

"Are you for fucking real? What a vile example of a human being you are. What makes you think now that I'd ever want your rotten little cock anywhere near me again?"

Actually "You know... I might've considered it if you were a good kisser and your dick was big. Can win 'em all I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️" would've been perfect.

Well done for choosing cake OP!!

What is this bullshit!
I would have no idea what to say he sounds like a weirdo tell him to do one!!

I love the ‘I choose cake’ response but deleting and blocking is probably the best. This PUA negging thing is psychopathic. What a creep.

I can’t believe someone on the thread suggested sending him a nude in response though??!!

Urgh indeed. He's very insecure isn't he, bless him. I'm guessing he couldn't keep it hard for very long and is trying to blame it on you.

'Oh dear, I wondered what the problem was. Your performance was....very unusual. Thanks for explaining, all the best for the future'

I would literally say. Omg I'm so glad you bought this up because somethings really been eating me up about this whole situation. I'm so glad we can be so open and honest with each other. The other night was.... ok. But the thing is I only date guys that get an erection more than 2 3/4inches and have a girth thicker than the size of a pencil. It was so awkward lying there desperately trying to think it was Channing Tatum astride me but alas it could not be. I really hope this doesn't offend you but I feel like it's gonna be a real big deal breaker for most women. I get loads of emails every day about penis surgery though I'm really happy to get those forwarded across to you. Luckily for you you seem to have an absolutely enormous wanger hanging from your forehead. So swings and roundabouts and all that. Ps. You know that guy I was chatting to at the bar last night? 😍👌

Out of interest, what was he actually like in person (not in bed)? Were there any signs that he was this much of a twat?

Send him a link to this thread

Glad you didn’t reply. What a knobber!

“Please, don’t apologise. I completely understand. I have to be honest, I am really attracted to men with decent sized cocks. I can't help it and have tried before, but with it not getting very far in. I understand if you are hurt by this, and trust me I hate it having to be a thing. I hate the idea of a woman dictating to a man what size cock they should have, and I am not telling you to do anything about it (not that you could, of course. Your size is your size, and that ain’t gonna change). I am just saying, in the past at least, this issue has got in the way. As I say I totally understand that your circumstances and how they are not exactly kind in this respect. There are literally zero other red flags, especially none outside of your control, maybe. Urgh, I am so sorry, I know how this issue can really fuck men up but as I say I can't help what I like, but I am super realistic about what is possible and what is not. I just really need a decent sized cock. Not even huge, just normal sized does it for me. Sorry. Urgh urgh."

I’d say ‘thanks for your feedback, my most recent partner tells me I’m fantastic, he’s also a more satisfying lover urgh, I hate saying that but no hard feelings.

Best wishes’

YY to husky's response!

He’s obviously hoping to hurt you and will get off on your reaction. I’d be tempted to pretend you have misunderstood. Say there is no need to apologise you have no issues with his weight, how odd he thinks you are so shallow, but due to x and y you don’t want to meet up again. Wish him all the best, and advise he seek help to boost his self esteem;)

elephantinthesnow I like it. I think I would send it.

Its all about control OP

Oh please use elephantinthesnow response and turn it back around on him! Make him feel very inadequate

He's an absolute cockwomble. What a lucky escape you've had, you don't deserve this behaviour.

I had a date with a guy once and that weekend texted him 'Hi, I hope you're having a good weekend?'

He replied with 'let's be adults about this, we had fun and we're not going to see each other again, OK?'

I was so shocked that someone could be so unnecessarily rude.

I never replied but years later he tried to get into a very popular bar when I was working on the door.

Mwahahaha....his face was amazing when it dawned on him who I was and that there was absolutely no chance he was getting in, thanks to his utter dickishness.

You're worth so much more than that awful person, I hope you know this.

I know someone who received a really similar message from someone she was seeing. It turned out he had multiple women in the go and he loved to call his exes psychos on his Facebook to all his mates. All I can say is best off out of it. Well done on your response.

I would reply "tsk, negging. That's just so noughties" and block so he can't then come back with anything

Will drive him NUTS if he's an impotent keyboard warrior

Omg pleeeeeeease send back his text but replace all the bits about weight with the size of his dick, like SheCameFromGreece did up there ^^^

Genius!

I think your non response is perfect. I hope the cake was delish.

God how revolting.

So glad you’ve not replied, that is fuel to his cockwomble mediocre fire.
Fuck him. Not literally ever again.

Onwards and clearly upwards!!!

“Whilst we’re being candid you’re not my usual type either. I’m typically very attracted to men with much larger penises. If you’re willing to meet me half way on this im not as demanding as you might think!”

for you OP!

I’m embarrassed for him. Total cunt.

Martha's Gin, Love your response, absolutely brilliant.