Baby and mum has flu

[Stars1979]

I have flu, do feel marginally better today in that I don’t want to die but getting up out of bed makes me really dizzy and I’ll. I have no energy or strength and can’t eat much. Stupidly being in bed so much has aggravated my back which is making me feel worse.

I have an energetic 8 month old. Husband has done all the caring since Friday and been so good. Baby went back to sleep at 7am after a feed this morning after waking at 5 so I looked after her for a hour. So my husband could catch upon sleep. It was so hard and I was sweating from fever. He now wants to meet his brother for a coffee and asked me take over so he can go. He is asking me this as I’m lying inbed. I said I really didn’t have the energy and maybe he could take baby with him. He said you could look after her for an hour and a half and walked off. This made me cry as I want to be with my baby but I don’t even have the energy to get up and pee. I understand he probably wants a break but I’m still trying to get better so I can look after her tomorrow when he goes to work. I’m really sad, it’s one weekend, his brother could even come here if he wanted, I’m in bed so he won’t get my germs. I think he just wants to go for a coffee and that’s it.

@Greenlantern53

im not angry at all. ive been a LP for years managed to not have to put my children in foster care though when im sick , and thats without family support aswell.

Are you benefits, GreenLantern?

How would you like us to start questioning and judging you?

Thank you all. I’m on the up! The cold and flu tablets are actually having an effect now whereas before they weren’t doing anything. Taking it easy and I think my very active baby can tell as she is quietly playing which she doesn’t ever do! I just hope she isn’t getting this horrible illness. My husband has actually text to see how we are getting on and said he’d come home if I’m struggling- I’m taking his thoughtlessness yesterday as a blip! Just had a selfish mindset there for a bit but lucky he saw sense! Thanks everyone.

Glad you're feeling a bit brighter OP, take it easy and look after yourself, good to hear your DH is being more thoughtful too.

Ive been a LP for years now yet have never placed any of my children in care, nor has any other LP i know and most dont have support.

Are you saying foster care is for children whose parent is sick with flu?? foster care is for extreme circumstances like a child being removed from parents or parent in hospital not because you fancy a break because your abit under the weather. if op was that bad she wouldnt be sat on MN.

I'm married and my children are adults, I never had to ask my OH to stay home from work as I was ill. I'm fortunate that I've had good health. Being a single parent doesn't mean you are better at coping or braver, it just means you've. Or suffered ill health!

@GreenLantern53 are you a lone parent?

Bold fail! 

@Stars1979 glad you're feeling better and normal service is resuming!

Lone parents have no choice about it.

People with no children don't have to look after a baby. People who employ a nanny could just go to bed. Water is wet.

The OP isn't a single parents and so shouldn't be able to rely on the other parent for some child care.