AIBU To tell my 7yr DS it’s ok to defend himself?

[Harrassedhubby]

Situation: My 7yr old came home from school today in tears because he’d lost his ‘Good Stamp’ at school. I asked him why, he said another boy had hit him hard, in my boys words; ‘It was like when a pan is on the cooker, it got too hot and the lid blew off’ my son kicked the boy in the shin. AIBU to support my son and tell him that he has the right to physically defend himself against an older and much bigger bully? Or should I have disciplined him?

Teach him to fight back.

I was the the nice kid.One thing I regret is not standing up for myself.

I was talking about parents at primary school who bandy the term ‘bullying’ around without having a clue about what’s actually gone on

Fair enough...I agree that until you know what's happening you can't accuse a child of bullying.
In my grandpa's case, there have been witnesses and my daughter saw the boy come up behind my grandson and jump on his back whilst she was waiting for him in her car after school.

Grandson,....not grandpa,

In the real world respect has to be earned, and it's not earned by going crying to a teacher of authority figure
Up next why real men sort their issues with their fists and why violence is essential to get anywhere in life.

From what I remember of being a bullied child, that myth of the bully who melts into tears the moment the tiny child stands up to them is just that- a myth. In real life, the bullies hit harder and things can get very nasty indeed.

My own son stood up to a bully and ended up on the pavement with his head being kicked. Went to hospital with concussion. He admitted afterwards that he could have run away- but there is no way he could have fought his attacker and won.

Teach him to fight back.

I was the the nice kid.One thing I regret is not standing up for myself.

This ^^

Don't let him get a reputation that he is an easy target to pick on.

Worzilgummidge -Some kid at one time was pushing at my ds with his bike wheels to get out of his way so ds took his bike and threw it. grin

You seriously think that was acceptable and laudable behaviour from your DS?!