In thinking having more than 5 sexual partners doesn't make you a raging whore bag?

[fifithefoof]

Following on from the last thread .....

Why are you again creating imaginary situations?

Methinks the lady doth protest too much.... 

I wanna have sex on the beach, c'mon and move your bodaayyyyyy

There is no one on the face of god’s green earth who has done it all sexually

And who here has said that after their great sex they grabbed underwear and said text you next week? No one. Apart from the imaginary situation you invented in your head.

@ftfoawygtfosm Challenge Accepted

Oh soup. 😂

As if I’m going to spell anything out on a public website.

I would not want to hear hear my husbands ‘best time’ was on cold concrete when he and I have spent hours together totally learning each other and sharing love.

Sex for me is about far more than passion, it’s about security and togetherness and complete immersion in another person.

I had had a ONS wirh someone better in bed than my OH. But I have not had better sex than with him and I imagine he would say the same.

When I am with him sexually it’s special, it’s like I understand what people write poetry about.

That connection can’t be beaten by a emotionaless shag however marvellous.

I dunno Jacques you didn't come across like you lay around staring into each others eyes.

I’ve never had sex outside of a relationship.

I’m a useless whorebag.

I dunno Jacques you didn't come across like you lay around staring into each others eyes

Interesting when we spoke about assumptions earlier.

I’ve never actually said how many people I’ve slept with because it’s not relevant to my opinions.

But sure - think what you want if it fits your warped agenda

You were the one Jacques who said you didn't have any sort of emotional connection and it was just sex, make your mind up.

If you do lay around kissing and cuddling and marvelling at how wonderful that person is, it sounds like nwhat most people call love.

You were the one Jacques who said you didn't have any sort of emotional connection and it was just sex, make your mind up

Back to the teeny words.

I have been having sex with the same chap for 4 years. It’s not a relationship. It’s FWB. We spend the night then go on our merry way.

If we stop tomorrow then all good. It’s not a break up, it’s the stopping of a mutual arrangement.

He might fuck other people. I currently don’t, mainly due to lack of time

Prior to that I was with my husband for 14 years.

But again. Your agenda knows no bounds

If you do lay around kissing and cuddling and marvelling at how wonderful that person is, it sounds like nwhat most people call love

Yeah we don’t do that.

We do spend the night though. We just tend to talk or watch movies.

yes @CantankerousCamel

there are two 'scales' as it were of sex. there is raw sex assessing the purely physical aspect of the sex and then there is 'emotional sex' as it were taking into account the connection and emotional bond that enhances the physical connection.

I don't think anyone here has denied that an emotional connection alters sex and how it feels. To me it can make sex just ... 'more' sort of more wide reaching and all encompassing. But I can also objectively consider the sex I've had and Identify the instances of raw sex I've had which on a physical level exceeded all others.

Doesn't mean I'd rather have that sex everyday than loving good sex with my partner (not that I currently have one)

What soup said.

There’s physical sex which is about a sexual physical need and then there’s loving sex which is different and more about a connection on a different level and the relationship in the whole.

I stayed in a bad relationship longer then I should because the physical sex was fantastic.

How is having lots of partners against feminism? Surely the fact that if I want to sleep with someone (and it's reciprocated) I will, I'm in charge of my sexuality and sex life and not being ashamed of the fact that women like sex too is pro-feminism? Why is it so taboo? If you want to have sex then go for it! Just use protection. I hate the fact that it's even a thing to call someone a whore. I couldn't care less if anyone had 1 partner or 300! It's your life!!

I don't have any agenda Jacques but I have a hard time believing that you are both hsving a fine time.but yet would not miss each other one iota were it to end tomorrow. Call it what you like though

Especially given all the time you spent together over 4 years.

For me maybe the difference is that I cannot give myself to someone physically completely unless there is also an emotional connection. I just wouldn't be able to open myself that way. Maybe that does come over as prudish to some idk

Especially given all the time you spent together over 4 years

Gosh didn’t realise you knew our schedule

but I have a hard time believing that you are both hsving a fine time.but yet would not miss each other one iota were it to end tomorrow

Meh. He might miss me but I doubt it. We’re mates but we fuck when we feel like it.

That’s the whole point of the arrangement. Sex without the need for a relationship for either of us. Exactly what I want.

I’d possibly think a better way to debate would be to not ascribe your feelings to others.

YOU might not be able to have a casual sex arrangement which is totally ok. Just to clarify as you’re bound to question I DONT THINK YOU’RE WRONG TO FEEL THAT WAY.

But neither would a relationship work for me. I have a safe, mutually beneficial arrangement.

If you're doing something that you are indifferent about then it doesn't seem much fun. There are many things I do that I would not miss were they to never happen again. Sex is not one of those things.

It's the cognitive dissonance again. I like doing X. I don't care if I ever do X again.

If you're doing something that you are indifferent about then it doesn't seem much fun

Seriously how are you misunderstanding such plain English? Im not indifferent about the sex. The sex is fantastic. I’m indifferent about the need for a relationship.

There are many things I do that I would not miss were they to never happen again. Sex is not one of those things

Which again, totally fine for you. Not for me.

It's the cognitive dissonance again. I like doing X. I don't care if I ever do X again

No. It’s “I like doing X. I don’t mind if I don’t do X with him again”

I’d give up trying if I were you. You’re clearly not interested so fine. Don’t have a FWB. Totally a valid choice for you and you’re not wrong if you don’t want one.

But, in adults liking different things shocker, I don’t feel the same way.

Well you're certainly not selling it very well, it all sounds very mechanical and soulless. I play tennis with a partner, I would still play without her, but I like playing tennis with her and would miss her. Anyway, I think this thread is finally concluded, thanks for your candour