In thinking having more than 5 sexual partners doesn't make you a raging whore bag?

[fifithefoof]

Following on from the last thread .....

No they aren’t.

Indifference to number of people or best sex with someone doesn’t mean you dint love them. That’s a ridiculous conflation.

@Lornar123 is right. Some of you DID say you would not care if your partner compared sex with previous lovers to you, and said they were better.

It's somewhere between baffling and hilarious that the posters who said it are now denying it! WTF? It's there is black and white.

And saying Lornar needs to work on her lack of self esteem and her low self worth when NOTHING she has said suggests she has any issues like this is just laughable, and shows the people saying it are losing the argument. Utterly denying what was said, when it's there for all to see is pathetic, laughable, and a little bit weird!

I'm outta here. I am not going to debate, and waste my time, with people who not only move the goalposts, but actually take them away and pretend they were never there!

As you were.

Hiding this ridiculous thread now!

It's somewhere between baffling and hilarious that the posters who said it are now denying it! WTF? It's there is black and white

No-one is denying anything

Lornar123 said herself she had insecurities.

Hiding this ridiculous thread now!

Oh thank goodness (roughly translated as I don’t want to see the replies that find holes in my post...)

My boyfriend said the best sex he ever had was angry break up sex with his ex on the floor of their garage.

It was after they had split up.

Why would I feel threatened by that in any way? He’s with ME. he’s long split from her and it was break up sex.

Equally. My best sex was with a bloke I haven’t seen in years and wouldn’t shag again but the raw lust was powerful.

That doesn’t mean I don’t love my boyfriend and the sex with him is not good. The sex with him is great. It’s full of love and care and yes, lust, but it lacks the raw power of that experience. What it has is deeper and lasting and I wouldn’t swap for anything.

I can't understand them though

Why do you need to?

Indifference to number of people or best sex with someone doesn’t mean you dint love them.

Well, I'm think really this is the crux of the whole thing and I don't really agree.

Oh well.

People are different. I hope you find someone who meets your criteria, truly I do.

Well, I'm think really this is the crux of the whole thing and I don't really agree

You associate love and sex in a way I don’t. There’s nothing to understand or accept. Neither are right or wrong.

Lust and love are very different. That’s the crux of it for me.

My boyfriend said the best sex he ever had was angry break up sex with his ex on the floor of their garage.

Eh ?

What about that statement don’t you understand? The best sex he ever had was angry break up sex with his ex.

Why would I feel threatened by that?

I’m not going to break up with him. I’m not planning to anyway. And I’m most certainly nit going to shag him on the floor of the garage to prove a point. My back and his knees would never stand it.

So that statement is of no relevance to me. It matters not. I am completely indifferent to it.

I'm just surprised that riding someone you don't like on a cold concrete floor would be classed as better sex than anything he had had or could ever have with someone he actually loved. I remain of the position that I would be greatly offended by this statement.

My back and his knees would never stand it

I remain of the position that I would be greatly offended by this statement

Which is fine. That’s ok. But you now understand that other people wouldn’t be.

Why?

He had raw sex with someone he hated. Hate and love are opposite sides of the same coin.

Raw sex isn’t love sex.

I met DH at 19 and we've been together for 12 years and even my number is bigger than 5! Its nobody else's business.

Yes Jacques and you would also understand why I would not really believe or trust that such a person loved me.which is why I would not see them as a suitable partner.

well it’s jist as well I don’t think as you do.

Jacques - I could accept they felt that way but I wouldn't and do not understand or relate to it in anyway.

Yes Jacques and you would also understand why I would not really believe or trust that such a person loved me.which is why I would not see them as a suitable partner

Are all the times I’ve said, your opinion isn’t wrong for you not enough?

I’m not ascribing my POV to you. You do however do that to others.

lornar123

Why would you need to relate? Or understand?!

Oh FGS - I wouldn't want my boyfriend/husband to tell me about his amazing angry break up sex but it's ridiculous to be "surprised that riding someone you don't like on a cold concrete floor would be classed as better sex than anything he had had or could ever have with someone he actually loved".

Get real Lorna, you are 28.

Miri to be fair if he just came out with it bluntly I would have been taken aback at him choosing to blurt it out but it was part of a much wider discussion around the abuse he suffered from his ex.

mirialis I think you are the one who needs to get real my dear. You and I obviously have quite orthogonal ideas about what constitutes great sex.

Lornar there are as many different types of sex as there are stars in the sky.