To be shocked that HQ told me off for swearing?!?

[XXPowerShield]

Not a TAT but will probably be deleted shortly regardless!

Long standing mner (I remember when all this were fields).

The day before yesterday there was a pile on in a single parent thread. It went on and on, real shit sandwich meanness directed at the op. Lots of supportive posters telling the unsupportive sorts to back off and OP rightfully pointed out that there was a lot of good advice too. I pmd OP and decided to report all the crappy posts to HQ so hopefully by morning the OP would have a nice shiny supportive thread to wake up to.

I cut and pasted most of my reports which consisted of "wanker" or "nasty vicious fucker" and got as many as I could before going to bed. It was a pile on, there was a lot.

I got an email from MNHQ yesterday telling me off.

Here it is;

Hi there XXPowerShield,
Thanks for all your reports, we are going to look at that thread now. We might ask the favour, though, that in future you stick to reporting for guidelines that are being broken because while we have no objection to swearing on the boards, 30 or so curse-laden reports weren't that pleasant for our staff to start their day with.
Best,
Hope
MNHQ

I am shocked, in the past when I have apologised for overly verbose sweary reports I have been told not to worry, HQ love the swearing. AIBU to be a bit at this response? Some of my reports were deleted but loads left standing including such gems as -

knowing that you were in this situation with three kids you decided to have another with someone who was not a DH, a life partner, who was clearly not able to support his child and neither were you.

I'm amazed at how little thought many women put into having babies...often with men they hardly know.

You didn't have to have four children with two deadbeats.

I wouldn't say the system is set up to fail, I would say that being a single mother with four children is intrinsically a losing situation to be in

what I dont get is if they were all wanted how comes the fathers dont bother

you decided to have another child when you already had ...You've made your situation worse,

I wasn't the only one annoyed by the stirrers on the thread (but maybe the only one who reported a bunch of nasty vicious fuckers to HQ).

I weep for humanity after reading some of these replies. ...One question to the benefit bashers do you want to live in Dickensian Britain?

I feel like I have missed a memo but am currently composing my reply to HQ but really how does one respond to the phrase "curse-laden"?!?

I can't see any sweary posts in the ones you've quoted, just a viewpoint that differs from yours but that a lot of people might agree with. Having a different opinion to yours isn't a crime.

No, the OP swore a lot in her report to HQ, - they though it was unnecessary.

When OP reported the posts- in the "reason for report" box she wrote " wanker", " cunt" etc.

The posters themselves hadn't been swearing..

If you're reporting a poster for effectively being abusive towards someone on a thread, you kind of undermine your position if you use abusive language directed towards them whilst you report it! And you put the mods in the position of appearing to condone that abusive language by acting on the report.

All you need to do is quote which of the guidelines has been broken, from this list:

No personal attacks
No posts that break the law
No trolling, misleading or deliberately inflammatory behaviour
No trollhunting
No spamming

You've also confused lots of people on this thread with the wording of your OP, so maybe you do need to work on using your language skills more effectively in future :)

So when you said "Wanker" and "nasty vicious fucker" were you calling the people you were reporting those names, or were you quoting what part of their posts offended you?"

She was calling the posters of those posts she reported the names, which is a bit uneccessary when it's only being seen by mods.

Thanks for the clarification @Instacrumb.
I thought it was a bit off by MNHQ if she was merely quoting, but given what you've said then I fully agree with MNHQ that her language was unnecessary.

Better to give a reason (such as this poster has made a personal attack) than swearing 30 times, maybe. I've found MNHQ to be quite nice but then I don't swear if I report someone.

It's Friday night, get that reporting finger ready!