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To not share winnings with friend?

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flouiserain · 11/10/2018 14:37

Me and my friend went to the casino last night for a meal.
Every time I go I always give myself £20 to play on the slots.
My friend never puts money in herself but I always share,she says she doesn't have anything to put in (min stake is 50p ) but I always half winnings.
Once I won £750 and have her half.
Last night I put in the £20 and on my last spin won £40.
She proceeded to say I might as well withdraw the £40 and go halfys as it's better than loosing.
I said I wanted to play with the £40 as I would be back to where I started at £20.
She kicked off saying she could really use that £20 and I wouldn't win anyway.
Wibu here?

OP posts:
BlueJava · 12/10/2018 17:43

Don't go with her any more and that will fix the problem - with is her, not you! You won and kindly shared with her, very nice of you. That was once, not every time! She's more than cheeky but greedy.

Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 12/10/2018 17:45

It's almost guaranteed that you've lost more than you've won if you added up every time. But you're losing even more by giving her half.

You've been stupid. Time to stop giving her half.

PolarBearkshire · 12/10/2018 17:46

Hell no! There is no way I would give any of my winnings unless you both have contributed . Get rid of her

Earthakitty · 12/10/2018 17:52

This girl is not your friend.
She's a freeloading cheeky fucker.
Ditch her.

OliviaStabler · 12/10/2018 17:53

I know I've been stupid but now we are at a point and she expects it ..last night was the first time I said no and didn't go down well.

Trouble is you set a precedent. She expects it now. Might be a bit painful to stop the habit.

What's weird about going to the casino for a meal ? Food is lovely in my local one and such good offers

One casino I've been to the food is great and very reasonable. It keeps people there when the are hungry and, if they visit for the good value food and free token, they likely gamble more than the token you are given for free.

Mummyoflittledragon · 12/10/2018 17:55

You are a parent. That money could be spent on a meal our for your child. Or pocket money. Or an activity. You would be better to save the money you spend weekly toward a holiday away. £32 a week is over £130 a month.

Do you really win over a grand a year on the slot machines? I suspect not.

Mix56 · 12/10/2018 17:56

She has no money to lose......she doesn't risk anything.
She gets NO pay out.
Simple

oopslateagain · 12/10/2018 17:58

Serious question OP, what are you getting out of this deal? Do you enjoy the evening? Do you want to continue going out with this friend? I think she's got used to the whole thing and now sees it as a 'right' rather than you being very generous.

If you want to carry on with your casino nights with her, you either continue paying for her entry/food but keep all your winnings, because they are yours and not hers. Or give her £10 and you spend £10 for the casino and you each keep your winnings OR agree ahead of time to split anything.

I know other posters won't agree, but it depends on how much you value this friendship and how much you want to carry on with this arrangement. You just need to nip the 'entitlement' in the bud and make it crystal clear that you're doing her a big favour by giving her a night out as a treat.

Thisreallyisafarce · 12/10/2018 17:59

She is scabeous. Avoid her like a plague pit.

mumtoanangel · 12/10/2018 17:59

Does she give you half if you lose !!! She's being a c f.shes onto a good thing.yanbu

Doesntlooklikeanythingtome · 12/10/2018 18:02

She’s dependent on you for company, food, outing and now occasional money. This is bad. What started as a kind gesture has turned her into a grabby cow and you need to stop supporting her and this behaviour. You have a child and could be using that money for their future... football lessons, after school clubs, trips to children’s theatre. What a shame! I’d cool the friendship and focus on your family.

Nanalisa60 · 12/10/2018 18:03

Give her half!! Not worth losing a frend over!!

DesdemonasHandkerchief · 12/10/2018 18:03

You obviously don't want to lose her friendship so I'd profess a desire to ditch the gambling habit and chose other venues for your nights out. (You can always go to the casino with other friends or alone.) If she still behaves as though she's entitled to your money ditch the CF.

Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 12/10/2018 18:06

@Nanalisa60

A friend who only remains friendly when she's getting money is not a friend. It's very much worth losing her if that's what she's like.

DesdemonasHandkerchief · 12/10/2018 18:06

Nanalisa she's not 'a friend' if she's behaving in this way!

stayathomer · 12/10/2018 18:07

OP it is so nice of you and when you explained why (her not able to work not having money etc) that's even lovelier but you even said you don't know how this because a regular occurrence. She assumes now that this is a given and that you are subsidising her (she said she needs that money). You need to start going for walks or something free for a while then if you go back to casino (and I can see why you don't want to lose her, people are quick to say get rid of but a good friend is a good friend, they may not be perfect but she may be good in other ways) and ask can you go half or something, I don't know, but she needs to learn. This sounds so patronising ut I hate to think of someone assuming that you'll subsidise them indefinitely, you've done so much for her. How did you leave it after the argument/during the argument? (apologies if I missed this!) And as the others said, it is so rare that something is so unanimous on MN!!!!

0hCrepe · 12/10/2018 18:10

Of course it’s your money but I guess she doesn’t see it as real money. She tags along while you make both of you some free cash to have fun with.
Also I don’t understand why you would go gambling with someone who didn’t have any money! So they just watch you lose or win, pocket the cash and go home? Fun! You did set a bit of a precedent that first time I think.

Ginseng1 · 12/10/2018 18:20

Why go gambling with someone has no money in the first place? Sure you can find a nice midweek dinner for £12 elsewhere & nip this in the bud & salvage the friendship if you both want to. Treat her to a meal now n then if you want to & can afford it but don't complain then that she 'expects' that too & gets annoyed if you ever suggest going halves!

Oscarsdaddy · 12/10/2018 18:23

Why take someone to a casino that doesn’t have any money to spend and then split any winnings. Tell you what, next time you go I’ll come on that basis 😜

sniggy11 · 12/10/2018 18:32

Why on earth have you been splitting it all this time?!
If the ante is only your money, then the winnings are yours too.
You are way too generous and she is taking advantage!

celticprincess · 12/10/2018 18:33

Maybe you should show her this thread.

jesapey · 12/10/2018 18:37

Give her half!! Not worth losing a frend over!!
Are you the friend? Wink if a "friend" ditches you because you won't act like an atm for them, they're not a real friend anyway

lalaloopyhead · 12/10/2018 18:39

This is insane. I could understand it if you both spent the same and then agreed to halve all winnings.

Also she ends up better of than you, you take home your £20 stake and she goes home £20 up - she needs a maths lesson apart from anything else - best case scenario she should take home a tenner, half the profits! Though I think you are being far too general giving her half the winnings every time when she doesn't contribute to the deal in anyway.

Have you tried explaining this to her?

Billben · 12/10/2018 18:40

Give her half!! Not worth losing a frend over!!

This “friend” IS worth losing 🙄

AGHHHH · 12/10/2018 18:43

@Nanalisa60 it's ok the OP can go to her nearest Tesco and make friends with the cashpoint there instead.

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