To not share winnings with friend?

[flouiserain]

Me and my friend went to the casino last night for a meal.
Every time I go I always give myself £20 to play on the slots.
My friend never puts money in herself but I always share,she says she doesn't have anything to put in (min stake is 50p ) but I always half winnings.
Once I won £750 and have her half.
Last night I put in the £20 and on my last spin won £40.
She proceeded to say I might as well withdraw the £40 and go halfys as it's better than loosing.
I said I wanted to play with the £40 as I would be back to where I started at £20.
She kicked off saying she could really use that £20 and I wouldn't win anyway.
Wibu here?

[Kate0902900908]

If you and friend are both betting equally then all winnings are shared 50% so it’s like you both have a double chance of winning something

If 1 isn’t betting then it’s no shares. Simple.

It seems she piggy backing off you
I wouldn’t go with her again

[Twym886192]

YANBU - you are uber generous especially with the £750 winnings.
Also, what is CF because in my head I translate is as c**t face? lol Was I close?

[Mydogsanasshole]

Lol.... cheeky fucker!!

[Ignoramusgiganticus]

If you enjoy the night out, continue going but set your boundaries. Definitely don't split your winnings.

[Jaxhog]

Is this a reverse?

If so, then no, you get quite enough from your friend. Sharing her winnings is too much, and not the act of a real friend.

If not, then paying for her is quite enough. Unless she puts something into the stake she has no right to expect a return!

[Lindy2]

Why would you share your winnings when she will never have winnings to share with you? What an odd thing for you to have started.
I can see why she now assumes you will give her money but really you need to be less of a pushover and explain that as she never puts in any money you can no longer afford to give her yours.

[Itsnotme123]

It’s mad.. tell her you’re not going anymore to the casino and go by yourself .

[Duck90]

Letting her take turns with the slot, confuses things. She could argue that it was her moves that won the money.

Stop letting play your game. It would be cheaper for you to give her £5 to sit at her own machine. She can then split her winnings with you.

[jessebuni]

I feel for you OP. i can see why you would feel like you should share but no.

I have a close friend that has significantly more money than me and often suggests we go for meals etc. Often she does pay but I always either if money is bad that week and I genuinely can’t afford anything then I say this and just say “sorry bills are high this week maybe another week” often she will say “no let’s go anyway it’s my treat” and I thank her very gratefully. Or if I do have some money she still try’s to always pay but I always always always offer to pay my share of the bill. Like 80% of the time she refuses to take it but I always offer because I never want my friend to feel like I am the CF just being friends with her because she has money. I will do other things like make a meal at home for us or bake cakes or even just grab a takeaway lunch and turn up at her door to try and reciprocate.

Your friend says she has no money, I don’t know whether you know that as a solid fact or whether she may have potentially exaggerated that or not but either way, you feel a bit bad. You want to include her and treat her. That is lovely. If I was on a night out and won some money I’d probably use some of the money to buy the drinks for the friend or friends I was with possibly the food too depending how much I won but I wouldn’t just be handing over the cash. I mean unless I won some serious serious money then I’d probably share. The problem here is that you’re already paying for the food etc. So she’s having a meal out and often gaining free money by going out with you. Which she has made look deliberate and cheeky now that she has gotten put out when you didn’t want to share your winnings on this occasion. I would personally have a chat with her and say that you don’t mind occasionally paying for a meal out for you both when she can’t afford it but that you won’t be sharing your winnings because you are already paying for her meal and drinks. It you can’t do that then I think you need to find a new place to eat or a new friend to go to casino with.

[MadMadaMim]

She's inadvertently given you the perfect opportunity to change the set up

I'd tell her that last night's event made you realise you need clear agreement on gambling. If she wants to join in - pool resources. Even just £5,then you're happy to also put in £5 and pool and gamble together with winning shared out.

Going forward, however you will no longer be sharing your personal winnings as last night's event was a bit eye opening as you hadn't realised she expected half. Up to then, you'd always thought of it as your choice to share, which you were happy to do. As it's clearly not that for her, you want to be clear and fair and not feel under pressure when you want to continue having fun WITH YOUR OWN MONEY AND WINNINGS so it's best to state up front - you won't be sharing from now on.

It should shut her up and you'll see if she's as good a friend as you think.

Hopefully, she is

[NotMyNameButHereForever]

OP When you said no, you say she kicked off - what did she actually say? Please, I need to know the details here as I'm struggling to picture it??!

Separately, another Q - did she genuinely want you to give her £20 of the £40 win? As in, she gets £20 pure profit/'win' and you get your £20 stake back/zero win. Her £20 up, you cash-neutral. Does she actually understand that?

[ToftyAC]

Jesus OP, your “mate” is a proper CF for expecting anything. Your money, your call and she can neb off.

[Josiebloggs]

She had a free meal/night out on you and she still expected all your winnings. If you were in a relationship with this person people would be telling you they were financially abusing you.
You need to stop this now, tell her you can no longer afford the casino and cinema and ask her if she would like to do something free or very very low cost twice a week. Can she come to yours for a games night or the local pub where you each buy your own soft drinks for the night. I think within a month or two her expectations of your friendship will be evident.

[PenelopeFlintstone]

YWNBU but she most definitely was.

[Booie09]

I think you sound like a great friend but I think she is taking advantage of you! Does her partner work? If so could she not use some of their/his money to go out? You are a single parent you could use your winnings on your child. I would knock the casino on the head and have a look at 2 for 1 meals on the internet if you still wanted to go out with her! Personally I would feel uncomfortable if my friend paid for everything on a night out.

[Ohheyyy]

Gobsmacked. Your friend is a cf of the highest order.

[MrDonut]

Just don't go to the casino with her anymore. She can't afford it and you shouldn't be paying for her all the time.

[ilovechocolate07]

This seems like what started as a kind gesture has spun out if control. You don't owe her any part of winnings. I do wonder why someone would go to a casino if they have no money though.

[beanaseireann]

If your 'friend' can't afford it, why is she going to a casino fgs ?

[browneyes77]

WTAF?????

So let me get this straight. You two go out to the casino. You play the machines etc and she doesn’t, just sits and watches and you let her pull the lever a few times. And then when you win you give her half of YOUR money? For absolutely no reason at all? You just hand half of your winnings over to her when she hasn’t contributed a penny towards the game you were playing? So you’ve given her half your money just for pulling a lever?

And now you’ve finally said no to giving YOUR money away to her for free, she’s having a strop?

This has got to be the epitome of cheeky fuckery.

OP - your friend is not a real friend. She is a freeloading, selfish, cheeky fucker. And if you lose your friendship with her over this I would say it’s no great hardship as nobody needs friends like this.

Totally gobsmacked

[Icanttakemuchmore]

I'd give her £2 next time you go and say 'there you go, that's for your bet, and maybe next time she'll pay it herself.

[TAMS71]

I guess you're kind of renting a friend, she probably wouldn't go if you didn't do this. The way she probably sees it is that she kept her end of the unspoken bargain and you should keep yours... warped as it is...

Find another friend and do non-gambling activities with this one if you want to have her as a genuine friend

[confusedmomm]

Noooo. Why would you be sharing?! Does she share the losses to or just get cash when you win? I just wouldn't go casino with her anymore tbh

[KeiTeNgeNge]

You need to end this!

[confusedmomm]

It's all right if say you win & you buy some drinks or food for the both w part of the winnings. But giving cash out, what for?! Why?