To not share winnings with friend?

[flouiserain]

Me and my friend went to the casino last night for a meal.
Every time I go I always give myself £20 to play on the slots.
My friend never puts money in herself but I always share,she says she doesn't have anything to put in (min stake is 50p ) but I always half winnings.
Once I won £750 and have her half.
Last night I put in the £20 and on my last spin won £40.
She proceeded to say I might as well withdraw the £40 and go halfys as it's better than loosing.
I said I wanted to play with the £40 as I would be back to where I started at £20.
She kicked off saying she could really use that £20 and I wouldn't win anyway.
Wibu here?

Tell her to fuck off the cheeky cow

I'd never let a friend do that for me.
I have a guilt switch.
I'd feel sick at the thought.

Please stop this.

I knew you weee paying for the food aswell!
Why not knock it on the head for a few weeks and see what she says?

If she texts 'fancy and night out' text back 'you paying, I'm skinny?'and see what she says!'

OP can you please answer the question as to whether there is a big difference in income between you and your friend and also whether she pays for other things for you or does you big favours like taking your child to school and minding him afterwards?

I was going to say an offer to pay for the meal when you win would be more than enough but then I read you pay for that anyway.

Sounds like she's just using you.
When I went to the casino with family my cousin won big, we didn't get a share, didn't expect a share either.

She doesn't work and I do.
I'm not on a huge income but enough so I have spare cash for a few nice things a month.
She tells me after she's paid her rent to her mum and her credit card bills she has £25 a fortnight to last.
I felt bad I guess.

Also me and other friends go on nights away/shopping trips quite often and I know this bothered her as she couldn't do it.
I just wanted her to know she was still as important as my other friends.

@flouiserain 6 pages in (I'm on mobile app) and it's that virtually unheard of unanimous MN AIBU thread.

I'm also totally shocked at the cheek of your DFriend

Unless you stole her inheritance, I too cannot fathom why you would share your winnings with her. Or more importantly why she would demand that you do!

You're paying for her meal and taking her to cinema each week (why?) with voucher that comes with it. Gambling winnings should only be shared when you both put down equal stakes. She's lucky you let her watch if she never plays with any of her money.

But most of all, I am at a loss to understand why your DFriend would accept this inbalance if she was a genuine friend? There is something askew with this friendship and if you don't draw a line that she doesn't take advantage of your good nature', you're going to lose the friendship anyway or maybe have.

Right now You= free meal, 2 free nights out (cinema and casino), zero cost to her + free money bonuses , she keeps ignoring all the money you've laid out every week (including when you haven't won) when she takes half of your winnings.

Really you want You= nice equal fun time together without any payment

Take another friend OP, not this one. See this CF'friend' at a bar and let her buy her own drinks.

Please stop equating your company with constant free money & no return kindness, as it's spoiling (or has spoilt) your friendship. Her behaviour last week was evidence of that.

Ah, cross posted OP. You've explained she doesn't work and has very limited money to live on.
So you want to take her out.

Really though you could go to cheaper night out. And there's still no reason to share your winnings.

Ermmmm @flouiserain

That was a mahoooosive dripfeed.

This sounds less a genuine post now, as the fact she's unemployed (single??) and has low income is hugely relevant when you're taking her to a casino.

Yes but she is getting a free meal, drink and cinema! She shouldnt feel entitled to half the winnings too! Is that not enough?!

Well it is a genuine post ..
Someone asked about incomes and I told them,also she isn't single.

You sound like a mug, a lovely mug though But she us clearly using you, it's not a nice realisation I appreciate especially after you have been so nice to her but you need to stop this. You can still do things with her but do free stuff, walks, coffee at one of your homes. I really think you should stop paying for anything with her, I fear after a few weeks she'll start being busy or not bothered and you won't see as much of her.

Can I ask why she doesn't work?

I think possibly the weirdest thing about this is going to the casino for a meal.. wtf

I best not say why she doesn't work incase I get accused of drip feeding again and it's probably not my place to say.

What's weird about going to the casino for a meal ? Food is lovely in my local one and such good offers

I would never give her half!! If she wants half she needs to bloody play herself the absolute sod!

I’m sure it’s alright but it’s a bit like going to a prostitute for a cuddle, does the job but not what they’re there for!

Ha ha Nixen that made me laugh

If you can afford and want to treat her to a night out, then pick somewhere other than a casino. Go to the casino with friends who contribute equally or can gamble with their own money.
You’re obviously a kind person, but as you are starting to resent the evening you need to change what you do with this friend.

You're very generous and it seems like she's taking advantage of your generousity. Stop it now.

I meant really does she not work through choice? Supporting a friend and giving them a treat while they look for work is totally different to being sponged off by someone who can't be arsed to work.

She's not single, lives at home, no mention of kids so I just wondered why, unless she can't actually work for some reason (very possible of course) then why she's not working and not paying her way is very relevant, you don't have to say here of course, but it is something you need to factor

If you like her, like spending time with her and can afford to treat her then just change where you take her. If she cant work and really only had £25 over 2 weeks her view of money will be very difficult /desperate. That said this is always going to be a friendship that will need firm boundaries as she will probably take the piss financially if you let her

'Hi Cheeky Fucker, just been thinking about last night and have realised you assumed I'd share as I had done all the other times. But I have been paying for the meals/tickets for all our nights out so I feel that has been more than generous of me and that me sharing winnings is not something I will be continuing unless you want to go halves on the whole night then that of course would be fairer'

Op you don’t want to upset her or lose her friendship. But she doesn’t seem to extend the same courtesy to you. She is actually risking upsetting you and losing the friendship by expecting you to just give her money. Income difference is irrelevant.

You can never expect someone better off than you to bankroll you. If they explicitly and freely really want to, then you can accept it with a lot of thanks. But actually expecting and demanding it with minimal if any thanks is totally different.