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Husband has blocked me on social media?!

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LondonMummy1987 · 11/10/2018 14:30

Apologies in advance if I'm just being incredibly stupid or naive or paranoid! I'm not sure if i'm mad and unreasonable or not!

So I have just gone to upload a photo onto instagram, and tag my husband in it as it is a picture of our sons. I couldn't tag him.
I thought maybe he has deleted his instagram account (despite the fact that he uses it alot) so I searched for him and it came up that the account is private and I need to request to follow. (I couldn't see anything, not his bio or how many photos/followers he has)
I then logged out of insta and searched for him, and it came up that the account is private but did state how many posts/followers he has, as well as his bio.

The bio is another worry. It used to say "happily married father of two", now it just says "father of two".

Am I wrong to worry?! I don't know what to do. I haven't confronted him as we are both at work and he will just change it and make me out to be a nutter!

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Mingmoo · 11/10/2018 21:25

If OP thinks her marriage is about to end she's very wise to get herself sorted out with all her paperwork and access to finances to tide herself/her family over. That's just good advice for anyone in the same situation. People behave badly over money, no matter what has gone before - wills, property sales and divorces cause the worst rows and the worst behaviour. At the moment there's no concrete evidence but there's plenty to make you wary. It's like taking out insurance for a holiday. She might not need to have done all her organising for a life without him, but then again she might.

Aridane · 11/10/2018 21:35

yummy Grin

eelbecomingforyou · 11/10/2018 21:45

Why have you posted identical messages on here and netmums, op?!

NotTheFordType · 11/10/2018 21:46

You haven't updated OP and hopefully you're having a constructive conversation.

I suspect he's trying to baffle you with bullshit. Check ALL dating and hookup sites, and ask him to hand his phone over and unlock it without any wanky "let me think about it" crap that would allow him to delete anything incriminating.

ButchyRestingFace · 11/10/2018 21:47

Why have you posted identical messages on here and netmums, op?!

She wants a lorra, lorra support?

eelbecomingforyou · 11/10/2018 21:47

@busyBarbara has some very odd ideas. BusyB is probably a bloke...

treezylover · 11/10/2018 21:48

PM me his account and I’ll see if he’ll add me. I’m not much of a looker but I can try.

eelbecomingforyou · 11/10/2018 21:49

Butchy - thanks for that, Cilla! 😂 surely she has enough support here?!

busybarbara · 11/10/2018 21:50

@busyBarbara has some very odd ideas. BusyB is probably a bloke...

Because I reckon it's paranoid to think a "bloke" (a word I'd expect a man to use if ever there were one, tbf) changing his bio on a social network means he must be cheating.. okay.. Confused

ButchyRestingFace · 11/10/2018 21:53

Butchy - thanks for that, Cilla! 😂 surely she has enough support here?!

Now, now, don't be like that. It's no reflection on us... Perhaps OP has posted to FB, Twitter and Instagram too? Wink

The more people singing from the same song sheet, the better?

icannotthinkofauser · 11/10/2018 21:53

@eelbecomingforyou maybe OP uses both forums and wanted advice from both

gamerchick · 11/10/2018 21:54

@busyBarbara has some very odd ideas. BusyB is probably a bloke...

Well, it does cross the mind, especially since they haven't clarified. Or they like to be contrary for the shits and giggles Confused

LikeARockhopper · 11/10/2018 21:56

This all sounds very fishy by DH. Even my DH thinks so, and he's usually v chilled about social media...

SymphonyofShadows · 11/10/2018 21:58

The OP is married to the guy and presumably speaks to him now and again. There are more rational courses of action available to the OP, like talking to her husband for example.

Yes, because men never gaslight and lie do they?

busybarbara · 11/10/2018 22:00

Hmm "Clarify"? So by typing "Mais non, mon cheri, I really am a woman! Anal at Center Parcs and all that!" then that clears everything up? Haha.

If we're going down that route of random observations being correct until disproven, then you're a caterpillar. Now I expect you to clarify that you aren't Grin

wheresthehope · 11/10/2018 22:30

Op where you gone?!

Mummyundecided · 11/10/2018 22:31

Hope you are ok, OP.

showmewhatyougot · 11/10/2018 22:41

Does not sound great, but never know there may be an innocent excuse.

Hope your ok op x

Fiveletters · 11/10/2018 22:42

Seems very suspicious. Hope you get some answers.

RainbowsArePretty · 11/10/2018 22:49

I would be suspicious. Have you spoken to him yet?

ThorsMistress · 11/10/2018 22:50

I wouldn’t be happy at all and would question it.

The fact he’s deleted all friends and family and also your sister on Twitter would have me asking serious questions.

Hope you get some answers Flowers

19lottie82 · 11/10/2018 22:52

The change in bio is definitely WTF?!

TheMoonShinesGreen · 11/10/2018 23:01

Huge red flags OP Sad Hope you're okay, good luck!

civicxx · 11/10/2018 23:21

Oh gosh, this doesnt sound great im sorry OP.
The hightening of security fair enough but like youve said you were linked to his account previously so any change shouldnt effect you. Hope you have got some answers this evening xxx

Yonijust · 11/10/2018 23:26

Dont bail too soon.

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