Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Husband has blocked me on social media?!

291 replies

LondonMummy1987 · 11/10/2018 14:30

Apologies in advance if I'm just being incredibly stupid or naive or paranoid! I'm not sure if i'm mad and unreasonable or not!

So I have just gone to upload a photo onto instagram, and tag my husband in it as it is a picture of our sons. I couldn't tag him.
I thought maybe he has deleted his instagram account (despite the fact that he uses it alot) so I searched for him and it came up that the account is private and I need to request to follow. (I couldn't see anything, not his bio or how many photos/followers he has)
I then logged out of insta and searched for him, and it came up that the account is private but did state how many posts/followers he has, as well as his bio.

The bio is another worry. It used to say "happily married father of two", now it just says "father of two".

Am I wrong to worry?! I don't know what to do. I haven't confronted him as we are both at work and he will just change it and make me out to be a nutter!

OP posts:
Olderbyaminute · 11/10/2018 17:22

Good luck however this issue is resolved

beeefcake · 11/10/2018 17:25

Could you make a fake Twitter account to see what he's been posting/who he is interacting with? That's what I would do. Start looking for evidence.

ApolloandDaphne · 11/10/2018 17:34

Sounds very worrying. Hope you get some resolution tonight.

ShadowHuntress · 11/10/2018 17:37

As a pp has said, the fact that he's blocked you so brazenly, knowing you will find out, means he wants you to know. He’s just waiting for you to notice. There can’t be any other reason for it and he knows you will definitely realise you’re blocked. Obviously it’s your decision, but I would be getting my ducks in a row and maybe doing some digging of my own before confronting him. You need to be prepared and have a plan of what you’ll do if he has actually been cheating. I feel for you, I’ve been there. In my case he was messaging and hooking up with several other women behind my back. He told me he must of blocked me accidentally and then told me there was a problem with his settings and he couldn’t re-add me. All sorts of excuses he honestly thought I would believe! What a plonker

BetsyBigNose · 11/10/2018 17:44

I'm really surprised by all the people encouraging you to catfish him, OP... This is your marriage you're talking about, not a game.

I understand that you have previously experienced 'gas lighting' from him, but I would certainly be planning on starting off by having a conversation with him. Obviously you know the current state of your marriage and how likely or not it is that he will tell you the truth, but if you're already approaching the thought of bringing up this issue with him with the mindset that he's going to lie to you, then that tells you an awful lot about the level of trust in your relationship - and as we all know; trust is essential in a marriage.

I truly hope that there will turn out to be an innocent explanation, but I would be approaching him directly to discuss the issue rather than playing games with fake profiles.

Flowers
Duskqueen · 11/10/2018 17:46

Is there anyway you could get his phone and lock yourself in the bathroom, or do you know his passwords so you can log onto his account? I doubt he will actually tell you outright if he is cheating.

Rosegoldlilly · 11/10/2018 19:08

Have you confronted him OP?

GrandTheftWalrus · 11/10/2018 19:16

Doesn't look good OP.

FilledSoda · 11/10/2018 19:24

Sit tight for the time being, he'll trip himself up.

SymphonyofShadows · 11/10/2018 19:40

I don't see it as catfishing at all. It's merely information gathering and it's his actions that have forced this.

FullTimeYummy · 11/10/2018 19:49

In no way have his actions "forced" the OP to impersonate somebody else

The OP is married to the guy and presumably speaks to him now and again. There are more rational courses of action available to the OP, like talking to her husband for example.

MamaOfTwoBoys · 11/10/2018 19:57

Hope you're ok OP, and manage to get some answers soon Thanks

Persiangirl · 11/10/2018 19:58

Very, very suspicious. Other than this social media rejection how are things? Feel for you x

1moreRep · 11/10/2018 20:06

i wouldn't show y hand too soon, make sure you get your cards in order first

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 11/10/2018 20:06

Hope you're okay OP.

SpankTheMonkey · 11/10/2018 20:15

OP he does sound like he is up to no good.

You want proof? Set up a honey trap

PeasAreGreat · 11/10/2018 20:19

Oh no OP! Doesn't sound good. Hope all is ok Thanks

Bluntness100 · 11/10/2018 20:19

It's always like this on these threads, make like James Bond and play games.

Just bloody confront him. He's done it knowing she will know. She doesn't need to lock herself in thr toilet or any other such crap.

GlitteryFluff · 11/10/2018 20:29

Sorry OPThanks
There's no reasonable explanation.
Hope you're as ok as you can be.

ginandnappies · 11/10/2018 20:30

He's not blocked you. He's made his account private. You have to request to follow.

Secretsquirrel101 · 11/10/2018 20:31

It doesn’t sound good to be honest OP Sad hope you’re doing as well as can be hoped, thinking of you Flowers

Mehaveit · 11/10/2018 20:34

I hope you're having a conversation with him right now and working everything out Flowers

AnotherDayAnotherDollarRight · 11/10/2018 20:37

Whatever he is doing he wants to be found out.

sadkoala · 11/10/2018 20:37

Hope it goes ok for you op

MrsChristianTrevelyanGrey · 11/10/2018 20:38

Oh op it doesn't sound great and I think you know that, I hope you can get some answers from him and either way sort it Thanks

Swipe left for the next trending thread